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11 Things Every Parent Can Do To Make Their Kids Much Happier

11 Things Every Parent Can Do To Make Their Kids Much Happier

Are you a caring parent who is willing to go the extra mile for the welfare of your child? Have you ever wondered whether your busy lifestyle is affecting their normal upbringing? Pause for a moment and think how children feel and what kind of mental state they are suffering from. Children are very innocent at heart and so if they want to play or want to know something related to their education you shouldn’t ignore them or show your displeasure even though you may be tired, because such behavior hurts them. As a parent you must know how important it is for you to get involved in your children’s education as it increases their chances of success considerably.

As per a survey done by researchers from the Institute for Social and Economic Research, the affect of being a full-time working mother or dad on a kid’s education is the same as growing up in a single-parent family. Research shows that a child’s potential to do well at exams come down by 20% in cases where the mother returns to work. Such children (age 5-10) whose mothers are busy with their work do worse at school and suffer from mental stress compared to those youngsters whose mothers stay at home to bring them up and help them in their studies.

The study showed that during the 1970s and early 1980s, average mothers worked full-time for 18 months before the child was five. Almost two third of their kids i.e. approximately 64% of them achieved at least one A-level or equal qualification. It was seen that for mothers who worked for 30 months and over before their kid was five, only 52% of the children achieved one A-level pass.

However, compared to the earlier periods the working parents of today are more affected by feelings of guilt. A new study says that around 42% of parents that participated in the study were unhappy that they couldn’t fulfill their role as ideal parents during the week days. The research also shows that it is the quality of your involvement and not the quantity that counts. For example you may spend hours with your child but it will serve no useful purpose if you remain aloof to its desires and needs for emotional connect. So don’t be with the child just for the heck of it while you play away at your mobile phone or whatsoever. Make your child the center of your focus.

Research says that children of parents who are more involved in their kid’s education and other extracurricular activities tend to be more intelligent and active. So, it’s very essential to support and guide your children whether it’s for education, games or teaching them good and bad habits. No matter how busy you are with your daily work schedule, there are plenty of things that you can do for your children during your free time.

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Here are some ideas for busy parents to get their children a little more outdoor time without causing your head and busy schedule to burst out!

Put on a happy face

happy face

    By the time you reach home after a tiring day at the office, your entire body may be hurting but still when your kids come running to you and share all his/her activities that he/she did in school, you should put on a smile and meet their expectations so that they feel you are their best friend. But, if you put them away and ask them to come later then their joy in having you around might disappear.

    Don’t brush off your child’s concerns

    Make your children understand that you are always available to talk with them and share whatever is disturbing them. If you brush aside the feeling of your kid or try to ignore it, the child will keep his feelings inside and never express it to you. So, be a good listener as it can be very helpful in dealing with children.

    Plan family time

    Though, you might be having a busy life during the week days, try to take out some time from your busy schedule and plan unique activities to enjoy with your kids like games, bike ride, or do some creative activities. You may also take your child to shopping malls or water parks, where they can spend time with you.

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    Hold family meetings weekly

    Family Meetings

      Kids feel very special if they are taken seriously and their ideas are praised. Your children may help you to make morning and bedtime routines and come up with creative ways to manage chores. It’s very exciting to see how children are more willing to follow the plans and rules created by them. Such meetings can also help children learn how to solve problems and be cooperative. They get the chance to put forward their problems in family meetings so that the parent can solve it and make them understand in a proper way.

      Lead family discussions with children

      Dinnertime is the perfect time for your family to have discussions about the latest news, topics, and new stories. Parents may also discuss about science education so that children can gain some knowledge and interact more with parents. In this way, busy parents can guide their children and be their idol.

      Instead of sidelining your children, ask them whether they can help you

      Kids are very innocent creatures who always hanker after their parents’ love and attention. So, it makes them feel special when parents ask for their help instead of lecturing and scolding them. Ask for their help in a polite manner instead of asking for it rudely or harshly, as they feel they are being scolded and brought down. Like, if you find your child’s room dirty or things are kept here and there then ask him/her to help you in making it clean instead of scolding him or her for making it dirty.

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      Get new clothes for your kid and make them glad

      Get new clothes for your kid

        Are you too busy with your office work and responsibilities? Does your child ask to go out for shopping? No worry, you no more have to say your child ‘NO’ as if you can’t go shopping with them, search online and get the colorful clothes for them. Why to roam here and there around the streets when you can easily get a huge variety from the comfort of your home? All you need to do is to steal some time from your busy schedule and do online shopping for kid’s clothing. There are plenty of online shopping store for children where you may get huge collection in vibrant designs and colors. In this way you can shop the perfect clothes for your child by saving your time and money as well. So, buy trendy clothes for your kids online and make them realize how special they are for you.

        Outings on weekends

        Weekends are generally busy as you have lots of things to do at home but you can finish it off quickly and plan an outdoor adventure for the joy of your child as it could add fun and rejuvenate you and your child’s mind. You can also take the family to nearby Local Park for a picnic and meals together. After all, it’s always good to have family get together to talk and relish various outdoor activities.

        Be a good companion for your kid

        No matter how busy you are, the most important thing is to build a strong relationship with your kid. Though, you can’t spare sufficient time for them, but whenever you are free like at night, during breakfast time, etc., show your interest and talk to your child as if you are his/her good friend. Never show them anger if they talk any wrong things, and try to teach them about moral values or ‘what is wrong’ and ‘what is right’, so that they can know the difference between right and wrong. In this way, they will never try to hide anything and as a good companion they will share each and every thing with you. After all, a fruitful relationship between parents and children is very necessary to make a healthy family life.

        Green time co-ops

        If you know some impossibly-busy parents who may like to unite with you for making sure that your kids play or engage in outdoor activities, you may form a green time co-op in which each parent can take turns to take an hour off from their work in a week to look after the child while they play.

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        Make them learn from you

        Parents do feel guilty when they cannot give time to their children due to their busy schedule. But looking at it the other way, it can be helpful for parents like you as you can set an example for your children with your hard work. As children see their parents working hard at a job and handling plenty of responsibility, they can also learn about the responsibility and work for an aim. Discussing the same with your child may improve their learning ability.

        So, it is advisable for every busy parent to try the above suggestions for their child’s unhindered growth and also to become their idol.

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        Last Updated on September 20, 2018

        How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

        How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

        Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

        If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

        1. Breathe

        The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

        • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
        • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
        • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

        Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

        2. Loosen up

        After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

        Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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        3. Chew slowly

        Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

        Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

        Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

        4. Let go

        Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

        The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

        It’s not. Promise.

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        Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

        Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

        21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

        5. Enjoy the journey

        Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

        Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

        6. Look at the big picture

        The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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        Will this matter to me…

        • Next week?
        • Next month?
        • Next year?
        • In 10 years?

        Hint: No, it won’t.

        I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

        Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

        7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

        You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

        Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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        8. Practice patience every day

        Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

        • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
        • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
        • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

        Final thoughts

        Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

        Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

        Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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