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9 Amazing Things Will Happen When You Start To Enjoy Being Alone

9 Amazing Things Will Happen When You Start To Enjoy Being Alone

People don’t appreciate being alone enough. And thus they give their power to others. I think it all stems from that being alone is negative and anti-social. But in this post you will find interesting reasons for you to be alone and the benefits that come along with it. Here are the amazing things that will start happening to you when you start enjoying the time you are spending alone.

1. You will start loving yourself more

Someone used to tell me being alone made them a best friend to themselves. I thought he was kidding. But being alone builds a relationship with your person. It makes you understand yourself better and it makes you appreciate who you are.

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2. You will figure things out

Life is full of challenges and distractions. You can’t really understand where things are going when there is so much noise in the background. To get the clearer picture and see things from a more personal perspective you have to give yourself some time with yourself.

3. You will be happier

Happiness is more of a state of mind rather than a destination. People do not know this and they chase happiness and joy all of their lives. Chasing something you cannot attain can be empty and false. Why go after what is vain when all you need is some self-esteem and some clearer perspective. When you are alone, you can cherish what is rather than what was or what will be.

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4. You will recharge your energy

There is so much we can take when we are with others. But when you are alone you can be with yourself and get rid of all stress and burdens. You can lighten up and breathe out all the negative energy. This gives room for some positive energy and some clearer directions. And of course you will make some better decisions based on this.

5. You will discover who you are

What are your emotions like? What do you want to be? Who do you want to be with? You really do not see these things from a distance. But when you can get in touch with your feelings when you are alone, you can tell yourself what you want and what you don’t want.

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6. You will become more productive

Solitude gives some air of planning and positivity. You figure things out and the directions you want to take. You make plans and have an air of positive energy. You are glad and you find a basis to pursue those innermost desires.

7. You will reflect

We all have a point of becoming, which is where we are coming from and where we are heading to. We pursue goals based on what we can picture and make out of them. Solitude gives us the time and space to reflect and look back at those things that have happened to us and how we can make things better. Being alone gives us the energy to deal with our feelings and what we are.

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8. You will enjoy your relationships even more.

You cannot love others when you do not love yourself. Whether you want it or not, happiness starts with appreciating yourself and discovering who you are. You may have been oblivious to certain facts when you enjoyed relationships with others, but being alone with yourself offers you the opportunity to be with yourself and to appreciate what every relationship means to you.

9. You will become more independent

You start finding out that your joy is not external, but totally dependent on you and what you make out of it. You can make those strategic decisions and be more optimistic about the future because solitude gives you a voice and you don’t care what others think about you but what you think about yourself.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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