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10 Things Only Spontaneous People Would Understand

10 Things Only Spontaneous People Would Understand

Everyone has that one spontaneous friend who is never okay with being bored. They might seem scatterbrained at times, but once they set their mind on something, you know they won’t stop talking about it until they get it. They often will take control of a group, and though at times they’ll drag you into doing something you’re hesitant to try, you’ll end the day with a memory that will last forever. Spontaneous people understand:

1. You think anything new is exciting

Spontaneous people are down for catching a ball game, going to an art exhibit, or taking a road trip to the beach. Of course,  as a spontaneous person you never know which you’ll feel like doing until the feeling hits you. The best thing about having other spontaneous friends is that they come up with something new to do that you would never have thought of otherwise. Just don’t ask them on Monday what they feel like doing on Saturday.

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2. You know that plans change

Being spontaneous means you may avoiding making concrete plans with, because I know by the time the day comes for those plans to come to fruition, something else will have “come up” that is more exciting.  Some spontaneous people overbook themselves without realizing it, and end up having to split on someone in favor of a more exciting adventure.

3. You have to keep moving

Like I said, spontaneous people rarely like to just “hang out.” They want to experience everything the world has to offer, and know they have a limited time to do so. They don’t always have to be going crazy, either. Even if they’re looking for a quiet evening, they’d rather find a coffee house or book club to spend the night at than sit around at a friend’s house.

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4. You find new people exciting

To a spontaneous person, every new person they meet has the potential to be part of an epic adventure. We love hearing everyone’s life story, because we love learning about any and everything possible. Spontaneous people are great conversationalists, because they’ll let you speak at great lengths about your deepest passions, and will never be bored of hearing about your hopes and dreams.

5. You know impulsiveness isn’t always a good thing

Spontaneous people can sometimes get themselves into trouble if they’re not careful. Though an impromptu trip to the beach can be a fun way to spend a day, if you’re too spontaneous you may end up buying a used jet ski or SCUBA gear, despite the fact that you live in landlocked Pennsylvania. Wanting to try out new things is fine, but making expensive commitments without thinking them through can cause some damage to your wallet.

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6. You think being an onlooker is boring

Spontaneous people hate being on the outside looking in. They want to be front and center in the middle of the action. By getting in there and mixing it up, spontaneous people control the ebb and flow around them, and create excitement for themselves and everyone around them. They hate being a passive observer, and want to experience life to the fullest, firsthand.

7. Outside factors don’t affect them

Spontaneous people aren’t affected by contingent circumstances. If rain cancels the ball game they scored tickets to, they’ll hop on the bus and check out a museum. Friend backs out of a concert? They’ll go alone. Spontaneous people know there are things beyond their control, but will always make the most out of any given situation.

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8. You know there’s not much to be afraid of

Spontaneous people live without fear of most things. They definitely aren’t afraid of making a fool of themselves in the name of a good time. They’ll be the ones egging others on to climb the giant tree or rock in the middle of the park, or the one enticing you on to a hot air balloon ride. Simply put, spontaneous people would rather live dangerously than not live at all.

9. You solve problems easily

Like I said, spontaneous people aren’t bothered by much, and they don’t let things beyond their control hurt them. If their plans fall through, they shrug it off and find something else to do. If they get into a jam, they’re able to quickly figure out an innovative solution to the issue. Spontaneous people are always thinking, and because of this, rarely find themselves stuck in a bad situation.

10. You are the source of entertainment

Spontaneous people are always the ones coming up with ideas, so friends will always look to them for a good time. It’s always good to feel needed, but sometimes being relied on to make plans all the time can be taxing, as well. Ironically, perhaps the most spontaneous thing a person can do after a long streak of spontaneity is to actually spend a night in relaxing while everyone else figures out their own darn plans!

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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