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What You Should Really Do When You’re Feeling Upset

What You Should Really Do When You’re Feeling Upset

I bet you know at least one person who somehow always has everything under control – you never see them sad, anxious, or furious. So, how do they do it? Having everything handled at all times practically implies having a superpower to us mortals, doesn’t it?

Well, considering the fact that calm people are only human, we can come to the conclusion that this is something we need to work on and develop step by step.

You probably aren’t even aware of how damaging anger is for you. Recently, I came to realize that I spend way too much time trying to deal with anger issues and that my methods are simply wrong. It’s not about never getting upset – it’s about learning how to cope with things and not letting your anger take over.

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Don’t Keep It In

Most people are too polite to react to a certain situation that causes them to feel upset, or on the other hand, they overreact. It’s very important not to keep your frustrations bottled in, no matter which area of your life they are related to. By staying silent and doing nothing about it, you’ll only allow stress to build up and eat you up from the inside. Besides, your problems aren’t going to solve themselves, are they?

Write, Paint, and Play

02 Write, Paint & Play

    If you’re artistic, this should be the first thing to turn to. Having a talent isn’t something that should be ignored, especially if it can help you deal with your issues. On the other hand, signing up for an art class of any sort will allow you to focus that negative energy into something creative. This is a great way to change the way you deal with your emotions. The third, and equally creative, option is to start a DIY project — if you want to change something about yourself, this decision should reflect in your surroundings as well.

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    Music, Books, and Movies

    When you’re stressed out, visiting your comfort zone isn’t a bad idea. There’s nothing more effective when it comes to dealing with your blue emotions than watching your favorite movie, spending an afternoon with your favorite book, or playing your favorite album and letting the memories it triggers wash over you. Spending a couple of days like this is absolutely acceptable, but try not to get dragged into it for too long.

    Take a Break

    04 Take a Break

      Maybe all you need is a small break. Every now and then you need to give yourself the privilege to do nothing for an entire day. This should be the time to allow others to take care of you, not the other way around. Having a spa day is something that always works for me — it’s extremely beneficial for both your mind and body. Besides, everyone deserves some pampering from time to time.

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      Talk It Out

      Once you’re a bit calmer, and that initial emotional flood has subsided, it’s much easier to figure out the right course of action, but you need to verbalize your thoughts. Having a friend over, talking to a family member, or making an appointment with your therapist will be more than helpful when it comes to figuring things out. A healthy decision requires at least a couple of different points of view, and you shouldn’t hesitate from asking for help.

      Make Yourself Useful

      06 Useful

        When something hits you right on the nerve, you need to allow your mind to work it out. Trying to calm yourself by force won’t get you anywhere. So, you need to give enough space for your brain to cool off and you need to keep your hands busy. Therefore, after a few deep slow breaths, you need to roll up your sleeves and start cleaning or organizing — anything that will make you feel useful and productive. This isn’t a random suggestion — actions like this help your brain work out various issues much faster.

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        Don’t Repeat Your Mistakes

        As I already mentioned, you can’t expect that repeating one thing can possibly result differently. There’s nothing wrong in making a mistake, but repeating that same mistake over and over again can only make you feel more and more upset. There’s a clear path here — when you make a mistake, you should determine what went wrong, remember it, and try really hard not to repeat it. You should look at this procedure as if it were an investment into your mental health and your future happiness.

        Finally, deciding that you want to become a calm person, who manages all tasks and issues by searching for a reasonable solution, is a healthy resolution, but you can’t expect all of this to happen overnight. Give your mind enough time to take it all in, apply one method at a time and you’ll be more than just fine — you’ll be happy.

        Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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        Last Updated on July 15, 2019

        41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

        41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

        Some things in life are hard to describe, yet we can recognize them when we see them.

        Love is one of those things.

        True love comes in many different forms, but here are some that many of us know well.

        True love means supporting those who can’t support themselves

        supportive couple

          A young man comforts his date in Times Square, New York City. Image by mbtrama

          strong hug

            A young man holds his significant other close to him. Image by Brad Fults

            running help

              A young track competitor helps one of her injured opponents over the finish line. Image from ViralNova.com

              feeding kitten

                A soldier in the Korean War takes time to feed a baby kitten. Image from US Naval Insititute

                It’s having the perfect selfie partner

                mom and daughter selfie

                  A mother and her daughter take a selfie together. Image by Andrew Fysh

                  girlfriends

                    Two young girls pose for the camera. Image by Rolands Lakis

                    selfies

                      A happy couple takes a picture together. Image by Kayla Heineman

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                      selfie

