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5 Reasons Why Misunderstanding Mindfulness & Spirituality Is Robbing People Of Their Happiness.

5 Reasons Why Misunderstanding Mindfulness & Spirituality Is Robbing People Of Their Happiness.

Life Is More Than Spirituality & Being Mindful. Or do we just not understand these two notions? People are confused, living in a fog, they want answers, they feel like there is more, more to this fast changing and crazy busy life we lead. The world is not getting bigger, it’s getting smaller! We are a touch of a button away to sending messages around the world to multiple people instantly. We’re dealing with a global market where anything is possible. Think about how the world is changing. This could lead us to amazing things.

But for that to happen we must remove the fog. It’s autopilot on steroids, most people wake up and before they have even left their house they’re stressed, on edge and frustrated. They get to work and they’re stressed, on edge and frustrated. They get home and yes they’re stressed, on edge and frustrated. We have all been there, maybe you are there or maybe you know someone who is living this right now? To the everyday person on the street there are two words that are stopping people from being happy: Mindfulness & Spirituality. Read on to find out why.

What if we could change the perception that is around mindfulness and spirituality, so we can begin to really understand what it entails and why we need to embrace it. Let’s explore the reasons and how mindfulness and spirituality is sometimes perceived wrong and is stopping people from being happy, less stressed and better equipped to live life in this busy world and be all they can be.

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1. The perception

If you live life as spiritual person and you practise mindfulness you live life with your head in the clouds, you’re a tree hugging hippie. This is how people perceive a mindful and spiritual person.

The hack: The perception couldn’t be farther away from the truth. Mindful and spiritual people are emotionally resilient, extremely focused and extremely good at what they do. They are real people living in a real world and have real jobs. In fact most leaders live by this, Steve Jobs, Oprah, Richard Branson.

2. The closet meditator

It’s no secret that most people realise the perception people have around mindfulness and spirituality, and therefore are fearful of how people will perceive them, treat them, how they will judge them and how they will treat them differently if they associate with these two things. Or worse they don’t take them seriously within their profession.

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The hack: It’s not sustainable nor will you benefit from hiding your mindfullness and spirituality, because you are giving people just a portion of who you are. The same person you have always been and so much more is who you have to be. There is nothing weird, nothing crazy, and nothing too freaky. Living this way allows you to be in the moment and not get lost in the past, worry or daydream about the future. Instead embody kindness, curiosity and acceptance of yourself and others.

3. Seeing the unseen

When people think spirituality, they think crystal balls, spirits and ghosts or tarot card readings. Seedy psychic readings at a carnival and oh what the mind imagines…

The hack: All spirituality really is connecting the physical body with the emotional body and the spirit body. To feel all sensations in your body, even the bad ones, without getting attached to them or wanting them to go away. To be aware off thoughts without believing they are the only version of the truth. To listen and feel your emotions and embrace whatever you feel at the time, even the unpleasant and the uncomfortable.

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4. Your brain is not your mind

The brain and the mind are commonly viewed as the same, but they are very different. People who are stressed, anxious or ignorant are unable to connect and feel any real emotions, or only the ones that the brain creates. Use your emotional guidance system. Having all emotions is perfectly normal, fear, anger, frustration and even rage. It’s what you do with it, that counts, it’s just your body’s way of saying “You’re not aligned to this thought, this feeling or this action”. No drama. Reach for a better one.

The hack: When you’re more compassionate towards yourself, others and situations, when you do this meticulously, you experience more love, deeper love, laughter and happiness, better health and you improve the impact you contribute to the world. It’s about strengthening and training the mind to be stable so you can think clearly.

5. Stress is inevitable

In this crazy busy life we lead that moves at lightening speed, stress has become a normal part of life that we just have to deal with. Strength is determined by ones ability to see through the tough times and not let things get to them. To fight, hustle, push it aside and soldier on.

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The hack: We have a choice, we can see the good in people and things, or we can see the bad. Seeing the bad simply causes unnecessary stress and unhappiness. Seeing the good in things and people or just simply letting it be allows us to realise that stress isn’t caused by situations, it’s cause by the thoughts we have towards them and how we react to them.

Featured photo credit: Alice Popkorn via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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