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7 Amazing Things Happen When You Call Your Grandparents Once A Week

7 Amazing Things Happen When You Call Your Grandparents Once A Week

Christmas. Birthdays. Announcements. These are all the times that most people speak to their grandparents.

Even if you have a grandparent on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, they probably do not feature heavily in your social life, despite being at the center of it. This needs to change, and it needs to change now.

Your grandparents are an incredible resource. They are a gift that most people leave unopened because they think that they cannot relate to them. The reality is that this is not true. In fact, your grandparents are probably some of the realest, most relatable people that you know.

Calling your grandparents once a week can change both of your lives. Here are just seven amazing things that will happen when you pick up the phone.

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You’ll Improve Your Relationships

Most people go to friends, the internet, or acquaintances when looking for relationship advice. It makes sense. You can find people who are going through the same things that you are. There is solidarity in that. It makes dating and mating a lot less scary.

However, why go to someone else who is struggling when you can go to someone who is already out the other side? Your grandparents know how it feels to lose a friend, break up with a partner, and be abused by a mean boss. They also know how to deal with it. When you ask your grandma how to improve your relationships, you might be surprised how spot on she is.

You’ll Make Someone Else Happy

Your grandparents want to hear from you. When you call, it makes them happy to know that you thought of them.

Calling your grandparents for the fun of it is a practical exercise in doing something to make someone else happy that has little to no tangible benefits for you (besides making you happy, too). This is a skill that is underdeveloped, underutilized, and could help you make the world a better place.

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You’ll Learn More About Your Family

Chances are, you do not know that much about your family. Sure, your great-great-someone arrived here from Germany at some point in history. However, this is not what it means to know your family.

Whether you like it or not, part of your personality was shaped by your family. If only by proximity, they were the closest people to you growing up. There is no one better to tell you more about your family than your grandparents. They saw it all, even if they pretend they didn’t.

You’ll Learn More About Yourself

Learning more about your family is a great way to learn more about yourself. Understanding why you are the way you are is the first step on the road to self-improvement, which your grandparents will tell you never ends.

Getting to know yourself is not an individual journey, you can use the wisdom and guidance of those who have done it before to guide you.

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You’ll Learn What It Really Means to Struggle

When you’re in the depths of a serious struggle, it feels like you are alone. It can also feel like it is the hardest thing in the world. Both of those feelings compound how bad you already feel and can make some difficulties even harder.

Your grandparents know what it really means to struggle. Not because they did not have a Sprint signal booster to make calls or because they fought unspeakable wars, they know what it means to struggle because throughout their lives, they have struggled a lot. What is more important, is that they made it through to the other side and have the benefit of perspective.

Perspective is often not what you want when you are fighting an uphill battle, but sometimes it is exactly what you need.

You’ll Learn Valuable Lessons About Life and Love

Your grandparents have years on you. That means that they have been through more break-ups, make-ups and (yes) hook-ups, than you have. They have a treasure trove of wisdom that is just waiting for you to seek out.

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You’ll Learn What It Means to Be Selfless

Whether you realize it or not, your grandparents sacrificed a lot so that you can be here. That does not mean that you owe them your time, your money, or your love; however, next time your family gets together, look around at what they created and how beautiful it is. Remember, beauty comes from sacrifices – and that sacrifice was worth it.

Conclusion

The best thing about grandparents is that they are not your parents. They aren’t there to give you unsolicited advice or poke their noses into places you’d rather they didn’t. Instead, they have a life’s worth of wisdom to offer you no matter what you’re going through. All you need to do is pick up the phone.

Featured photo credit: surlygirl via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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