                        Two best friends take a selfie together. Image by Jason Wahido

                        dude selfie

                          Friends take a selfie together. Image by Glenn Scofield Williams

                          It’s all the warm fuzzies

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                            A young man spends time with his dog on a beach. Image by Magdalena Roeseler

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                              A pet owner hugs his dog while on a day trip in San Francisco. Image by Taro the Shiba Inu

                              It means having a friend to photobomb you

                              photobomb

                                A boy makes a funny face as he poses for a picture with his brother. Image by Michael Bentley

                                old man photobomb

                                  A man photobombs his wife while their grandson snaps a picture. Image by Frank

                                  family photobomb

                                    Family members photobomb their relatives’ Thanksgiving day family photo. Image by Beth Scupham

                                    boyfriend photobomb

                                      A friend photobombs the photographer and their friend, the woman in the foreground of this photo. Image by Lachlan Hardy

                                      True love means being there even when life gets unbearably hard

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                                      shoulder to cry on

                                        A family watches the Vermont National Guard depart for Afghanistan. Image by The U.S. Army

                                        flood dog

                                          During a monsoon in the Philippines, a boy carries his dog to safety. Image by Romeo Ranoco

                                          A woman is rescued from flood waters by a resident standing on top of her car during heavy rain in Chalandri suburb north of Athens

                                            A man helps a woman out of her vehicle during a flood in Chalandri, Greece. Image by John Kolesidis

                                            lunch

                                              A woman has lunch with her husband every day, even after he’s passed away. Image from ViralNova.com

                                              hug

                                                A woman hugs the mother of 6-year-old Noah Ponzer, who was one of the victims of the Sandy Hook shootings. Image by Spencer Platt

                                                rubble

                                                  An Oklahoma couple pauses while trying to salvage belongings from a family member’s home after a tornado. Image by Adrees Latif

                                                  sister and brother

                                                    A girl puts her arm around her little brother as they wait outside of Sandy Hook Elementary after gunshots are fired. Image by Reuters.

                                                    headstone

                                                      A woman sits at her husband’s grave the day before their wedding anniversary. Image from NBC news

                                                      It means taking the time for long goodbyes

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                                                        A man says goodbye to his son before deploying. Image by Official U.S. Navy Page

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                                                        national guard goodbye

                                                          A South Carolina man says goodbye to his son before deploying for Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                          saying goodbye

                                                            A Sergeant hugs both of his sons before being deployed to Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                            And cherishing reunions

                                                            husband home

                                                              A woman hugs her husband as she sees him for the first time since his deployment to Iraq. Image by The U.S. Army

                                                              boyfriend home

                                                                A young  woman hugs her significant other as he returns home for Kuwait. Image by The National Guard

                                                                mother hug

                                                                  A mother drops to her knees as she hugs her son on her return home from the Persian Gulf. Image by The National Guard

                                                                  True love is letting yourself feel young when they’re around

                                                                  elderly women

                                                                    Two friends on their smartphones. Image by Robert Neff

                                                                    feeling young

                                                                      A young couple getting their picture taken. Image by db Photograph

                                                                      sprinkler dad

                                                                        A father plays in a sprinkler with his daughter at Millennium Park in Chicago. Image by Ben Forsberg

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                                                                        subway couple

                                                                          A young couple on a subway enjoys sharing time together, while the girlfriend’s father sneaks a photo of them. Image by Gareth Williams

                                                                          wheelchairs

                                                                            A couple holds hands on a fall day. Image by David Amsler

                                                                            It’s letting yourself be silly… just because they’ll enjoy it

                                                                            silly faces

                                                                              A grandfather makes faces at the camera with his granddaughters. Image by Tim Pierce

                                                                              vote for pedro

                                                                                A woman’s father wears a Napoleon Dynamite t-shirt to make his daughter laugh. Image by emdot

                                                                                True love is allowing yourself to show how you really feel

                                                                                date night

                                                                                  A young couple kisses in the back of a restaurant in Washington, D.C. Image by Derek Key

                                                                                  playing violin

                                                                                    Violinist Nancy Dinovo plays at a memorial service for the victims of 9/11. Image by Christopher Morris

                                                                                    True love is timeless

                                                                                    old friends

                                                                                      Friends spending some time together. Image by Cristian Bortes

                                                                                      sitting around a fire

                                                                                        A group of friends sits around a campfire eating. Image by New Old Stock

                                                                                        elderly couple

                                                                                          An elderly couple walks down a street together. Image by Matteo Paciotti

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