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Inspirational Quotes About Happiness From Dalai Lama

Inspirational Quotes About Happiness From Dalai Lama

The current Dalai Lama is the principal monk of Tibetan Buddhism. He became the political leader of Tibet at the age of fifteen. The fourteenth Lama, is the longest Lama to hold such a position of influence.

According to Buddhist beliefs, the present Dalai Lama (born with the name Tenzin Gyatso) is believed to be the reincarnation of Avalokiteshvara the Bodhisattva of Compassion. Buddhists claim he chose to be re-born again because he wanted to continue bringing peace to everyone all over the world.

Below are some of the Dalai Lama’s most inspirational quotes about happiness. These phrases will help show you to lead a happy life. I hope you find them comforting and helpful!

1. “If you think you’re too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.”

2. “Everything you do has some effect, some impact.”

3. “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”

4. “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

5. “When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”

6. “People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”

7. “We don’t need more money, we don’t need greater success or fame, we don’t need the perfect body or even the perfect mate. Right now, at this very moment, we have a mind, which is all the basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness.”

8. “Human happiness and human satisfaction most ultimately come from within oneself.”

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9. “The purpose of our lives is to be happy.”

10. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

11. “Choose to be optimistic. It feels better.”

12. “Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”

13. “I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks.”

14. “Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek.”

15. “The more you are motivated by love, the more fearless and free your action will be.”

16. “We need to learn how to want what we have, not to have what we want in order to get steady and stable happiness.”

17. “It is felt that a disciplined mind leads to happiness and an undisciplined mind leads to suffering.”

18. “Happiness is determined more by one’s state of mind than by external events.”

19. “Happiness is the highest form of health.”

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20. “What is the meaning of life? To be happy and useful.”

21. “When you are discontent you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself ‘Oh yes, I already have everything that I really need.’”

22. “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”

23. “The ultimate source of happiness is not money and power, but warm-heartedness.”

24. “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.”

25. “Everyday, think as you wake up ‘Today I am fortunate to have woken up. I am alive. I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it.’”

26. “The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being..”

27. “The ultimate source of a happy life is the attention we pay to our inner values.”

28. “In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.”

29. “Great love and great achievements involve great risk.”

30. “Whenever there lives a compassionate person, there is always a pleasant atmosphere.”

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31. “When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realise that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.”

32. “Without your effort, it is impossible for blessings to come.”

33. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

34. “If you have a basic concern for others, even failure cannot disturb your mind.”

35. “What unites all beings is their desire for happiness.”

36. “You have to start giving first and expect absolutely nothing.”

37. “We must all live harmoniously with our neighbours. Your happiness depends on it.”

38. “We have to make a sustained effort, again and again, to cultivate the positive aspects within us.”

39. “The more you nurture a feeling of loving kindness, the happier and calmer you will be.”

40. “Smile if you want a smile from another face.”

41. “Happiness comes through taming the mind.”

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42. “Don’t let a little dispute injure a friendship.”

43. “Compassion and happiness are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.”

44. “By changing our outlook towards things and events, all phenomena can come friends or sources of happiness.”

45. “The goal is not to be better than the other man, but your previous self.”

46. “It is important to generate a good attitude, a good heart as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short-term and the long-term for both yourself and others will come.”

47. “Open your arms to change but don’t let go of your values.”

48. “It is under the greatest adversity that there exists the greatest potential for doing good, both for oneself and others.”

49. “With realisation of one’s own potential and self-confidence in ones ability, one can build a better world.”

50. “The happiness of one person or nation is the happiness of humanity.”

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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