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6 Powerful Ways to Transform Your Life in 2013

6 Powerful Ways to Transform Your Life in 2013

Do you sometimes feel like you are in a rut and you can’t get out? We all do from time to time. When I was younger, I remember lying in my bed most evenings before I fell asleep, and all I could think about was everything that was going wrong in my life, and played a video of all the things I wasn’t happy with over and over in my mind. I would think about all the things that I wasn’t achieving and wished that something would happen one day to make everything better, a miracle. Unfortunately, that miraculous day never came and the video kept playing over and over each night before I slept.

Did you know that only 10 percent of your happiness comes from external circumstances? At that time, I didn’t know that. When things aren’t going as well as you want them to, perhaps you aren’t getting the results you want or you feel like you are in a dip, it’s difficult to see how things are really going to turn out the way you want them to.

Sometimes when we are so caught up in our “problems”, we are unable to see any solution ahead or we keep trying to fix everything on the outside, when in fact, it is the inside that needs a little tweaking as well. Sometimes the smallest changes have the most influential impact and can change your life forever.

Over the years, I learnt some really powerful principles that transformed my life and it took a complete 360 degree turn, the results have been unbelievable. If you practice just a few of these principles below, I know you won’t deny how powerful they are

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1.  Change your focus

Why? Because what you focus on, you create more of. The worst thing to do when something bad happens is to keep thinking about how unfair, how crazy, or how unbelievable it was. The fact is that we can’t change what happens, but we have a choice in how we respond and deal with what happened. If you only focus on what isn’t going right, how will you be able to see what can go right?

Start to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want; start to focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do. Focus on what is going well and not on what isn’t going well. Do you get my point? We do it subconsciously, but we are only sabotaging ourselves in the end because what we focus on is what we bring about.

2.  Question every thought

Your thinking is shaped by your beliefs about the world, your paradigms, and beliefs, and how you see the world is different to everybody else. Your experiences as a child, your parents, friends and family influenced your views and the way you perceive the world—basically, how you think. Unfortunately,  the beliefs you formed might not all have been good for you, but may hold you back instead.

If you want to change your results, start by looking at the related supporting belief. Your beliefs give you thoughts, which give you feelings. Then you act on your feelings, and this gives you your behavior, which in turn leads to your results. Question your thoughts and identify the limiting ones. If you don’t think something is possible, it isn’t. If you don’t think it will work out, it won’t. Take control of your thoughts or they will control you.

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3.  Aim to change or re-develop a bad habit

We all have some bad habits that are obviously not helping us very much. Habits can be the most challenging to overcome. but it is definitely worth the time and effort put in to try. Habits are formed from repetition, and the best way to undo a habit is to replace it with a better habit, also through repetition.

Which habits are undermining your results? What new habit could you develop to transform your results? Choose one habit to change and start with that, even if it’s just checking your email every 2 hours instead of 10 minutes—your results will change!

4.  Take Responsibility

If you want to change your results, you need to accept responsibility for them. It’s not empowering to feel like a victim and to blame others for the results you have. You can either be on the “cause” or the “effect” side of the equation; which side do you choose to be on? You have control over the results in your life, and you have influence, if you want. It is up to you to decide to take hold of the reins again and take responsibility for the things that you are not happy with. If you take responsibility for your results, your results will change.

5.  That one skill!

What is one skill that, if you excelled at it, would change your life forever? Sometimes, the thng that keeps holding us back is a constant; something we feel that we are generally lacking in. Is it public speaking, communication, time management or positive thinking? Imagine how different your results would be if you could master the one skill that keeps holding you back? Here are some great ideas 

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6.  Make a 30-day plan

Another great way to change your results quickly is by using the 30-day plan. The idea is to think about what you want to achieve/change in the next 30 days only, so it is not so overwhelming and easier to start.

You can do this in 3 easy steps.

1. Think about what you want to accomplish in 30 days. How many new clients do you want? How much weight do you want to lose? Etc; Write down your 30 day goals. Make sure they are specific, measurable, and attainable, but still challenging and exciting!

2. Think about what you need to do to accomplish each goal. Write down all the action steps you are going to need to do, break them into weekly and daily tasks and put them in your calendar.

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3. Think about your obstacles—what could happen that would prevent you from achieving this goal. Be prepared for the moments you normally hesitate and make a plan to overcome your obstacle.

