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10 Reasons To Date A Strong Woman

10 Reasons To Date A Strong Woman

While there are plenty of fish in the sea, I’m sure you’ve discovered by now that not every fish is for you. So, when you’re looking for that perfect match, who are you drawn to? Here are 10 reasons you may want to consider dating a strong woman.

1. She is proud of who she is, but won’t be easily offended

Because a strong woman has a high self-esteem, she isn’t likely to take things personally. She knows who she is and where she stands, so she will be able to view comments directed at her from a powerful perspective. Don’t think this means she’ll stand for being insulted. She’ll be quick to let you know when you’ve mislabeled her.

2. She expects you to be confident, but will love your strength

Strong women don’t just value personal strength, they value strength in others as well. She doesn’t want you to become weak so she can stand tall. Instead, she wants you to be an equal match, displaying as much strength as she does. This means you won’t have to weaken yourself in her presence. You’ll be able to voice your opinions and disagree with her if you feel differently than she does, without ruining the relationship.

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3. She wants you to blindly adore her, but will give you an adult relationship

Being petty, jealous, or immature isn’t her thing. What a strong woman values is a grown-up relationship that deals with life in a mature way. Her confidence that you adore her will keep her from being overly worried, and she will have the same expectations of you. She isn’t likely to be involved in an abusive relationship.

4. She is forward and blunt, but you will always know where you stand with her

A strong woman will let you know when you’ve upset her, so you won’t have to play the guessing game. This can be a great asset for resolving conflict and getting to the bottom of issues in your relationship, which can help to prevent them from growing into something more intense in the future.

5. She has high standards, but will help you to achieve more

Because she has such high standards for herself, she’ll push you to the same level, coming up with ideas and strategies and encouraging your self-belief. She believes that you can accomplish anything, and she’ll be your biggest supporter along the way.

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6. She is tough, but she won’t back down from difficult situations

When times get tough and you need someone by your side, she’ll be able to stand strong right next to you, so you can stay strong yourself — or have a moment of weakness. This doesn’t mean she won’t ever be weak herself, but she’ll show true strength when it’s needed.

7. She is determined, but will keep things interesting

Strong women know who they are and what they want, and because of that they are constantly changing and growing as they overcome bigger and better challenges. This will keep your life exciting and entertaining as you face new challenges and discover new ideas.

8. She expects authenticity, but will give you her heart

Her strong sense of self and unwillingness to have a fake relationship will keep the relationship authentic. She doesn’t want to settle for second best, so she will fight for a deep and intimate relationship.

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9. She has her own opinions, but offers a lot to conversations

Being full of her own ideas and opinions makes her a great person to engage in conversation with. She’ll be able to express her opinions thoughtfully and with conviction, so you can enjoy a give-and-take when talking.

10. She is self-motivated, but she will motivate you as well

Because a strong woman has to develop a motivational attitude towards herself to accomplish her goals, she has it down to a science when it comes to motivating you. She’ll be your biggest supporter and will defend and promote you to others.

Dating a strong woman will push you to a new level of maturity and emotional depth, as they challenge you to love them vigorously. Your efforts wont be wasted, as strong women are loyal and committed to their partners long-term, and can offer a fulfilling and exciting relationship.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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