Advertising
Advertising

Only An ENFP Would Understand These 14 Things

Only An ENFP Would Understand These 14 Things

ENFP’s are people-oriented, intuitive, and spontaneous. The ENFP personality type is one of 16 personality types based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), a questionnaire that has been used for years to indicate people’s psychological preferences in how they perceive the world.

I’m an ENFP and I totally understand the excitement and challenges that come along with this personality type.

Here are some of the quirks, strengths, and difficulties associated with being an ENFP.

1. You search for meaning in everything

The author of this article describes one of the struggles faced by ENFP’s, stating, “Yes, I want to go to a party tonight. But a party full of contemplative people who want to alternate between taking shots and discussing the meaning of life.”

Advertising

2. You see life as an awesome adventure

As an ENFP, your enthusiasm and excitement for life never ends. You view life as full of possibilities and you tend to welcome change.

3. You feel stifled, frustrated, and trapped doing mundane things

Since you crave freedom and excitement, and tend to dislike routine mundane tasks, you can feel sorry for yourself when you need to do boring things…like clean your house.

4. You confuse your friends and family members

You have big ideas and see many possibilities in life. To an outsider, it may appear you are “all over the place” with your thoughts and goals, but in reality you stick true to your values amidst your adventures. The way you bubble with excitement and always have huge ideas may stress others out.

5. You may enjoy several careers in your lifetime

“Slash” careers are common for ENFP’s. For example, I’m a doctor of physical therapy/entrepreneur/writer. Typically, ENFP’s are project oriented, and may switch careers or dabble in learning new hobbies.

Advertising

6. You need people contact

While you need alone time occasionally, many ENFP’s dislike being alone for prolonged periods of time. You are energized and recharged by connecting with others.

7. You have a million great ideas

You may have sticky notes all over the place with your ideas written on them.

8. You require extra effort to focus on your own path

With your wide variety of interests and highly excitable personality, it’s easy for you to get sidetracked from your own goals. When others tell you great things they’re doing, you may find yourself saying, “That’s awesome! I want to do that too!” You may need to list your priorities, write down your goals, and set a schedule for yourself to stay on task.

9. You have a history of staying in relationships even when you should get out

Since you see the potential in others rather than what actually is, you sometimes hang onto bad relationships even when it’s time to move on.

Advertising

10. You crave going into business for yourself

You dislike being controlled, and are a natural leader. Many ENFP’s have strong entrepreneurial skills.

11. You are underestimated

Due to your fun, upbeat personality, your intelligence may be underestimated. In the work setting, you may need to make an effort to communicate with others using data and facts so you are taken seriously.

12. You would rather travel than upgrade your home

You crave opportunities to travel, and believe having amazing experiences is worth more than any material item. You seek opportunities to explore and connect with people all over the world.

13. You have a wide variety of friends

You have a large social circle, full of a wide range of friends you totally love.

Advertising

14. You love teamwork

Working with others toward a common dream lights you up. You work well on teams due to your ability to get along well with people.

Featured photo credit: Smiles/Alex via flickr.com

More by this author

Dr. Kerry Petsinger

Entrepreneur, Mindset & Performance Coach, & Doctor of Physical Therapy

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again How to Find the Purpose of Life and Start Living a Fulfilling Life Don’t like your job? Here are some solutions. How People Make Decisions That Are Bad For Them How to Have a Successful Career and a Fulfilling Personal Life

Trending in Communication

1 How to Practice Positive Thinking And Change Your Life 2 12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life 3 What Makes a Good Leader? 10 Essential Leadership Qualities 4 How Not to Be Boring (And Start to Be More Interesting) 5 11 Tips for Maintaining Your Positive Attitude

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

Advertising

2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

Advertising

Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

Advertising

Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

Advertising

Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

More About Finding Yourself

Featured photo credit: Andrew Neel via unsplash.com

Read Next