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10 Reasons To Date A Strong Woman

10 Reasons To Date A Strong Woman

While there are plenty of fish in the sea, I’m sure you’ve discovered by now that not every fish is for you. So, when you’re looking for that perfect match, who are you drawn to? Here are 10 reasons you may want to consider dating a strong woman.

1. She is proud of who she is, but won’t be easily offended

Because a strong woman has a high self-esteem, she isn’t likely to take things personally. She knows who she is and where she stands, so she will be able to view comments directed at her from a powerful perspective. Don’t think this means she’ll stand for being insulted. She’ll be quick to let you know when you’ve mislabeled her.

2. She expects you to be confident, but will love your strength

Strong women don’t just value personal strength, they value strength in others as well. She doesn’t want you to become weak so she can stand tall. Instead, she wants you to be an equal match, displaying as much strength as she does. This means you won’t have to weaken yourself in her presence. You’ll be able to voice your opinions and disagree with her if you feel differently than she does, without ruining the relationship.

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3. She wants you to blindly adore her, but will give you an adult relationship

Being petty, jealous, or immature isn’t her thing. What a strong woman values is a grown-up relationship that deals with life in a mature way. Her confidence that you adore her will keep her from being overly worried, and she will have the same expectations of you. She isn’t likely to be involved in an abusive relationship.

4. She is forward and blunt, but you will always know where you stand with her

A strong woman will let you know when you’ve upset her, so you won’t have to play the guessing game. This can be a great asset for resolving conflict and getting to the bottom of issues in your relationship, which can help to prevent them from growing into something more intense in the future.

5. She has high standards, but will help you to achieve more

Because she has such high standards for herself, she’ll push you to the same level, coming up with ideas and strategies and encouraging your self-belief. She believes that you can accomplish anything, and she’ll be your biggest supporter along the way.

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6. She is tough, but she won’t back down from difficult situations

When times get tough and you need someone by your side, she’ll be able to stand strong right next to you, so you can stay strong yourself — or have a moment of weakness. This doesn’t mean she won’t ever be weak herself, but she’ll show true strength when it’s needed.

7. She is determined, but will keep things interesting

Strong women know who they are and what they want, and because of that they are constantly changing and growing as they overcome bigger and better challenges. This will keep your life exciting and entertaining as you face new challenges and discover new ideas.

8. She expects authenticity, but will give you her heart

Her strong sense of self and unwillingness to have a fake relationship will keep the relationship authentic. She doesn’t want to settle for second best, so she will fight for a deep and intimate relationship.

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9. She has her own opinions, but offers a lot to conversations

Being full of her own ideas and opinions makes her a great person to engage in conversation with. She’ll be able to express her opinions thoughtfully and with conviction, so you can enjoy a give-and-take when talking.

10. She is self-motivated, but she will motivate you as well

Because a strong woman has to develop a motivational attitude towards herself to accomplish her goals, she has it down to a science when it comes to motivating you. She’ll be your biggest supporter and will defend and promote you to others.

Dating a strong woman will push you to a new level of maturity and emotional depth, as they challenge you to love them vigorously. Your efforts wont be wasted, as strong women are loyal and committed to their partners long-term, and can offer a fulfilling and exciting relationship.

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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