These ideas have worked for me and millions of others. Some of the ideas may seem simple, but if you are not seeing the results you want, your solution might not be so complicated!

I challenge you to take up one of the suggestions in this article. Share your comments; I would love to hear your thoughts, ideas and stories!

 

 

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Last Updated on September 24, 2020

11 Things You Should Minimize for a Better Life

11 Things You Should Minimize for a Better Life

Ever heard the statement less is more? Is that a reality in your life or is that an area you are struggling with? Below are 11 different areas you can look at in your life to start to reduce as you focus on building a better life.

Let’s get to it:

Your Stuff

I call it stuff vs possessions. Stuff is what adds clutter in your life. It could be shoes, curios from the cute store in your town or excess appliances you need to throw out but never do. What is it that is overtaking your house that if you moved away you wouldn’t need it at all? Plan a Sunday afternoon throw out session. If throwing out doesn’t sit right then give it away to goodwill.

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Your Acquaintances

How many people are you interacting with throughout the week that don’t leave you feeling good about yourself? Who inspires you? Spend time with those people. Too often we keep people in our lives that we are no longer a fit for. Having too many old acquaintances adds to the excess in your life. If the relationship isn’t a win-win for you both then take a step back and focus on those that do.

Your Goals

Motivated to write out your list of goal for the next month or 3 months? That is awesome. Just a few works of caution. Don’t write down too many. Often people write down over ten goals. The brain can only remember so much and the reality is you won’t get to them all. I suggest you look at your goals with the mindset of single digits. No more than ten, but ideally less than five. Keep the list focused and realistic.

Your Commitments

A new favorite buzz saying in the self-help world is “No is the new Yes”. Take a moment to think about that saying. If you started saying no more how would your week and life look? Would you have more time to commit to the important goals and people in your life? Start to practice saying No when a request comes your way that you don’t want to do. If that feels too harsh try responding with these words “Let me get back to you”. Go away and come back with a no when you are in stronger mindset to say that.

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Your Multitasking

I am giving you permission to stop multitasking. We used to be told that multitasking was a good practice. We look so busy and aren’t we getting a lot done? In fact, no. Multitasking isn’t possible with the way our brain is wired. We need to focus on one key thing and keep our attention on that item until it is complete.

Your Newsfeed

I consider all the information from the Internet that is being feed into our smartphone, laptop and brain as “the newsfeed.” It doesn’t add to having more knowledge, it adds to information overload. Build time in your day or week when you are completely offline. I recommend turning your wireless off or setting your smart phone to airplane mode.

Your Cards

Open up your wallet and take a look inside. What is in it? For most of us it is more than one store, charge or loyalty card. Too many cards add to extra spending, bills and lack of clarity of where our money goes. Look at what cards you truly need and use. Get rid of the rest (scissors work!).

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Your Mail

Both the old style (postal) and your email inbox are areas to minimize. Look at ways to get off catalogs or reduce the magazine subscriptions as you never read all of them anyway. Figure out what mail, e.g. bank statements, can be changed to digital mail only. Try the same with your inbox. Sites like unroll.me can tell you how many email newsletters you are subscribed to and you can take your name off the list that you know longer need.

Your Sitting Time

Too much time in front of the screen is not good for the posture and health of your body. Try setting a timer so every 50 minutes you get up and stretch or go for a five minute walk. We don’t realize how bad our posture is when we sit for long periods of time. The studies on sitting disease are what led to standing and walking desks to be invented. If your office doesn’t have that get into a regular habit to stand and walk often in your day.

Too much time by yourself can led the mind to wander. When the mind wanders it will often return with negative thoughts and beliefs. While a walk by yourself and some downtime is rejuvenating take notice if you start to feel un- inspired or a little sad and make sure you aren’t spending too much time in your own company. This is especially important for those of us who work from home. Make sure to have people interaction throughout your day.

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Your Lack of Belief

If you want to make a change or achieve a goal in your life you need to truly, 100 percent believe you can. If you don’t believe in yourself then why should anyone else?

The difference between a successful person and someone struggling can be as simple as a mindset switch to believe that they will succeed.

What areas can you minimize to create more happiness, focus and productivity in your life? Implement just a handful from the list and you will find that the mindset of ‘Less is More’ will be what leads you on the path to a better life!

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