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Only An ENFP Would Understand These 14 Things

Only An ENFP Would Understand These 14 Things

ENFP’s are people-oriented, intuitive, and spontaneous. The ENFP personality type is one of 16 personality types based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), a questionnaire that has been used for years to indicate people’s psychological preferences in how they perceive the world.

I’m an ENFP and I totally understand the excitement and challenges that come along with this personality type.

Here are some of the quirks, strengths, and difficulties associated with being an ENFP.

1. You search for meaning in everything

The author of this article describes one of the struggles faced by ENFP’s, stating, “Yes, I want to go to a party tonight. But a party full of contemplative people who want to alternate between taking shots and discussing the meaning of life.”

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2. You see life as an awesome adventure

As an ENFP, your enthusiasm and excitement for life never ends. You view life as full of possibilities and you tend to welcome change.

3. You feel stifled, frustrated, and trapped doing mundane things

Since you crave freedom and excitement, and tend to dislike routine mundane tasks, you can feel sorry for yourself when you need to do boring things…like clean your house.

4. You confuse your friends and family members

You have big ideas and see many possibilities in life. To an outsider, it may appear you are “all over the place” with your thoughts and goals, but in reality you stick true to your values amidst your adventures. The way you bubble with excitement and always have huge ideas may stress others out.

5. You may enjoy several careers in your lifetime

“Slash” careers are common for ENFP’s. For example, I’m a doctor of physical therapy/entrepreneur/writer. Typically, ENFP’s are project oriented, and may switch careers or dabble in learning new hobbies.

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6. You need people contact

While you need alone time occasionally, many ENFP’s dislike being alone for prolonged periods of time. You are energized and recharged by connecting with others.

7. You have a million great ideas

You may have sticky notes all over the place with your ideas written on them.

8. You require extra effort to focus on your own path

With your wide variety of interests and highly excitable personality, it’s easy for you to get sidetracked from your own goals. When others tell you great things they’re doing, you may find yourself saying, “That’s awesome! I want to do that too!” You may need to list your priorities, write down your goals, and set a schedule for yourself to stay on task.

9. You have a history of staying in relationships even when you should get out

Since you see the potential in others rather than what actually is, you sometimes hang onto bad relationships even when it’s time to move on.

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10. You crave going into business for yourself

You dislike being controlled, and are a natural leader. Many ENFP’s have strong entrepreneurial skills.

11. You are underestimated

Due to your fun, upbeat personality, your intelligence may be underestimated. In the work setting, you may need to make an effort to communicate with others using data and facts so you are taken seriously.

12. You would rather travel than upgrade your home

You crave opportunities to travel, and believe having amazing experiences is worth more than any material item. You seek opportunities to explore and connect with people all over the world.

13. You have a wide variety of friends

You have a large social circle, full of a wide range of friends you totally love.

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14. You love teamwork

Working with others toward a common dream lights you up. You work well on teams due to your ability to get along well with people.

Featured photo credit: Smiles/Alex via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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