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Inspirational Quotes About Happiness From Dalai Lama

Inspirational Quotes About Happiness From Dalai Lama

The current Dalai Lama is the principal monk of Tibetan Buddhism. He became the political leader of Tibet at the age of fifteen. The fourteenth Lama, is the longest Lama to hold such a position of influence.

According to Buddhist beliefs, the present Dalai Lama (born with the name Tenzin Gyatso) is believed to be the reincarnation of Avalokiteshvara the Bodhisattva of Compassion. Buddhists claim he chose to be re-born again because he wanted to continue bringing peace to everyone all over the world.

Below are some of the Dalai Lama’s most inspirational quotes about happiness. These phrases will help show you to lead a happy life. I hope you find them comforting and helpful!

1. “If you think you’re too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.”

2. “Everything you do has some effect, some impact.”

3. “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”

4. “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

5. “When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”

6. “People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”

7. “We don’t need more money, we don’t need greater success or fame, we don’t need the perfect body or even the perfect mate. Right now, at this very moment, we have a mind, which is all the basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness.”

8. “Human happiness and human satisfaction most ultimately come from within oneself.”

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9. “The purpose of our lives is to be happy.”

10. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

11. “Choose to be optimistic. It feels better.”

12. “Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”

13. “I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks.”

14. “Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek.”

15. “The more you are motivated by love, the more fearless and free your action will be.”

16. “We need to learn how to want what we have, not to have what we want in order to get steady and stable happiness.”

17. “It is felt that a disciplined mind leads to happiness and an undisciplined mind leads to suffering.”

18. “Happiness is determined more by one’s state of mind than by external events.”

19. “Happiness is the highest form of health.”

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20. “What is the meaning of life? To be happy and useful.”

21. “When you are discontent you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself ‘Oh yes, I already have everything that I really need.’”

22. “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”

23. “The ultimate source of happiness is not money and power, but warm-heartedness.”

24. “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.”

25. “Everyday, think as you wake up ‘Today I am fortunate to have woken up. I am alive. I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it.’”

26. “The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being..”

27. “The ultimate source of a happy life is the attention we pay to our inner values.”

28. “In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.”

29. “Great love and great achievements involve great risk.”

30. “Whenever there lives a compassionate person, there is always a pleasant atmosphere.”

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31. “When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realise that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.”

32. “Without your effort, it is impossible for blessings to come.”

33. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

34. “If you have a basic concern for others, even failure cannot disturb your mind.”

35. “What unites all beings is their desire for happiness.”

36. “You have to start giving first and expect absolutely nothing.”

37. “We must all live harmoniously with our neighbours. Your happiness depends on it.”

38. “We have to make a sustained effort, again and again, to cultivate the positive aspects within us.”

39. “The more you nurture a feeling of loving kindness, the happier and calmer you will be.”

40. “Smile if you want a smile from another face.”

41. “Happiness comes through taming the mind.”

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42. “Don’t let a little dispute injure a friendship.”

43. “Compassion and happiness are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.”

44. “By changing our outlook towards things and events, all phenomena can come friends or sources of happiness.”

45. “The goal is not to be better than the other man, but your previous self.”

46. “It is important to generate a good attitude, a good heart as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short-term and the long-term for both yourself and others will come.”

47. “Open your arms to change but don’t let go of your values.”

48. “It is under the greatest adversity that there exists the greatest potential for doing good, both for oneself and others.”

49. “With realisation of one’s own potential and self-confidence in ones ability, one can build a better world.”

50. “The happiness of one person or nation is the happiness of humanity.”

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Last Updated on April 6, 2020

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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