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8 Terrible Mistakes Successful People Never Make

8 Terrible Mistakes Successful People Never Make

Life is full of interesting challenges and difficulties that even the most talented, committed and composed of us struggle to deal with. However, there are some typical tell-tale signs that come with someone who is successful. One of the most important things to realise about these individuals is that they are successful because they don’t make mistakes on a consistent basis.

If you are trying to grow and improve as an individual, you need to know the art of being able to avoid making mistakes. Not sure how to go about doing this? Then here are eight terrible mistakes that we all may make ourselves, without realising it, that hamper our chances at success.

1. They Never Posture

For anyone who wants to be successful, it’s important to realise the big difference between success and posturing. Your successes today, if sought after purely for political gain, will leave you with a much higher chance of failure. Get used to the idea that failure comes from posturing too much and trying to gain too much from any one position. A successful person will never try to steal the spotlight.

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2. They Never Fear Abuse

When you complete a big task, in work for example, the last thing anyone wants to deal with are the snide remarks and the sarcastic abuse that you can take from colleagues. When this happens, you need to be able to brush it off – the most successful people literally just look straight beyond this. When you get flustered and upset by these comments, the person you are dealing with will feel confident that they have struck a blow against you and it can be undermining to your confidence.

This is something you never see successful people do – instead, they just blow these remarks off.

3. They Never Give Up

Whilst finishing as number one is a good thing, it can pay to be last sometimes too. For example, the last person to give up or the last person to stop trying to find a solution is likely to be the successful one – the first to give up usually has to watch from the sides while the other person is given all sorts of recognition for their hard work and determination.

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One thing you need to get used to right way is the idea that giving up is ridiculous. Never give up and never give yourself the kind of trouble later on in life that you could so easily have avoided.

4. They Never Focus on Possessions 

When you make a big purchase, you can feel like you have achieved something in life – however, this is not the case. You want to avoid this kind of problem as much as you possibly can because getting used to the idea that success = possessions is a very dangerous way to live your life. To avoid this problem, we need to look at the successful people out there. They look at their success through hard-earned achievements and legacies, not what they were able to buy!

5. They Never Look For The Big Fix

One thing many of us do, and fall into a trap doing, is chasing a big idea. Instead, a successful person builds up an incremental list of ideas that, over time, will give them the keys to the success they were looking for in the first place instead of trying to find a miracle.

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6. They Never Feel Ashamed To Ask For Help

The most important of the list, arguably, is that they aren’t afraid to ask for help. Someone who is successful got there because they took the time to learn and grow as an expert. Nobody is a genius from day one, so working with a mentor will help you become a more astute person. Successful people never make the mistake of not asking for help when needed.

7. They Never Work For Acclaim, But For Success

Many people want to go and work with x company or y business because it looks great on their CV – this is the wrong attitude to have. Instead, successful people will work for success and leave a legacy instead of ego and acclaim.

8. They Never Procrastinate

Leaving for tomorrow things that could finished today adds to inaction and not solving the issues. It is also a psychological burden that prevents people from further developing their creativity and taking on new tasks. Unnecessary stress is also something successful people avoid at any price.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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