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11 Life Lessons From JK Rowling

11 Life Lessons From JK Rowling

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    So you didn’t have a perfect childhood? Sorry for your loss. What a great excuse you may have for not going all the way to make your dreams come true.

    Warning: today your excuses may be gone forever, no matter what your life looks like. After reading these golden nuggets of life delivered by JK Rowling to a graduating class at Harvard, you will be in on her life secrets. These mini lessons take you from any excuse to the life of your dreams. Read at your own risk. By the end of this post, you will have no reason left to stuff your big and little dreams under the mattress.

    A lightning idea struck Jo, and she became a billionaire author. Are you ready to enter your magical life?  Here are some of her life philosophies that you too can take on.

    1. “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

    Here is how JK perceived her rock bottom:

    “I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short lived marriage had imploded and I was a jobless alone parent and as poor as it was possible to be in Britain without being homeless.”

    You too can build up from your own rock bottom, laying a foundation for your dreams and goals, no matter where you are at in this very moment.

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      2. “Failure gave me an inner security that I have never had by passing examinations.”

      Does inner security comes from a job, money, getting an A? The perfect spouse or relationship?

      Not according to Jo. Her inner security came from failure.

      “Failure meant the stripping away of the inessential.”

      What can you strip away? What is inessential in your life? What will be left? What’s left is only what’s important to you along with inner security that you are choosing only a path that is right for you.

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        3. “Poverty itself is romanticized only by fools. It means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships.”

        Some people associate poverty with spirituality. Or they think that it’s romantic to be writhing in hunger and cold, scratching out your craft anyway, digging deep.

        Jo disagrees. Why romanticize humiliation and hardships?

        “I cannot criticize my parents for hoping I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves and I have since been poor. And I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience.”

        It may be time for you to romanticize wealth and abundance, and look forward to bringing your gifts to this world, while satiated, with some extra money in the bank. Now that is ennobling.

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          4. “Talent and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the fates.”

          So you have a college education or know you’re smart. That’s great, but as far as the fates, well as Jo says,

          “Your qualifications are not your life.”

          There’s no room for self-judgment here—life is what it is for all of us. Do what you can to get what you want. Keep on keeping on, and don’t give up.

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            5. “The moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.”

            If you’re blaming someone else for you not finding your own dream and bringing it to life, grab the wheel; you’re old enough to drive.

            “I do not blame my parents…there is an expiry date for blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction. I discovered that I had a strong will and more discipline than I had suspected.”

            You have what it takes, so take it. The minute you stop blaming, you can start steering.

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              6. “We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all the power we need inside ourselves already.”

              Wouldn’t it be nice to have Harry or Hermione’s magic wand? Or to go into a wand shop and browse?

              If Jo tells you that you have magic and power inside yourself, then you do. Believe it, allow it to surface and get ready for a wild ride.

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                7. “The crucial importance of imagination.”

                Did you think imagination is to be left for the kids? Maybe you’re just a big kid after all.

                “Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not and therefore the fount of all invention…we have the power to imagine better.”

                 

                “It is the power that enables us to empathize with humans whose experiences we never shared.”

                Go ahead and daydream. Let your imagination run where it may and imagine a better life, a better world. You have Jo’s permission.

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                  8. “The first story I finished was when I was six years old.”

                  Our childhoods have lots of clues. What were you doing when you were six? What toy did you want? What did you play with?

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                  If you can’t remember, take a trip to the virtual toy store and see what you want to play with and play. It may lead to what you really want to be doing.

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                    9. “I began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me.”

                    What work matters to you?

                    “I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was.”

                    What might you be pretending to be? What box are you in? Climb on out.

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                      10. “Harry Potter gave me back self-respect. Harry gave me a job to do that I loved more than anything else.”

                      Do what you love and what you are meant to do and the self-respect will follow.

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                        11. “It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might not have lived at all, in which case you fail by default.”

                        Failure is good. It means you are out in the ring, not in the nosebleed section, watching other people battle it out.

                        “There was a point where I really felt I had ‘penniless divorcee lone parent’ tattooed on my head.”

                         

                        “What I feared most; failure. I was the biggest failure I knew.”

                        What do you think you have tattooed on your forehead? Too old to start? Young and inexperienced? Too poor? Too scared?

                        Time to pour the concrete and lay the foundation for greater things.

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                          Here is a bonus life lesson:

                          “I don’t think about who the audience is for my books.”

                          Expectations of others can rule our lives if we let them. IF we let them.

                          “I was striking an uneasy balance between the ambition I had for myself and what those closest to me expected of me.”

                          Take a break from wondering how to create your career based on what others want. If you do what helps you, with the gifts you have, you will do as Jo did.

                          So there you have it. Life on JK Rowling’s terms.

