Advertising
Advertising

Ways To Overcome Both Fears and Phobias

Ways To Overcome Both Fears and Phobias

It can be a true struggle to face long hidden fears and phobias. These fears and phobias get the best of us and sometimes keep us from doing activities that we may actually enjoy doing. I know I have struggled with fears and phobias for my entire life. However, I am learning to let go and believe that I can take a step at a time to forget them and move on to live a life that I am proud of. I know I can teach you a few things that will let you overcome your own fears and phobias. Here is how:

1. Face them head on

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t face these fears, as it is completely okay to face them even head on. When saying “head on” I mean placing yourself directly viewing the fear, even though you may hesitate and be fearful. The brilliant part is that the fear may not even be scary. The saying is completely true: “Mind Over Matter.” So next time, even though you may be hesitant, fearful and nerve-wrecked, you have to stand up and do something about these fears. Otherwise they will consume you through life, not letting you live the kind of quality life you want.

Advertising

blog-you-need-to-face-your-fears

    2. Create a length of time after which you will face them

    If it isn’t in your blood to strike while the iron is hot, you can choose another option. You can give yourself time to think and then seize the opportunity to face your fears. In it you can analyze the situation you are currently in and observe how others react to fears, while jotting down notes. You will gain much needed self-assurance, resilience, confidence, while taking care of the aspects that I have wrote down previously. You will never be able to fail if you follow through them. However, if you do, know there is always a second chance. Never ever forget it. It will take you a very long way in life as life’s ups and downs are boggling, but they don’t get to us if we don’t let them. Have confidence and stay strong.

    Advertising

    face-your-fear

      3. Know that you are not the only one

      Knowing that you are not the only one with fear makes you realize that you are just like everybody else. There is nothing shameful in having fears or phobias- they are emotions like sadness, happiness, anger and joy. Fear happens to arrive when we feel threatened by a situation, person, or feeling itself. Know that other people have fears also; they are just as much human as you are. Make yourself feel better about the fact and never put yourself down for it. You are human and prone to feelings. Why be mad, frustrated, or angry at feeling a certain way? That friends doesn’t make sense and you shouldn’t feel this way. You have full right to feel something just as much as anybody else.

      Advertising

      Fears-are-stories

        4. Give yourself a pep talk when needed

        If you feel as if these fears and phobias are holding you back, then a pep talk is needed. Reaffirm the belief that you are an individual with fears. You don’t need to be ashamed but you just need to talk it through with yourself. Sometimes we just forget that we have restrictions and we are not perfect. Let go of this fear because it is pointless and surely will not get you anywhere. You are fine just the way you are. All that needs to be done is that you need to take one step in the direction to eliminate this fear and phobia. You have the power in you. You can do it. And you will. I know it.

        Advertising

        1357570255_3905_fear

          More by this author

          Ramanpreet Kaur

          Currently a student but don't know what direction to go in: Let us see if writing gets me anywhere :)

          Why Drinking Water Is So Good For Your Body How To Go Through College And Stay Sane The Oldest Person In The World Reveals Her Secrets To Longevity If You Have A Weird Sister, Never Leave Her Alone 13 Amazing Yiddish Words That Can’t Be Directly Translated Into English

          Trending in Lifestyle

          1 How to Get the Best Deep Sleep (And Why It’s Important) 2 How to Practice Meditation for Anxiety and Stress Relief 3 How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators 4 12 Sad Things That You Should Learn to Be Grateful For Instead 5 7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

          Read Next

          Advertising
          Advertising
          Advertising

          Last Updated on September 16, 2019

          How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

          How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

          You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

          We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

          The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

          Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

          1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

          Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

          For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

          Advertising

          • (1) Research
          • (2) Deciding the topic
          • (3) Creating the outline
          • (4) Drafting the content
          • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
          • (6) Revision
          • (7) etc.

          Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

          2. Change Your Environment

          Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

          One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

          3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

          Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

          Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

          My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

          Advertising

          Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

          4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

          If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

          Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

          I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

          5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

          I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

          Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

          Advertising

          As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

          6. Get a Buddy

          Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

          I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

          7. Tell Others About Your Goals

          This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

          For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

          8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

          What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

          Advertising

          9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

          If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

          Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

          10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

          Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

          Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

          11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

          At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

          Reality check:

          I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

          More About Procrastination

          Featured photo credit: Malvestida Magazine via unsplash.com

          Read Next