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5 Reasons Why Misunderstanding Mindfulness & Spirituality Is Robbing People Of Their Happiness.

5 Reasons Why Misunderstanding Mindfulness & Spirituality Is Robbing People Of Their Happiness.

Life Is More Than Spirituality & Being Mindful. Or do we just not understand these two notions? People are confused, living in a fog, they want answers, they feel like there is more, more to this fast changing and crazy busy life we lead. The world is not getting bigger, it’s getting smaller! We are a touch of a button away to sending messages around the world to multiple people instantly. We’re dealing with a global market where anything is possible. Think about how the world is changing. This could lead us to amazing things.

But for that to happen we must remove the fog. It’s autopilot on steroids, most people wake up and before they have even left their house they’re stressed, on edge and frustrated. They get to work and they’re stressed, on edge and frustrated. They get home and yes they’re stressed, on edge and frustrated. We have all been there, maybe you are there or maybe you know someone who is living this right now? To the everyday person on the street there are two words that are stopping people from being happy: Mindfulness & Spirituality. Read on to find out why.

What if we could change the perception that is around mindfulness and spirituality, so we can begin to really understand what it entails and why we need to embrace it. Let’s explore the reasons and how mindfulness and spirituality is sometimes perceived wrong and is stopping people from being happy, less stressed and better equipped to live life in this busy world and be all they can be.

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1. The perception

If you live life as spiritual person and you practise mindfulness you live life with your head in the clouds, you’re a tree hugging hippie. This is how people perceive a mindful and spiritual person.

The hack: The perception couldn’t be farther away from the truth. Mindful and spiritual people are emotionally resilient, extremely focused and extremely good at what they do. They are real people living in a real world and have real jobs. In fact most leaders live by this, Steve Jobs, Oprah, Richard Branson.

2. The closet meditator

It’s no secret that most people realise the perception people have around mindfulness and spirituality, and therefore are fearful of how people will perceive them, treat them, how they will judge them and how they will treat them differently if they associate with these two things. Or worse they don’t take them seriously within their profession.

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The hack: It’s not sustainable nor will you benefit from hiding your mindfullness and spirituality, because you are giving people just a portion of who you are. The same person you have always been and so much more is who you have to be. There is nothing weird, nothing crazy, and nothing too freaky. Living this way allows you to be in the moment and not get lost in the past, worry or daydream about the future. Instead embody kindness, curiosity and acceptance of yourself and others.

3. Seeing the unseen

When people think spirituality, they think crystal balls, spirits and ghosts or tarot card readings. Seedy psychic readings at a carnival and oh what the mind imagines…

The hack: All spirituality really is connecting the physical body with the emotional body and the spirit body. To feel all sensations in your body, even the bad ones, without getting attached to them or wanting them to go away. To be aware off thoughts without believing they are the only version of the truth. To listen and feel your emotions and embrace whatever you feel at the time, even the unpleasant and the uncomfortable.

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4. Your brain is not your mind

The brain and the mind are commonly viewed as the same, but they are very different. People who are stressed, anxious or ignorant are unable to connect and feel any real emotions, or only the ones that the brain creates. Use your emotional guidance system. Having all emotions is perfectly normal, fear, anger, frustration and even rage. It’s what you do with it, that counts, it’s just your body’s way of saying “You’re not aligned to this thought, this feeling or this action”. No drama. Reach for a better one.

The hack: When you’re more compassionate towards yourself, others and situations, when you do this meticulously, you experience more love, deeper love, laughter and happiness, better health and you improve the impact you contribute to the world. It’s about strengthening and training the mind to be stable so you can think clearly.

5. Stress is inevitable

In this crazy busy life we lead that moves at lightening speed, stress has become a normal part of life that we just have to deal with. Strength is determined by ones ability to see through the tough times and not let things get to them. To fight, hustle, push it aside and soldier on.

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The hack: We have a choice, we can see the good in people and things, or we can see the bad. Seeing the bad simply causes unnecessary stress and unhappiness. Seeing the good in things and people or just simply letting it be allows us to realise that stress isn’t caused by situations, it’s cause by the thoughts we have towards them and how we react to them.

Featured photo credit: Alice Popkorn via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 15, 2019

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

Listen carefully:

We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

1. Pray Daily

You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

3. Smile Often

Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

4. Organize Your Working Desk

A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

How do you do that? This is my formula:

First, go to my website (find my website here in my profile) and take the smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

8. Go Exercise

Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

The Bottom Line

It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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