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5 Amazing Things That Happen When You Stop Caring About Missing Out

5 Amazing Things That Happen When You Stop Caring About Missing Out

We’ve all been there: said no to an invite to a night out with friends only to stay home and wonder if we’re missing out on something important. We wanted to stay home and relax, but we kept thinking about what our friends are doing or if something awesome is happening when we’re not there with them. We felt left out and didn’t relax at all. We felt as if they were happier than us, doing much more interesting stuff.

The truth is that we’ve never been more wrong. There are plenty of things that we can do when we are all by ourselves that will make us enjoy our free time and never again think about feeling left out and missing out on new updates and conversations. We can be so much happier if we stop caring about those trivial things and concentrate on ourselves. Here is a list of 5 amazing things that will happen if you simply stop caring about missing out.

1. You’ll Focus On Your Work

When you stop thinking about what everyone else is doing and stop scrolling through Facebook and Instagram updates, you’ll find that you have so much more time for other things. You can focus on your work and get things done before your deadlines. You will raise your productivity and feel much better and more accomplished. The fear of missing out on some social event is stopping you from being as successful at your job as you could be.

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Stop looking at your friends’ pictures and updates and thinking about how they have it much better than you – they have better clothes, they travel around the world, they eat the best food. Those things are not important and you shouldn’t waste your precious time thinking about them.

When you realize that missing out is not as important as you thought, you’ll be able to do some actual work, which will make your productivity and creativity go up. You’ll be amazed with how much happier you will be, since there’s nothing that can make you feel more accomplished and successful than getting your own work done.

2. You’ll Feel Better About Yourself

When you stop caring and stressing about what is going on at some social event when you’re not there, you’ll find that you’re actually happy, even though you didn’t realize it before. It doesn’t matter if you’re home alone — you’re doing stuff that you love and that makes you feel excited.

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Whether you’re reading a book or binge-watching your favorite TV show, you are happy and there’s nothing more important than that. You should spend your time doing the things you love, the things that fulfill you, not worrying about what other people are doing. You should be at the top of your list and do everything in your power to make yourself happy. You can spend more time with your family and enjoy the comforts of your home even more.

You can spend some quality time with your significant other and make your relationship stronger. You will not believe how much better you will feel about yourself if you stop caring about everyone else and how they spend their time. Focus on yourself and your time, and you will surely thrive.

3. You’ll Get Rid of Stress

Do you realize how much stress constant worrying is causing? You should ask yourself if worrying about being left out of a couple of social events is really worth the trouble. When you take just a second to think about it, you’ll realize it’s not worth it at all. Why would you stress over unimportant things and risk your health when you can easily just stop caring?

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It’s as simple as that. Stress can be dangerous for your health and you need to learn to get rid of it. Choose not to care about trivial things, such as missing out, and you can focus on your mind and body. You can start exercising, since that will also relieve you of stress. Physical exercise positively affects your nerves and can improve your overall mood. You can focus on your hobbies, which will definitely leave no room for stress. Find the things that make you feel better and you will never again stress over things that are not worth wasting your time on.

4. You’ll Have More Time For Self-Reflection

When you stop caring about others and focus on yourself, you will have more time for self-reflection. You’ll have more time to think about your goals and priorities in life and come up with more effective ways of achieving them. You’ll get to see what your place in the world is and where you are in your plans for the future. You’ll find out more about yourself and discover the things that truly matter to you.

Self-reflection is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and, once you get to know yourself to the core, you will be the happiest you’ve ever been. You’ll be free to do anything you want to and choose to go for whatever adventure comes to your mind.

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5. You’ll Relish In The Present

When you stop caring about missing out, you will appreciate the present more. You can look around you and pay attention to the stuff that really matters. You will seize every moment and make the best of it if you simply choose not to worry about being left out of some events that may not even be as interesting as you might think. You will cherish your time more, which will eventually lead to you feeling better about yourself and your life in general. You will be happy and fulfilled at every moment of your life, and nothing is more important than that. When you feel mentally better, that will result in you feeling physically better. You can achieve all that by learning to enjoy every single moment of your life and not waste your time thinking about missing out.

Constantly caring about missing out on something can suck your energy and make you feel bad about yourself. Stop caring about unimportant things and you will be filled with positive energy that will also reflect on everyone around you. Live your life to the fullest and amazing things will happen to you.

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Last Updated on December 17, 2018

Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

  • What if I took a chance on myself?
  • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
  • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
  • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

So why would you think you’re not good enough?

1. Parenting

The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

3. Undervalue Yourself

What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

“College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

Final Thoughts

Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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