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10 Things Mrs. Right Does To Make Mr. Right Commit To Her

10 Things Mrs. Right Does To Make Mr. Right Commit To Her

We all want to find that somebody who holds the key to our hearts. Everybody deserves a chance to love and to be loved. However, it is not easy to be committed to somebody. It takes hard work and effort on both sides for a relationship to work. Do you ever wonder — “how did that particular woman makes her man fall head over heels for her?” It’s not a mystery, she probably employed some useful tactics to get her man to commit to her. You deserve to have a committed partner and some of these things just might help.

Here are 10 things Mrs. Right does to make Mr. Right commit to her:

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1. She trusted him.

Trust is a simple but not easy word to carry on our shoulders. She is willing to put her doubts and uncertainty aside to fully give herself to him, in order to trust him. Sure, she might not know if he is definitely the man she can fully trust with her heart, but she is willing to take a chance with him.

2. She makes him smile.

A woman who knows how to make her man smile is surely a keeper. It doesn’t take a comedian to make a man smile. She is willing to show him every side of her without worrying of being judged. An authentic woman has a tendency to be funny and have the ability to relax enough to crack a joke or give a small gift. All she cares about is simply to see the smile on his face.

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3. She communicates with him.

The committed woman knows the importance of communication in a relationship. She doesn’t keep things to herself or expect her man to know exactly what she is thinking. She knows that he can’t read her mind, so she is willing to tell him what is in her mind. She talks to him about everything, from her favorite reality show to his favorite football games. A woman that wants her man to commit also delves into deeper topics like her feelings about her man.

4. She is supportive.

She might not fully understand all of his choices, but she is always there to support her man in all of his pursuits. She believes that he can achieve greatness. A dedicated woman supports her man especially at times when he is doubtful of himself. She makes sure he knows that she will always be there for him no matter what he chose to pursue.

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5. She encourages him.

It is easy for a man to find a woman when he has all the things in the world going his way. But a woman who sticks around through his thick and thins are not easy to find. She is not only staying when he is having a hard time, but she puts him back on track with her support when he is lost. She walks through the hardship together with him and assures him that things are going to work out for him eventually.

6. She is genuine.

She is not one to put out an act just to meet the expectations and standards of the society. A woman ready to commit is always true to herself. She is willing to show her man the good and bad side of her, even though she understands that not everybody will adore or like what she has to offer. She is happy to have him appreciating her for who she is.

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7. She is loyal.

She might have many other men she encounters in her life, but she chooses to stay faithful to him. He might not be the only man who wants her, but she knows that he is the one and only man she wants to be with. Faithfulness is the foundation of every committed relationship. She knows the boundaries she has to keep with her male friends, because she understands that if her closeness with her male friends bothers him, it is only because he cares. She makes sure she doesn’t step out of the line with her male friends because she respected her man.

8. She takes good care of him.

She makes sure he is well taken care of physically and emotionally. She makes sure he eats well, sleeps well and keeps track of his emotions. She knows what to say and when to say them. She understands that man doesn’t like to be nagged, so she keeps a good pace of telling him the right things when it is appropriate.

9. She is patient with him.

A committed woman is willing to wait patiently. She makes sure he is well taken care of by her, and she does everything in her power to make the relationship work. She knows that if he is the man she believes him to be, he will remain committed.

10. She connects with the people in his life.

She relates herself well with the people that matters to him. She understands that there are people in his life that he also cares about besides her. She connects well with the people around him, so that he doesn’t have to worry that she would feel neglected when he is around them.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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