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25 Meaningful Quotes From Wayne Dyer To Make You A Stronger Person

25 Meaningful Quotes From Wayne Dyer To Make You A Stronger Person

Fondly considered by many fans around the world as the “father of motivation”, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer was a legend in the self-help and wellness world for his inspiring guides to better living. He gained prominence in the public eye through his frequent appearances on mainstream TV shows, where he was often introduced as “public television’s favorite teacher of transformational wisdom”.

Dyer’s messages – characterized by a philosophy that blended the theory of self-actualization and nondenominational spirituality – encouraged people to be the best they can be without worrying about labeling by society. What makes this remarkable man particularly inspiring is that he was a real-life rags to riches character with an incredible personal story.

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Dyer grew up in an orphanage, later reconnected with his birth parents, became a high school counselor, then a college professor, and then wrote his first of many bestselling books in a career that span four decades. His first book Your Erroneous Zones, released in 1976, sold over 35 million copies.

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Sadly, the author, motivational speaker and self-help pioneer recently passed away in his sleep at his home in Maui, Hawaii aged 75. Though he is no longer walking among us on earth, Dyer’s insights continue to reverberate throughout the world. Here are some of his most meaningful quotes that will inspire you to be a stronger person. Enjoy!

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  1. “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
  2. “The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.”
  3. “Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it.”
  4. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
  5. “I am thankful to all those who said no. It’s because of them, I did it myself.”
  6. “Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy.”
  7. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
  8. “Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.”
  9. “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
  10. “Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what the reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.”
  11. “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
  12. “If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t you will see obstacles.”
  13. “Consider that all human beings have within them the same essence of consciousness, and that the process of creativity and genius are attributes of human consciousness. Therefore, genius is a potential that lives within you and every other human being.”
  14. “You are in a partnership with all other human beings, not a contest to be judged better than some and worse than others.”
  15. “You don’t need to be better than anyone else, you just need to be better than you used to be.”
  16. “When you are able to shift your inner awareness to how you can serve others, and when you make this the central focus of your life, you will then be in a position to know true miracles in your progress toward prosperity.”
  17. “Your children will see what you’re all about by what you live rather than what you say.”
  18. “Circumstances do not make a man, they reveal him.”
  19. “What comes out of you when you are squeezed is what is inside of you.”
  20. “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”
  21. “Be immersed in and surrounded by peace. Your Highest Self only wants you to be at peace. It does not judge, compare, or demand that you defeat anyone, or be better than anyone.”
  22. “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.”
  23. “There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there’s only scarcity of resolve to make it happen.”
  24. “Heaven on Earth is a choice you must make, not a place you must find.”
  25. “Don’t die with the music still in you.”

Featured photo credit: Phil Konstantin via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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