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5 Good Reasons To Date A Single Mom (Even If It Isn’t Easy)

5 Good Reasons To Date A Single Mom (Even If It Isn’t Easy)

As we all know, dating can be a challenge. Whether you’re looking for casual flings or a serious relationship, aligning your personality, goals, and priorities with another human’s is extremely difficult. In fact, it’s so rare that many people choose to simply give up.

So, why not expand your options? For example, if you’re a guy, have you ever considered single mothers?

Single mothers represent a group that’s often discounted in the dating pool, but certainly shouldn’t be. It’s not easy to win the love of a single mom. But if you do, you’ll be lucky enough to enjoy some of the following things she brings to the table.

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1. She’s Independent and Mature

Unlike most single women, single moms have to look out for more than themselves. They have children to put first. And most importantly of all – they don’t have much help. Even if the father is still in the picture, he probably only relieves her of the responsibility less than half of the time. That says a lot about single women and reinforces the idea that they won’t rely on anyone else to be happy, successful, and sufficient. They’re used to relying on themselves to find their happiness and their success, so they won’t be clingy or immature.

“Remember she is doing the best she can – working, parenting, taking care of the home and trying to have a social life and date,” Janice Hoffman tells men dating single mothers. That independence builds strength and character.

2. She Knows How to Overcome Challenges

Whether it’s an unplanned pregnancy, failed marriage, or something worse, single mothers have confronted some difficult circumstances. This shows you that, regardless of what happens in your relationship, she’ll be able to overcome bigger challenges than other women. The result may not always be what you both have in mind, but you can rest assured she’ll find a way through it.

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“I am a single mom and I’m the breadwinner and I have to work and I have to do these things and that’s just the way it is,” actress Charisma Carpenter once said, verbalizing what most single mothers feel.

3. She Appreciates the Small Things

Whether it’s working, carpooling, shopping, cooking, cleaning, playing, or helping with homework, single moms do it all. Unfortunately, they rarely get thanked for what they do. It’s not that their children don’t appreciate them, but that they’re often incapable of reciprocation. As a dating partner, this means anything you do – even something as simple as ordering flowers and sending them to her office – will show her you care. “Above all else, dating single moms appreciate honesty,” says Alaina Sheer of SingleParentMeet.com.

Extravagance is unnecessary – just be you!

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4. She Understands Your Busy Schedule

As mentioned, single moms have busy schedules. That means they understand when you’re busy, too.

As Rachel Wolchin writes, “My entire life can be described in one sentence: it didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok.” While you should always clearly communicate your schedule and plans, single moms are more likely to let you off the hook when something comes up last minute (just as you should when the shoe’s on the other foot). They value what you bring to the table and appreciate your time.

5. She Knows Exactly What She Wants

Soul searching comes standard for single moms. Single mothers have had time to consider and understand what went wrong in previous relationships and are aware of what they want and need the second time around. This no-nonsense approach can be a breath of fresh air when you’re used to dating women with experimental attitudes.

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As one single mother once said, “A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn’t want for her daughter, nor allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for.”

So, what are you waiting for? Discover what millions of men already have: Dating a single mother is a rich and rewarding experience.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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