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30 Thoughts to Keep You Positive

30 Thoughts to Keep You Positive

We all get upset every now and then and lose hope, think that things will never get better and we probably won’t have the life we’ve always been dreaming about.

But that’s not true. Let’s not live in the prison of being sad and depressed because of momentous stuff, other people, daily problems or outer factors.

Positivity can be kept throughout the whole year and once you get used to this attitude towards life, you’ll become much more contented with who you are and the way things turn out. You’ll be smiling more, will focus on the good stuff in your life and that will make you considerably more satisfied and peaceful.

Here are some things to keep in mind that will remind you of how good life actually is:

1. Everything you don’t like about yourself and your life can be changed.

2. Happiness is right here, in the present moment.

3. You deserve to be happy.

4. Your actions inspire people.

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    5. With every hardship you encounter, you become stronger.

    6. Your mistakes are your experience, and now you know what not to do next time. That puts you a few steps ahead of others.

    7. At any moment you can meet someone who’s going to change your life.

    8. No matter how bad you feel and what phase you’re going through now, remember two things:
    – it could have been worse;
    – it’s temporary.

    9. Success doesn’t depend on age, nationality, gender, looks, connections, capital, education or religion. These are just outer factors.
    If you have a purpose, stay focused and consistent and believe in yourself and your dreams, you can make them come true.

    10. It’s just a bad day and it doesn’t mean your life sucks. Just wait for tomorrow.

    11. After every time it rains, there comes a rainbow.
    And after every sunset – a sunrise.

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    12. Some people look up to you without you even knowing.

    13. No good deed is ever wasted. Keep helping, giving and showing compassion. It’s worth it.

    14. Whatever you think about, you attract. So keep it positive and you’ll have a good life.

    15. Let the result of your efforts be the motivation you need to keep going.

    16. When you fix your relationship with yourself – and start to love, listen to, accept and appreciate yourself for who you are – you’ll be able to have great relationships with other people too.

    17.If you don’t do something right, you can always try again tomorrow.

    18. You can still have the body you want – clean eating + training + consistency is the only formula that actually works. It’s your choice.

    19. The bad things from the past don’t have any place in your present. Learn from what has already happened, let go of it and make space for new amazing memories.

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      20. Focus on the things you have in your life. You’ll soon see how rich you are and will start appreciating the abundance you live in.

      21. At that moment things are just the way they should be. Trust the natural flow and don’t interfere.
      In the next moment they’ll be different, but still just as they should be.

      22. All diseases come from stress and unhealthy lifestyle. Change your habits and you can live a healthy life.

      23. You’re unique. And no one can take that from you.

      24. Life is full of opportunities. You just need to take them and give them a try.

      25. You can turn your hobby into a career and find a way to make an income from it. Then you’ll never have to work a day in your life because all your time will be dedicated to your passion – the things you love doing the most.

      26. You have enough time. Slow down. But still, don’t waste it.

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      27. You don’t need to work a job you hate. You’re your own boss and can just quit and find something better.

      28. You shouldn’t live by someone else’s standards. Play by your rules and do what you want.

      29. The future is uncertain. That’s the only certain thing. But you can be positive about it and be sure that whatever happens it’s going to be the right thing. And while doing that, enjoy life in the present moment.

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        30. A relationship can always be saved. Learn to be honest, to say sorry and to forget.

        All these things are simple and obvious, and we all know them, but we tend to forget because of all the distractions around us. So it’s never too late to remind yourself of these 30 things, and add even more to them, and then see life through the eyes of a positive person.

        Featured photo credit: Green Paddy Fields by Aikawa Ke via flickr.com

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        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

        The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

        Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

        Posture

        First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

        • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
        • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
        • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
        • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

        All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

        Facial Expressions

        Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

        • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
        • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
        • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

        If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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        1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

        A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

        The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

        This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

        2. Relax Your Face

        New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

        The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

        To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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        3. Improve Your Eye Contact

        Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

        The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

        To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

        3. Smile More

        There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

        Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

        4. Hand Gestures

        Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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        It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

        5. Enhance Your Handshake

        In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

        “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

        It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

        6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

        As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

        Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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        Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

        Final Takeaways

        Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

        If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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        Featured photo credit: Maria Lupan via unsplash.com

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