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5 Amazing Things Will Happen When You Stop Buying Unnecessary Stuff

5 Amazing Things Will Happen When You Stop Buying Unnecessary Stuff

Have you ever spent countless hours in stores, shopping or traveling from store to store to find a specific item, only to end up spending way too much money on things you really didn’t need in the first place? Then, you try to hide your purchases or rationalize them to your spouse. Next, you try to return your purchases, learning that some stores only offer store credit which prevented the purpose of the return.

Yes, we have all fallen victim to our own insatiable appetites for things that are really quite unnecessary but at the moment seem like such a necessity. Below are 5 amazing things that will happen when you stop buying unnecessary stuff.

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1. You’ll witness better relationships in your life

There are quite a few things that will contribute to having better relationships in your life. Less stress, fewer arguments, more time to spend with family and friends, will all contribute to better relationships in your life when you stop purchasing unnecessary stuff.

Imagine the thrill of having more date nights with your spouse, more outings with your family and friends, less stress and arguments about debt or bills piling up. Sometimes the best ways to save is to cut back on spending. You may not always have the luxury of overtime, so cutting back on certain expenses can definitely help.

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2. You’ll have more money to save

It is a wonderful feeling to be secure and have a sense of relaxation and relief about your finances. However, having better control over your finances is a process. The goal is to keep your spending habits in control, in order to have more money to save. You may be wondering, why should you save when money is made to spend. Saving money will allow you to reach the goals you want in life and leave room in case emergencies come up unexpectedly. Examples of emergencies may consist of unexpected vehicle repairs, injuries or illnesses that require medical treatment, or a job loss.

3. You’ll have more money to invest

Yes, I indeed said invest! Okay, so you may not be quite ready to invest in stocks, bonds, or even mutual funds; however, you have other investment options such as your education, a business, or real estate (purchase of a townhouse, condo or home). Investing in yourself sometimes can be the best investment you could ever make. Investing in your education doesn’t have to include higher levels of education like Associates degrees, Bachelors, Masters, or PHds so don’t feel bad if you don’t possess this. You can also invest in your education by attending seminars, workshops, reading books, and participating in webinars. Investing in a business could be as simple as turning your hobby into a small business.

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4. You’ll become more appreciative

When you stop buying unnecessary stuff you will learn to become more appreciative for things that don’t require money. Happiness doesn’t revolve around material possessions. There are so many wonderful things in life that are free. What about the beach? Have a family picnic at the beach or your local park. There is plenty of fresh air, as well as room to run around and play games like a scavenger hunt. These activities could really build your family relationship and you don’t have to purchase anything. You could have a list of different things to find, like certain sizes or shapes of seashells or whatever interests you. Then, as a family, you can take a picture with your seashells or items at the beach or park. When you get home you can write your names on the inside of the shell you found and write the date and write “family outing at the beach”. You can save it as a souvenir.

5. You’ll feel better about yourself

When you stop buying unnecessary things you will start to feel better about yourself. You will see life and yourself in a whole new light. You will no longer be chained by the temptation of unnecessary spending. You will feel less stressed because you no longer have to work so hard (double shifts and overtime) to make up for all the things you purchased that you didn’t need. You will no longer have to conceal your poor spending habits and risk jeopardizing your relationships. I have observed so many people borrow from one person to pay another and just end up ruining relationships – as well as ending up with so much debt.

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Conclusion

Our society targets us to spend. It’s just how the economy operates. However, you don’t have to fall victim to buying unnecessary items. Yes, you need a car to commute, but you don’t need an expensive luxury car for that. Yes, you need food to eat, but you don’t need honey buns or caviar to survive. Yes, you need clothes to wear but you don’t need expensive name brand clothing (including purses, ladies) that can cost as much as a car note or down-payment on a house. Some items we think we need are really just items to impress others, which is not important.

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Last Updated on November 28, 2018

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

“I’m having a run of bad luck.”

I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

What’s Next?

Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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