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Ways To Overcome Both Fears and Phobias

Ways To Overcome Both Fears and Phobias

It can be a true struggle to face long hidden fears and phobias. These fears and phobias get the best of us and sometimes keep us from doing activities that we may actually enjoy doing. I know I have struggled with fears and phobias for my entire life. However, I am learning to let go and believe that I can take a step at a time to forget them and move on to live a life that I am proud of. I know I can teach you a few things that will let you overcome your own fears and phobias. Here is how:

1. Face them head on

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t face these fears, as it is completely okay to face them even head on. When saying “head on” I mean placing yourself directly viewing the fear, even though you may hesitate and be fearful. The brilliant part is that the fear may not even be scary. The saying is completely true: “Mind Over Matter.” So next time, even though you may be hesitant, fearful and nerve-wrecked, you have to stand up and do something about these fears. Otherwise they will consume you through life, not letting you live the kind of quality life you want.

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    2. Create a length of time after which you will face them

    If it isn’t in your blood to strike while the iron is hot, you can choose another option. You can give yourself time to think and then seize the opportunity to face your fears. In it you can analyze the situation you are currently in and observe how others react to fears, while jotting down notes. You will gain much needed self-assurance, resilience, confidence, while taking care of the aspects that I have wrote down previously. You will never be able to fail if you follow through them. However, if you do, know there is always a second chance. Never ever forget it. It will take you a very long way in life as life’s ups and downs are boggling, but they don’t get to us if we don’t let them. Have confidence and stay strong.

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      3. Know that you are not the only one

      Knowing that you are not the only one with fear makes you realize that you are just like everybody else. There is nothing shameful in having fears or phobias- they are emotions like sadness, happiness, anger and joy. Fear happens to arrive when we feel threatened by a situation, person, or feeling itself. Know that other people have fears also; they are just as much human as you are. Make yourself feel better about the fact and never put yourself down for it. You are human and prone to feelings. Why be mad, frustrated, or angry at feeling a certain way? That friends doesn’t make sense and you shouldn’t feel this way. You have full right to feel something just as much as anybody else.

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        4. Give yourself a pep talk when needed

        If you feel as if these fears and phobias are holding you back, then a pep talk is needed. Reaffirm the belief that you are an individual with fears. You don’t need to be ashamed but you just need to talk it through with yourself. Sometimes we just forget that we have restrictions and we are not perfect. Let go of this fear because it is pointless and surely will not get you anywhere. You are fine just the way you are. All that needs to be done is that you need to take one step in the direction to eliminate this fear and phobia. You have the power in you. You can do it. And you will. I know it.

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          How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

          How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

          Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

          You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

          Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

          1. Work on the small tasks.

          When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

          Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

          2. Take a break from your work desk.

          Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

          Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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          3. Upgrade yourself

          Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

          The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

          4. Talk to a friend.

          Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

          Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

          5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

          If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

          Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

          Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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          6. Paint a vision to work towards.

          If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

          Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

          Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

          7. Read a book (or blog).

          The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

          Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

          Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

          8. Have a quick nap.

          If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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          9. Remember why you are doing this.

          Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

          What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

          10. Find some competition.

          Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

          Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

          11. Go exercise.

          Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

          Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

          As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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          Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

          12. Take a good break.

          Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

          Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

          Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

          Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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