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7 Reasons Bilinguals Are Always Likeable

7 Reasons Bilinguals Are Always Likeable

In every language you will find traces of the people who use it and of when they used it. That is why Australian English differs from American English for example.

Bilinguals therefore don’t just know 2 or more languages, they also know as many cultures. Since each culture comes with its own world view, a typical bilingual has many, many world views.

That’s what makes them so special. Likeable, you’d say. From their different ways of saying je t’aime to their many ways of making peace, something about bilinguals just keeps pulling in those who get to know them.

Here is a portrait of these people.

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1. They Have Great Intuition

Many researches indicate that bilingualism can greatly improve one’s cognitive abilities, among other brain functions. One of these cognitive abilities is intuition, as bilinguals often have to juggle between multiple meanings for the same words and gestures, depending on who they meet.

Just like a trained muscle will develop more mass, juggling between contexts leaves bilinguals with greater intuitive skills.

2. They Are Open Minded

While monolinguals tend to believe that there is one right way of doing things, research shows that people raised as bilinguals understand that most things in life are subjective. They are rarely ever phased by difference or afraid of the new because at one point in life, the new was them.

3. They Are Uniquely Creative

If you’ve ever tried translating a joke from one language to another without killing its essence, then you know what I mean. Operating in the bilingual universe requires some serious out-of-the-boxeness.

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Look at it this way. Creativity is the measure how proficiently one can shuffle through old information, make working combinations and produce viable results. Bilinguals are forced to do lots of that. They pick a word from one language, dip it in another, slap onto it the right context reinforcer, test to see if the essence is intact and voila. A delicious phrase is born.

Because of the constant pull on their creative resources, bilinguals tend to develop great problem solving skills, which you can always put to use if you hang around them.

4. They Are Young At Heart

According to scientific research, bilinguals show signs of brain ageing and cognitive related diseases like Alzeimers and dementia far later in life than their monolingual counterparts. Let me explain.

Your white brain matter contains nerves, and those nerves are surrounded by myelin. When that myelin is in good health, the risk of losing information during transmission is reduced. In a typical bilingual, myelin is more developed than in a monolingual.  Which is why bilinguals tend to stay sharper, hence younger at heart, longer than monolinguals.

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5. They Are Powerful Connectors

Who would better introduce a german to a colombian than a spanish-speaking german? Bilinguals have the advantage of being brothers to everyone, which makes them effective social bridges. If you genuinely wish to understand a foreign colleague or acquaintance but don’t know how to approach them, start with a bilingual.

6. They Have A Rich Emotional IQ

Although love is a universal language, something about French love makes it different from Dutch love. To be able to express and receive love in many languages, requires you to be different people in one, to be triggered yet turned off by the same sentence depending on the accent in which it is said. The array of emotions a bilingual can understand, but most importantly express, is bounded by love itself. Which makes them unique leaders and lovers.

7. They Are A Reminder Of Home

When you feel disconnected in a foreign land, a simple conversation in your native tongue is sometimes all it takes to feel better. And because bilinguals offer expatriates the unique ability to describe their fears and joys in the language in which they are deepest, the two often form a unique bond. As a bilingual, I have seen the face of many people light up as I talk to them in the language they grew up with. To them I an not just whoever I am, I am a reminder of home.

In closing,

If you are not a bilingual yet, you’re not a lost case. All the benefits listed above apply to early bilinguals as well as late bilinguals.

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Only 300 words make up about 65% of all written English material and it is almost the same for other languages. You don’t need to know it all. Since there is no expiry date on your first step, today would be an awesome start. 1 word today, 2 tomorrow and through commitment  you’ll get there.

Du courage!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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