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8 Interesting Reasons to Date Someone from Another Country

8 Interesting Reasons to Date Someone from Another Country

When you date someone from another country, it can be exciting, confusing, educational and adventurous. I consider it a relationship with many added bonuses. Whether your partner speaks the same language or grew up on the same continent as you doesn’t change some of the significant patterns you’ll experience. There are some really wonderful things about dating someone from another country along with obstacles. The horizon goes further in a cross cultural relationship.

1. Romantic Experience

You know that your feelings are true when you date someone from another country. You are both taking risks one way or another to be with each other. Maybe there’s people that don’t understand, family members that miss you while you’re away or issues with visas. When you fall in love with someone from another country, there are lengths you have to take to stay together. You take on different views of a relationship as you not only work on your feelings together but also legalities of being together.

Bringing someone home to your country is a big responsibility with an even larger romantic gesture attached to it. You have to either dedicate yourself to the person or say goodbye and potentially never see them again. In most relationship, love is tested by the normal day-to-day problems. A relationship with someone from a different country can mean separation beyond your control at times. Later on, there may be big choices to make in order to be together. Spousal sponsorship or marriage show each other that you’re dedicated.

2. You Learn A Lot About Yourself

As a native English speaker, I didn’t think my language would pose a problem anywhere in the world. Actually, if I’m honest, I didn’t think too much about the world outside of the town I grew up in. Although I traveled abroad, until I dated someone from another country, I wasn’t truly tested until I fell in love with someone who’s native tongue was not the same as mine. Going to his country helped me develop a lot as a person as I became involved in his community.

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Going to another country to stay or live for a long period of time will change you in positive ways. You become educated about the world and how you fit it in as you immerse yourself in a brand new culture. You become more courageous as you head to the grocery store and attempt navigating through aisles of foreign foods.

3. Teaching of Cultures and Language

You will likely have too much to talk about to ever get bored with one another. When you date someone from another country, you and your partner have plenty to discuss about your language or culture. Customs you experienced as a child are likely much different than their own. You can impress even the biggest food connoisseur by barbecuing gourmet burgers on an open fire. Carving a pumpkin with your partner who comes from a country that doesn’t celebrate Halloween brings a funner element to an old pass time.

Someone from Europe will likely get educated for one career and stick to it while a North American will have many jobs and careers over their life. This can make your European partner consider what other career goals they might like to pursue in life or they can teach you to be more settled. As you talk to one another about the views you have based on your culture, you both learn a lot.

4. Learning of Cultures and Language

When your partner teaches you about their culture, you learn a lot about them. It’s been a mystery in the past on how to get inside the mind of your significant other. They will unknowingly unlock the secrets to who they are and why when they explain their upbringing and childhood.

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You learn how not to insult them or their cultural beliefs as they open up to religious and political views. You also learn what your partner’s values are. They may come from a culture where eating horse meat, lung and heart is really normal. It may never be something you’ll indulge in but you will learn why they eat it and respect their reasons.

5. Acceptance of Your Differences

Relationships are hard enough with misunderstandings and difference of opinions. Imagine dating someone from another country who was brought up by parents that had to go through a war. My experience is that in Germany, I have had to find a strength in me I didn’t know I had. The German culture is tough and they work hard.

Where I come from, people are really nice but it’s often not legitimate. We ask strangers how they’re doing, but we don’t really care. Here in Germany, when you ask someone how they’re doing, they’ll tell you straight up for most of the morning. You don’t ask what you don’t want to know. There’s a certain honesty here. If someone is nice to you, they really like you.

6. Exotic Experience

Falling in love is an adventure on it’s own but falling when you date someone from another country and fall in love, it increases the love buzz exponentially. Being told “I love you” in another language will give you the shivers. The way your partner expresses love and shows it is likely different than anything you’ve experienced. It can be like falling in love for the first time as everything is new.

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Love is about discovering each other and it’s much more interesting to discover someone that is different from you on many levels.

7. Even Fights are a Learning Experience

When you’re arguing with your partner, you have to consider what you’re saying before you say it in the event their language is different than yours. Often, even if you have a heated argument, it gets interrupted because someone has said a word or phrase that the other doesn’t understand.

You tend to be more conscious about what you say when you have a disagreement. It can take some time to reach deep understanding, but you’ll constantly learn lessons.

8. Tourist in Both Countries

If you’re visiting your partner’s home country, they’ll show you interesting attractions. You get an insider tour of real living in their country that you probably wouldn’t get as a general tourist. You’ll be introduced to festivals, traditions and a totally new cuisine.

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In return, when your partner comes to your country you can play tour guide. You’ll probably take them to places you’ve never been yourself. This is a great way to share experiences and take adventures as you show each other your back yards.

Featured photo credit: Love Lock ~ Paris, France/ Dustin Gaffke via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 17, 2019

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

Listen carefully:

We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

1. Pray Daily

You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

3. Smile Often

Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

4. Organize Your Working Desk

A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

How do you do that? This is my formula:

First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

8. Go Exercise

Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

The Bottom Line

It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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