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15 Small Challenges That Add Color To Every Moment You Live

15 Small Challenges That Add Color To Every Moment You Live

The business of our everyday lives often pushes us into stiff routines that lack excitement, fun, and happiness. The only way to climb out of this humdrum way of living is to consciously make an effort to add some color to your life. Here are 15 small challenges that will help you to do just that:

1. Wake Up Thankful

Do you know why today’s going to be an awesome day? Well, there are probably dozens of reasons, but consider the fact that you even woke up. You get to live another day, so choose to enjoy the small things. If you’re having a hard time remembering, take a minute and make a list of things you have to be thankful for so you can read it each morning.

2. Stop Holding Grudges

Whether we realize it or not, the grudges we hold against other people hurt us more than they hurt others. They make us bitter and angry. If you really want to enjoy happier moments, you must be willing to practice forgiveness.

3. Eliminate Stress

Nobody has time for stress. Whether you’re a landlord, student, nine-to-fiver, or anything in between, there are dozens of ways you can reduce stress and improve your focus each day. It’s amazing what a little less anxiety can do for you, both physically and emotionally. Try to eliminate the things that cause you stress. If you can’t, take up meditation to help ease the stress.

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4. Slow Down

Take time today to think about the pace at which you’re moving. Chances are, you’re moving way too fast. Slow down and enjoy what you’re currently doing before moving on to the next thing.

5. Help Someone Else

Actively look for opportunities to help other people. Helping others is a win-win situation, because not only do they get something they need, but you also feel better afterwards.

6. Jam Out to Your Favorite Song

While there’s always time for silence, sometimes you just need to go a little crazy. Try jamming out to your favorite song at least once per day!

7.  Write a Letter or Journal Entry

Actually sitting down and putting pen to paper is really powerful. It forces you to spend time with your thoughts and think about what you’re doing. Try writing a friend a letter or recording a journal entry.

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8. Get Quick Exercise

While you may not have time to get an hour-long workout in during the middle of the day, a few minutes of physical activity can improve the way you feel. Check out this quick 10-minute cardio routine.

9. Take a Different Route

Do you always drive the same route to school or work? Even if it takes five minutes longer, taking a different route can open you up to new sights and sounds.

10. Wear Something New

Dig around in your closet for a few minutes and find an outfit you haven’t worn in a while. Throw it on and notice how it makes you feel. Something as simple as a change in fashion can brighten your day.

11. Try New Coffee

Do you drink the same coffee or tea every morning? Going out on a limb and trying a new brew can give your morning a new feel – or taste.

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12. Got to Bed Earlier

Most people end up watching TV at night. What’s going to be more valuable in the morning – an extra hour of sleep, or an extra hour of sitcom reruns? Choose the extra hour of sleep.

13. Make a Checklist

There’s something really satisfying about making a list of things to do and checking them off one by one. Start writing down your daily goals and enjoy the liberation of marking them complete.

14. Eat Healthy

Did you know that certain foods in your diet might actually be holding you back from feeling well? Cut out some of the processed foods you eat and opt for fresh alternatives.

15.  Be Intentional

Finally, it’s up to you to be intentional about everything you do. Don’t do anything half-hearted; every action you take should have a purpose.

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We could all use a little more vibrancy in our lives. Using these 15 tips, you can enhance your routine – starting right now.

Featured photo credit: Nell Hall via flic.kr

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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