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3 Important Thoughts To Keep You Motivated Throughout Your Life

3 Important Thoughts To Keep You Motivated Throughout Your Life

A motivated mindset is the key to success in any endeavor. Show me two people competing over anything and I will show you the one who is motivated and fueled by their thoughts will often be the winner. If you want to win and be successful at anything in life, you must recognize the importance of positive internal dialogue and motivation. Many people are not able to do this and as a result, they often feel lost in life. Staying hungry for success on a consistent basis can be a challenge.

I have found myself in a similar situation many times and motivation is what enabled me to push through. Here are 3 important thoughts that will help motivate you throughout your life:

1. “I can do this.”

What is “this”? It can be a goal. It can be a task. The point is “this” is anything you are trying to succeed at. Why is it important to have this thought? It is important because you need positive internal dialogue every step along the way toward reaching your goal.

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You must think to yourself “I can do this” before you even start. This is what gives you confidence in the first place. You are telling yourself that success is possible and you can make it happen. You must tell yourself “I can do this” during the process. This is important because we often experience mental and physical fatigue. We might have nothing left. However, telling ourselves that we “can do this” pushes us to keep going. Eventually, the goal is accomplished and we no longer think “I can do this”. Instead, we think “I did it.”

This thought applies to any goal, especially losing weight. The way you succeed is by telling yourself, “I can do this”. You say this to yourself before you go to the gym early in the morning to do your cardio. During the process, you might be tempted to eat junk food and give up. However, thinking “I can do this” pushes you forward and keeps you on task. Eventually, you lose enough weight to meet your goal. You no longer think “I can do this.” Instead, you think “I did it.”

It is very easy to adopt this line of thought. All you have to do is give yourself permission to believe that you can do it. Once you do that, you don’t stop having this internal dialogue with yourself until your goal is accomplished.

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2. “No one will outwork me.”

Work ethic is what often separates the winners from the losers. Having pride in your work ethic is an incredible source of lifelong motivation. When you think “no one will outwork me”, you are making a special promise to yourself. You are promising yourself that you will give it your all in order to accomplish your goal. You will have no choice but to stay motivated. This thought is applicable whether you have competitors or not.

This applies to any arena when are competing against others because you are telling yourself that you are going to beat them during the training process. When it comes time for actual competition, you will have all the confidence in the world because you know you have outworked them.

This thought also applies when you have no competition. The “no one will outwork me” promise forces you to follow it long-term. Maybe you have competition out there that you do not know about? Maybe there is someone out there working just as hard as you? How do you deal with that? You deal with it by not leaving anything to chance. You repeatedly think to yourself “no one will outwork me” and you put in the work.

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“No one will outwork me” is important because it is promise that you make to yourself. Once you make it, you can apply it to any goal you have in life. You express it by putting your heart and soul in to your work.

3. “Have faith in the future.”

Life is not a simply a matter of having goals, fueling yourself with motivating thoughts, and accomplishing them. You are tested. There are obstacles along the way. There are times when you will doubt yourself because things don’t look too good. What do you do then?

You think to yourself “have faith in the future.” “Have faith in the future” is the ultimate motivating thought. It is important because there are times when we experience serious self-doubt. We lose all confidence and just want to give up.

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Having faith in the future is important because it is a way of telling yourself that although the situation looks grim, it will get better. You just have to have faith and work through it. Ultimately, “have faith in the future” is a thought that keeps you on task and reminds you of what’s really important, which is to accomplish your goal. Adversity and distractions are inevitable. However, in the end, the only thing that truly matters is accomplishing your goal.

For instance, medical school is a time when many students could use this thought. Do students experience adversity and self-doubt during medical school? Absolutely. The process of learning difficult material and supporting yourself financially can be a daunting task. Many students contemplate giving up. The ones that push through are the ones who are constantly reminding themselves that times will get better and that they must “have faith in the future.”

This thought comes in handy when times are tough. You can remind yourself to “have faith in the future” throughout the entire process. However, it is most useful when you are experiencing self-doubt. At that point, it is crucial to constantly remind yourself of this so that you don’t give up. As long as you have that faith, there is always a chance.

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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