It can be a true struggle to face long hidden fears and phobias. These fears and phobias get the best of us and sometimes keep us from doing activities that we may actually enjoy doing. I know I have struggled with fears and phobias for my entire life. However, I am learning to let go and believe that I can take a step at a time to forget them and move on to live a life that I am proud of. I know I can teach you a few things that will let you overcome your own fears and phobias. Here is how:
1. Face them head on
Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t face these fears, as it is completely okay to face them even head on. When saying “head on” I mean placing yourself directly viewing the fear, even though you may hesitate and be fearful. The brilliant part is that the fear may not even be scary. The saying is completely true: “Mind Over Matter.” So next time, even though you may be hesitant, fearful and nerve-wrecked, you have to stand up and do something about these fears. Otherwise they will consume you through life, not letting you live the kind of quality life you want.
2. Create a length of time after which you will face them
If it isn’t in your blood to strike while the iron is hot, you can choose another option. You can give yourself time to think and then seize the opportunity to face your fears. In it you can analyze the situation you are currently in and observe how others react to fears, while jotting down notes. You will gain much needed self-assurance, resilience, confidence, while taking care of the aspects that I have wrote down previously. You will never be able to fail if you follow through them. However, if you do, know there is always a second chance. Never ever forget it. It will take you a very long way in life as life’s ups and downs are boggling, but they don’t get to us if we don’t let them. Have confidence and stay strong.
3. Know that you are not the only one
Knowing that you are not the only one with fear makes you realize that you are just like everybody else. There is nothing shameful in having fears or phobias- they are emotions like sadness, happiness, anger and joy. Fear happens to arrive when we feel threatened by a situation, person, or feeling itself. Know that other people have fears also; they are just as much human as you are. Make yourself feel better about the fact and never put yourself down for it. You are human and prone to feelings. Why be mad, frustrated, or angry at feeling a certain way? That friends doesn’t make sense and you shouldn’t feel this way. You have full right to feel something just as much as anybody else.
4. Give yourself a pep talk when needed
If you feel as if these fears and phobias are holding you back, then a pep talk is needed. Reaffirm the belief that you are an individual with fears. You don’t need to be ashamed but you just need to talk it through with yourself. Sometimes we just forget that we have restrictions and we are not perfect. Let go of this fear because it is pointless and surely will not get you anywhere. You are fine just the way you are. All that needs to be done is that you need to take one step in the direction to eliminate this fear and phobia. You have the power in you. You can do it. And you will. I know it.