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10 Things Only Spontaneous People Would Understand

10 Things Only Spontaneous People Would Understand

Everyone has that one spontaneous friend who is never okay with being bored. They might seem scatterbrained at times, but once they set their mind on something, you know they won’t stop talking about it until they get it. They often will take control of a group, and though at times they’ll drag you into doing something you’re hesitant to try, you’ll end the day with a memory that will last forever. Spontaneous people understand:

1. You think anything new is exciting

Spontaneous people are down for catching a ball game, going to an art exhibit, or taking a road trip to the beach. Of course,  as a spontaneous person you never know which you’ll feel like doing until the feeling hits you. The best thing about having other spontaneous friends is that they come up with something new to do that you would never have thought of otherwise. Just don’t ask them on Monday what they feel like doing on Saturday.

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2. You know that plans change

Being spontaneous means you may avoiding making concrete plans with, because I know by the time the day comes for those plans to come to fruition, something else will have “come up” that is more exciting.  Some spontaneous people overbook themselves without realizing it, and end up having to split on someone in favor of a more exciting adventure.

3. You have to keep moving

Like I said, spontaneous people rarely like to just “hang out.” They want to experience everything the world has to offer, and know they have a limited time to do so. They don’t always have to be going crazy, either. Even if they’re looking for a quiet evening, they’d rather find a coffee house or book club to spend the night at than sit around at a friend’s house.

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4. You find new people exciting

To a spontaneous person, every new person they meet has the potential to be part of an epic adventure. We love hearing everyone’s life story, because we love learning about any and everything possible. Spontaneous people are great conversationalists, because they’ll let you speak at great lengths about your deepest passions, and will never be bored of hearing about your hopes and dreams.

5. You know impulsiveness isn’t always a good thing

Spontaneous people can sometimes get themselves into trouble if they’re not careful. Though an impromptu trip to the beach can be a fun way to spend a day, if you’re too spontaneous you may end up buying a used jet ski or SCUBA gear, despite the fact that you live in landlocked Pennsylvania. Wanting to try out new things is fine, but making expensive commitments without thinking them through can cause some damage to your wallet.

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6. You think being an onlooker is boring

Spontaneous people hate being on the outside looking in. They want to be front and center in the middle of the action. By getting in there and mixing it up, spontaneous people control the ebb and flow around them, and create excitement for themselves and everyone around them. They hate being a passive observer, and want to experience life to the fullest, firsthand.

7. Outside factors don’t affect them

Spontaneous people aren’t affected by contingent circumstances. If rain cancels the ball game they scored tickets to, they’ll hop on the bus and check out a museum. Friend backs out of a concert? They’ll go alone. Spontaneous people know there are things beyond their control, but will always make the most out of any given situation.

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8. You know there’s not much to be afraid of

Spontaneous people live without fear of most things. They definitely aren’t afraid of making a fool of themselves in the name of a good time. They’ll be the ones egging others on to climb the giant tree or rock in the middle of the park, or the one enticing you on to a hot air balloon ride. Simply put, spontaneous people would rather live dangerously than not live at all.

9. You solve problems easily

Like I said, spontaneous people aren’t bothered by much, and they don’t let things beyond their control hurt them. If their plans fall through, they shrug it off and find something else to do. If they get into a jam, they’re able to quickly figure out an innovative solution to the issue. Spontaneous people are always thinking, and because of this, rarely find themselves stuck in a bad situation.

10. You are the source of entertainment

Spontaneous people are always the ones coming up with ideas, so friends will always look to them for a good time. It’s always good to feel needed, but sometimes being relied on to make plans all the time can be taxing, as well. Ironically, perhaps the most spontaneous thing a person can do after a long streak of spontaneity is to actually spend a night in relaxing while everyone else figures out their own darn plans!

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

Here’s How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People

7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

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9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

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10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

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