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7 Things Mentally Strong People Refuse to Do

7 Things Mentally Strong People Refuse to Do

Being mentally strong can have profound effects on your entire life. When you are mentally strong, you are able to persevere during tough times, and continue to press ahead when you are succeeding.

Here are 7 things mentally strong people refuse to do. When you work on getting rid of these destructive, self-sabotaging habits, you’ll be amazed at the positive effects in your life.

1. They don’t always say that everything’s fine.

The mentally strong admit to themselves when they’re not fine. They realize this is the first step to making changes.

If you haven’t seen Mel Robbins’ TED talk “How to stop screwing yourself over”, check it out here. In her talk, Mel describes the big issue she has with people saying they are “fine.” The problem, she says, is that you say it to yourself. She says “That thing that you want, I guarantee you, you’ve convinced yourself that you’re fine not having it. That’s why you’re not pushing yourself. It’s the areas in your life where you’ve given up.”

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When you feel dissatisfied and stuck in your life, be strong enough to admit to yourself you’re not fine and take action to change your situation.

2. They don’t stay stuck in their comfort zone.

The mentally strong know that growth occurs outside of their comfort zone. Even though it’s intimidating to get out and try new and different things, they understand the Neale Donald Walsch quote that says: “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

The mentally strong make a point to regularly stretch themselves, embrace new challenges, and force themselves to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

3. They don’t expect immediate success.

The mentally strong realize that progress takes time. When they set out to make changes in their lives, they prepare for the long haul. They don’t expect drastic results immediately.

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4. They don’t give up easily.

The mentally strong persevere in many areas of life.

Perseverance is defined by Merriam-Webster as the quality that allows someone to continue trying to do something even though it is difficult. Steve Jobs mentioned the importance of persevering as an entrepreneur when he said, “I’m convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance.”

Whether it’s in their business ventures or during difficult times in their personal lives, the mentally strong press on through their trials.

5. They don’t say yes to everything.

The mentally strong practice saying no at times. They say no to toxic friendships. They refuse to let others “guilt trip” them into doing things. They say no to being involved in committees or events they really can’t stand. They have the strength to stay true to their priorities and values.

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6. They don’t avoid being vulnerable.

The mentally strong allow themselves to be vulnerable; in fact, they embrace it.

Brené Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, gave a powerful speech on the power of vulnerability. She describes the importance of letting ourselves be deeply seen and loving with our whole hearts — even though there’s no guarantee.

The mentally strong let themselves love wholeheartedly and be vulnerable.

7. They don’t spend their time being envious.

The mentally strong don’t waste their time being envious of people they feel are doing ‘better’ in life than they are. They realize being envious will get them nowhere.

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Instead, they choose to focus their time and energy on studying the habits of people they want to emulate. They routinely learn from others who are doing what they want to do. They understand the value in learning from the experts. Instead of sitting back and feeding their jealousy, they take actions to improve their lives.

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When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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