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Most Common Self-Limiting Beliefs That Prevent Success

Most Common Self-Limiting Beliefs That Prevent Success

The idea of being wealthy can be appealing to anyone. We all love the concept of being free and buying those things that makes us more eye-catching. However, when it comes to what price we have to pay to become successful we tend to suddenly build mental obstacles on why we might not be fit for success.

Self-limiting beliefs are self-imposed and can be an obstacle to getting ahead. The truth is that we all have self-limiting beliefs but we all simply handle them differently. Understanding what self-limiting beliefs can stand as an obstacle to our success can be pivotal to helping us breaking internal barriers.

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“We were all born equal, but where we are in life now is of our own making.” ― Stephen Richards

It takes money to make money

There is no greater fallacy or self-imposed belief than one which suddenly looms over us and makes us feel that we need to have a huge sum of money before we become the next Bill Gates. Most individuals on the Forbes 400 list are self-made billionaires! This means that it is more about seeing an opportunity and taking it, rather than about having a huge sum of money before you start out on a venture. Successful people do not limit their thoughts or possibilities with this notion or mindset. They know that even with a huge sum of money you could still fail when starting out. Rather than focus on having money before starting out, they focus on the best way they can create value and attain what they want to attain.

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It is greedy for me to want more

People think that many people who are wealthy are also evil and greedy. However, what would they say about the endless philanthropy many of these successful people do. Money is not the end in itself but rather a means to an end for many of the wealthy. With money you can achieve more, fulfill more dreams and desires, and embrace more freedom. Money in itself is not bad. But having the wrong attitude towards it can be. There is no greed in wanting to get ahead and live a better life. You could also become a channel for others to embrace more success when you set out on the road to become successful. Rather than see becoming wealthy as a greedy pursuit, see it as a road to a lot of possibilities for you and those around you.

There is not enough money to go around

You should never be limited in your vision. Actually, there are more opportunities now than ever before in history to become wealthy. There is more than enough wealth to go around. The problem is that people prefer to sit down in their comfort zones rather than explore new territories and uncharted avenues of becoming wealthy. Successful people dream big, they do not see limitations or impossibilities. Instead, they think of how they can tap into the abundance that is in circulation.

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If I become wealthy people will hate me

We think because the media shows some negative news on the successful that they are hated and not in good relationship with society. This is wrong. We all have flaws and the successful also have their flaws. What makes them different from us in this regard is that there is always a spotlight on their mistakes. However, this doesn’t mean they are hated. Rather, they are seen as icons and role models. This is why there are awards and recognitions for individuals who are successful at what they do. There is nothing broken in your relationship with people when you become successful.

Rather than keep up with such self-imposed beliefs, go out there and demand the life you deserve. You can become whatever you want to be and successful at it. You should not stop yourself from living the life you deserve.

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Last Updated on July 17, 2019

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

What happens in our heads when we set goals?

Apparently a lot more than you’d think.

Goal setting isn’t quite so simple as deciding on the things you’d like to accomplish and working towards them.

According to the research of psychologists, neurologists, and other scientists, setting a goal invests ourselves into the target as if we’d already accomplished it. That is, by setting something as a goal, however small or large, however near or far in the future, a part of our brain believes that desired outcome is an essential part of who we are – setting up the conditions that drive us to work towards the goals to fulfill the brain’s self-image.

Apparently, the brain cannot distinguish between things we want and things we have. Neurologically, then, our brains treat the failure to achieve our goal the same way as it treats the loss of a valued possession. And up until the moment, the goal is achieved, we have failed to achieve it, setting up a constant tension that the brain seeks to resolve.

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Ideally, this tension is resolved by driving us towards accomplishment. In many cases, though, the brain simply responds to the loss, causing us to feel fear, anxiety, even anguish, depending on the value of the as-yet-unattained goal.

Love, Loss, Dopamine, and Our Dreams

The brains functions are carried out by a stew of chemicals called neurotransmitters. You’ve probably heard of serotonin, which plays a key role in our emotional life – most of the effective anti-depressant medications on the market are serotonin reuptake inhibitors, meaning they regulate serotonin levels in the brain leading to more stable moods.

