7 Things About Love And Life I Wish My Daughters Knew Earlier Than I Did

7 Things About Love And Life I Wish My Daughters Knew Earlier Than I Did

To My Beautiful Daughters,

I promise to love you unconditionally. Please know that no matter what you do, who you are, or what you believe in, I will love you for you — not who I think you should become.

You will never have to fight for my love, my attention, or my approval because it’s important to me that you follow your heart and do what feels right to you. I will be there to love you, support you, and guide you without judgment.


If I can share anything with you, let it be these lessons on love and life.

1. Everything that is in you, is you.

Please do not change or hide yourself from anyone in fear of what they might say or think. That’s not what life is about. Life is about allowing yourself to live, love, and be all you can be. It’s not about what other people think.

2. Love, friendships, and relationships are only as good as the one you have with yourself.

The people who are worthy of your love and friendship will see you for the radiant light you are. The others will just drift away because they do not have a place in your life. We were never born to fit in. The more you try to fit in, the more foreign you become to yourself and others. Honey, we were born to be different. As soon as you give yourself the freedom to express yourself as you are, you will feel so much love and so much joy.


3. The most powerful words are: “I AM.”

Whatever comes after those words can make you or break you. Remove all the stories that surround “I AM” because they don’t matter. In fact, they might be holding you back. In order for you to live a happy life and enjoy unconditional love, you must first know and believe in your absolute core that you are worthy and you are enough. Finding love in a relationship is one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it will also be your most rewarding. Love is like a flower, you need to nurture it and feed it to make it grow.

4. Success and freedom look differently to everybody.

I urge you to live your life with benevolence. We are here to serve and make a difference to the world. Find your footprint and make your mark in a way that makes you feel good.

5. The concept of right and wrong is an illusion.

You can do nothing wrong. Everything that has gone wrong and right has brought you here to this very moment. This is exactly where you are meant to be. Right and wrong is all a perception. Life brings us experiences that help us in our life, giving us a chance to practice everything that we learn along the way.


6. Enjoy the journey, there is no destination.

I spent so long searching for happiness and any feeling of being content, but I have come to realise that we are forever evolving and that is a GOOD thing. People are so focused on the finishing line that they forget about the here and now. Today is what actually matters, yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet. Be all you can be today. Never stop growing, loving, learning, and striving to be the best possible version of yourself.

7. Live fearlessly and never “manage” yourself – just be yourself.

Take time be to still everyday. This is as important as taking a shower to wash the grime away. You need to find stillness in order to let go of whatever doesn’t serve you.

I would tell the younger me the exact same thing.


Shine bright,


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Last Updated on January 5, 2022

How to Help Your Child to Get Better Grades

How to Help Your Child to Get Better Grades

Children are most likely to say that they want to just lounge around or rest for a while after spending hours listening to lecture after lecture from their teachers. There is nothing wrong with this if they had a rough day.

What’s disturbing, is if they deliberately stay away from schoolwork or procrastinate when it comes to reviewing for their tests or completing an important science project.

When it seems that it is becoming a habit for your child to put off school work, it’s time for you to step in and help your child develop good study habits to get better grades. It is important for you to emphasize to your child the importance of setting priorities early in life. Don’t wait for them to flunk their tests, or worse, fail in their subjects before you talk to them about it.


You can help your children hurdle their tests with these 7 tips:

1. Help them set targets

Ask your child what they want to achieve for that particular school year. Tell them to set a specific goal or target. If they say, “I want to get better grades,” tell them to be more specific. It will be better if they say they want to get a GPA of 2.5 or higher. Having a definite target will make it easier for them to undertake a series of actions to achieve their goals, instead of just “shooting for the moon.”

2. Preparation is key

At the start of the school year, teachers provide an outline of a subject’s scope along with a reading list and other course requirements. Make sure that your child has all the materials they need for these course requirements. Having these materials on hand will make sure that your child will have no reason to procrastinate and give them the opportunity to study in advance.


3. Teach them to mark important dates

You may opt to give them a small notebook where they can jot down important dates or a planner that has dates where they can list their schedule. Ask them to show this to you so you can give them “gentle reminders” to block off the whole week before the dates of an exam. During this week, advise your child to not schedule any social activity so they can concentrate on studying.

4. Schedule regular study time

Encourage your child to set aside at least two hours every day to go through their lessons. This will help them remember the lectures for the day and understand the concepts they were taught. They should be encouraged to spend more time on subjects or concepts that they do not understand.

5. Get help

Some kids find it hard to digest or absorb mathematical or scientific concepts. Ask your child if they are having difficulties with their subjects and if they would like to seek the help of a tutor. There is nothing wrong in asking for the assistance of a tutor who can explain complex subjects.


6. Schedule some “downtime”

Your child needs to relax from time to time. During his break, you can consider bringing your child to the nearest mall or grocery store and get them a treat. You may play board games with them during their downtime. The idea is to take his mind off studying for a limited period of time.

7. Reward your child

If your child achieves their goals for the school year, you may give them a reward such as buying them the gadget they have always wanted or allowing them to vacation wherever they want. By doing this, you are telling your child that hard work does pay off.


You need to take the time to monitor your child’s performance in school. Your guidance is essential to helping your child realize the need to prioritize their school activities. As a parent, your ultimate goal is to expose your child to habits that will lay down the groundwork for their future success.


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