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5 Good Reasons To Date A Single Mom (Even If It Isn’t Easy)

5 Good Reasons To Date A Single Mom (Even If It Isn’t Easy)

As we all know, dating can be a challenge. Whether you’re looking for casual flings or a serious relationship, aligning your personality, goals, and priorities with another human’s is extremely difficult. In fact, it’s so rare that many people choose to simply give up.

So, why not expand your options? For example, if you’re a guy, have you ever considered single mothers?

Single mothers represent a group that’s often discounted in the dating pool, but certainly shouldn’t be. It’s not easy to win the love of a single mom. But if you do, you’ll be lucky enough to enjoy some of the following things she brings to the table.

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1. She’s Independent and Mature

Unlike most single women, single moms have to look out for more than themselves. They have children to put first. And most importantly of all – they don’t have much help. Even if the father is still in the picture, he probably only relieves her of the responsibility less than half of the time. That says a lot about single women and reinforces the idea that they won’t rely on anyone else to be happy, successful, and sufficient. They’re used to relying on themselves to find their happiness and their success, so they won’t be clingy or immature.

“Remember she is doing the best she can – working, parenting, taking care of the home and trying to have a social life and date,” Janice Hoffman tells men dating single mothers. That independence builds strength and character.

2. She Knows How to Overcome Challenges

Whether it’s an unplanned pregnancy, failed marriage, or something worse, single mothers have confronted some difficult circumstances. This shows you that, regardless of what happens in your relationship, she’ll be able to overcome bigger challenges than other women. The result may not always be what you both have in mind, but you can rest assured she’ll find a way through it.

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“I am a single mom and I’m the breadwinner and I have to work and I have to do these things and that’s just the way it is,” actress Charisma Carpenter once said, verbalizing what most single mothers feel.

3. She Appreciates the Small Things

Whether it’s working, carpooling, shopping, cooking, cleaning, playing, or helping with homework, single moms do it all. Unfortunately, they rarely get thanked for what they do. It’s not that their children don’t appreciate them, but that they’re often incapable of reciprocation. As a dating partner, this means anything you do – even something as simple as ordering flowers and sending them to her office – will show her you care. “Above all else, dating single moms appreciate honesty,” says Alaina Sheer of SingleParentMeet.com.

Extravagance is unnecessary – just be you!

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4. She Understands Your Busy Schedule

As mentioned, single moms have busy schedules. That means they understand when you’re busy, too.

As Rachel Wolchin writes, “My entire life can be described in one sentence: it didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok.” While you should always clearly communicate your schedule and plans, single moms are more likely to let you off the hook when something comes up last minute (just as you should when the shoe’s on the other foot). They value what you bring to the table and appreciate your time.

5. She Knows Exactly What She Wants

Soul searching comes standard for single moms. Single mothers have had time to consider and understand what went wrong in previous relationships and are aware of what they want and need the second time around. This no-nonsense approach can be a breath of fresh air when you’re used to dating women with experimental attitudes.

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As one single mother once said, “A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn’t want for her daughter, nor allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for.”

So, what are you waiting for? Discover what millions of men already have: Dating a single mother is a rich and rewarding experience.

Featured photo credit: PublicDomainPictures via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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