Somewhat less well-known is another neurotransmitter, dopamine. Among other things, dopamine acts as a motivator, creating a sensation of pleasure when the brain is stimulated by achievement. Dopamine is also involved in maintaining attention – some forms of ADHD are linked to irregular responses to dopamine.[1]

So dopamine plays a key role in keeping us focused on our goals and motivating us to attain them, rewarding our attention and achievement by elevating our mood. That is, we feel good when we work towards our goals.

Dopamine is related to wanting – to desire. The attainment of the object of our desire releases dopamine into our brains and we feel good. Conversely, the frustration of our desires starves us of dopamine, causing anxiety and fear.

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One of the greatest desires is romantic love – the long-lasting, “till death do us part” kind. It’s no surprise, then, that romantic love is sustained, at least in part, through the constant flow of dopamine released in the presence – real or imagined – of our true love. Loss of romantic love cuts off that supply of dopamine, which is why it feels like you’re dying – your brain responds by triggering all sorts of anxiety-related responses.

Herein lies obsession, as we go to ever-increasing lengths in search of that dopamine reward. Stalking specialists warn against any kind of contact with a stalker, positive or negative, because any response at all triggers that reward mechanism. If you let the phone ring 50 times and finally pick up on the 51st ring to tell your stalker off, your stalker gets his or her reward, and learns that all s/he has to do is wait for the phone to ring 51 times.

Romantic love isn’t the only kind of desire that can create this kind of dopamine addiction, though – as Captain Ahab (from Moby Dick) knew well, any suitably important goal can become an obsession once the mind has established ownership.

The Neurology of Ownership

Ownership turns out to be about a lot more than just legal rights. When we own something, we invest a part of ourselves into it – it becomes an extension of ourselves.

In a famous experiment at Cornell University, researchers gave students school logo coffee mugs, and then offered to trade them chocolate bars for the mugs. Very few were willing to make the trade, no matter how much they professed to like chocolate. Big deal, right? Maybe they just really liked those mugs![2]

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But when they reversed the experiment, handing out chocolate and then offering to trade mugs for the candy, they found that now, few students were all that interested in the mugs. Apparently the key thing about the mugs or the chocolate wasn’t whether students valued whatever they had in their possession, but simply that they had it in their possession.

This phenomenon is called the “endowment effect”. In a nutshell, the endowment effect occurs when we take ownership of an object (or idea, or person); in becoming “ours” it becomes integrated with our sense of identity, making us reluctant to part with it (losing it is seen as a loss, which triggers that dopamine shut-off I discussed above).

Interestingly, researchers have found that the endowment effect doesn’t require actual ownership or even possession to come into play. In fact, it’s enough to have a reasonable expectation of future possession for us to start thinking of something as a part of us – as jilted lovers, gambling losers, and 7-year olds denied a toy at the store have all experienced.

The Upshot for Goal-Setters

So what does all this mean for would-be achievers?

On one hand, it’s a warning against setting unreasonable goals. The bigger the potential for positive growth a goal has, the more anxiety and stress your brain is going to create around it’s non-achievement.

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It also suggests that the common wisdom to limit your goals to a small number of reasonable, attainable objectives is good advice. The more goals you have, the more ends your brain thinks it “owns” and therefore the more grief and fear the absence of those ends is going to cause you.

On a more positive note, the fact that the brain rewards our attentiveness by releasing dopamine means that our brain is working with us to direct us to achievement. Paying attention to your goals feels good, encouraging us to spend more time doing it. This may be why outcome visualization — a favorite technique of self-help gurus involving imagining yourself having completed your objectives — has such a poor track record in clinical studies. It effectively tricks our brain into rewarding us for achieving our goals even though we haven’t done it yet!

But ultimately, our brain wants us to achieve our goals, so that it’s a sense of who we are that can be fulfilled. And that’s pretty good news!

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