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17 Mindset Twists To Have This Year (That Can Make You Much Happier)

17 Mindset Twists To Have This Year (That Can Make You Much Happier)

Happiness is a journey and getting those things you want is dependent on the mindset you have to obtaining them. A great year it should be for you, but are you willing to take a chance on improving your mindset and be happier? Here are 17 mindset twists that will certainly make you happier before the end of the year.

1. Become more productive

Focus on productivity. Think of doing more in less time and performing less action. There are productivity tools and hacks that can help you achieve this.

2. Don’t procrastinate, act!

Don’t procrastinate. Do what is necessary to make what you want happen. The best time to start is now. Instead of making excuses and complaining, act!

3. Spending too much time on social media

Social media can be a burner. Yes you want to listen to the gossips and know what is happening with your friends. But if you want to be happier learn to say no to social media. It will save you any bruise on your self-esteem and keep you interacting with the real world instead.

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4. Taking yourself too seriously

Yes you will make mistakes. You cannot be perfect and don’t expect this, but always focus on what you can learn from your past errors.

5. Talk positive to yourself

Expect the best and never the worst. You should know that such will only give you the confidence you need to actualize those things you desire.

6. Learn to say no

A lot of things will catch your eye and want to take your energy. But your mindset should be focused on getting more out of less rather than less out of more. So say no to the things that are exhaustive and do not steer you towards your major goals.

7. Be consistent

There is no point in dilly-dallying. Follow any course of action to the end. Be consistent and solid.

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8. Choose growth

Don’t feel weighed down by criticisms or let downs. Think of how you will grow from a setback or a failure rather than allowing it to pull you down.

9. Take charge

Be responsible for those things you can control. And your life or the direction you to take with it is your number one responsibility.

10. Prioritize

Do the things that matter. Being organized adds to your self-esteem and helps you stay productive.

11. Appreciate yourself

Learn to know your strengths and weaknesses. Know what you can take, your limitations and how far you can go.

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12. Be realistic

There is nothing wrong with aiming high. Yet make sure you can achieve whatever you set out to do. Better to reach a goal than live one of mere wishes.

13. Visualize

Think of where you are going to and visualize success at it. Imagine or see yourself reaching these goals you have set out to accomplish.

14. Be tolerant

Any feedback should be listened to or taken in constructively. Do not throw away what may lead to personal improvement.

15. Seek support

Seek support from friends, family and colleagues. You cannot enjoy or be happy alone, you need constant connections to attain happiness.

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16. Be result focused

Think of how to make the best out of a challenging situation. Don’t think or dwell on problems, rather dwell on solutions and how to get out of a tight corner. Navigate possibilities, strategize and apply new techniques.

17. Disengage

Disengage, take breaks, and find time to enjoy moments with your friends, family and yourself. You can only be happier when you disconnect from the drama of work and technology every now and then. This gives you time to focus and perceive what is around you. Besides you are able to offer yourself the clarity you deserve in the process.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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