                          “I was set free because my greatest fear had been realized. And I was still alive and I still had a daughter whom I adored and I had an old typewriter and a big idea.”

                          Go ahead. Set yourself free. Your failures can be your stepping stones to greatness. This one life you have is yours to live. Do what you love and want to do—that’s where the magic is. Believe in yourself.

                          Light yourself up and dig deep for the magic inside you. It’s there, and it’s in all of us. Harry leads the way!

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                          Last Updated on November 18, 2020

                          50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

                          50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

                          If you’re like me and really into self-development, you’ve probably read many of the thousands of self-help books out there on the market. But also like me, you probably find all the information a bit overwhelming.

                          That’s why I wanted to do the self-less task of taking the most important, life-changing lessons I’ve drawn from these books and condensed them into 50 key points.

                          Here’re 50 habits of successful people you should learn:

                          1. Believe It to See It

                          Our minds tend to focus on what’s happening around us and refuse to see what could happen. Only when you trust in what’s possible and dare to dream big, big things can happen for you.

                          2. See Problems as a Wonderful Gift

                          While others only see problems and give up, successful people use the problem as a lesson to find improvement in themselves or the task at hand.

                          3. Keep Looking for Solutions

                          Even if they’re knee-deep in problems, successful people will still put all of their focus on finding solutions.

                          4. Remember It’s All About the Journey

                          Successful people are conscious and methodical in creating their own success. They don’t sit around doing the bare minimum, hoping success finds them.

                          5. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

                          There’s so much fear on the road to success, but instead of letting that fear control and limit them, successful people do a good job of just forging ahead regardless.

                          6. Always Ask Productive Questions

                          It’s all about asking the right questions. Successful people make sure they are questions that will elicit information for a more productive, creative and positive mindset moving forward.

                          7. Understand the Best Waste of Energy Is Complaining

                          Successful people know that choosing to see the negative side of things will only create a useless and unproductive state.

                          8. Don’t Play the Blame Game

                          Taking responsibility for actions and outcomes is a form of empowerment that you can build your success upon. While the act of blaming others or outside circumstances takes this empowerment away from you.

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                          9. Maximize Your Strengths

                          Not every successful person is simply more talented than the rest, but they do use what they know they’re good at to achieve more successful results.

                          10. Be in It to Win It

                          Successful people are busy, productive and proactive. Instead of sitting around over-thinking and over-planning a great idea, they just take a step towards it no matter how small.

                          11. Know That Success Attracts Success

                          People who are successful surround themselves and seek out like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team and forge win-win relationships.

                          12. Actually Choose to Be Successful

                          Dreaming big is a massive part of being successful even if your dream seems impossible. Ambition is a mindset that needs to be a daily conscious choice.

                          13. Visualize, Visualize, Visualize!

                          You’ve got to see your success in your mind’s eye even before it comes. Successful people clarify and get that certainty about what they want their reality to look like rather than being mere spectators of life.

                          14. Be a One-Off Original

                          Successful people look for what’s working and then create a unique spin on it. Imitating only regurgitates other people’s ideas with no originality.

                          15. The Perfect Time to Act Is Now

                          Waiting for the right time to act is basically procrastination wrapped up in an excuse. Successful people know there’s never a perfect time so they may as well just do it now.

                          16. Keep Learning, Keep Growing

                          Continuous learning is the key to a successful life. Whether it’s academic, being a student of life or actionable learning, it’s all about expanding your knowledge and personal development.

                          17. Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

                          Successful people have the knack for finding positive aspects in all people and circumstances no matter what.

                          18. Having a Bad Day? Do It Anyway!

                          We all have bad moods but it shouldn’t be an excuse to stop everything. Giving into a bad mood just stop-starts your life, slowing success way down.

                          19. Sometimes Risky Business Is Needed

                          Calculated risks are a must for success. It’s about weighing the pros and cons while moving forward with that element of trust.

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                          20. Accept Challenge All the Time

                          Dealing with problems head-on is a must to be successful. Successful people also face challenges in order to improve themselves.

                          21. Make Your Own Luck

                          In the mindset of a successful person, there’s no such thing as ‘luck’ or ‘fate’. They take control to actively and consciously create their own best life.

                          22. Ignite Your Initiative

                          While many people are reactive, successful people are proactive – taking action before they have to.

                          23. Be the Master of Your Emotions

                          Being effective at managing emotions is key on the road to success. That’s not to say successful people don’t feel like we all do, but they’re just not slaves to their emotions.

                          24. Champion in Communication

                          Consciously working on effective communication skills gets anyone closer to success.

                          25. Plan Your Life Strategically

                          Successful people’s lives aren’t a clumsy series of unplanned events and outcomes, they methodically work at turning their plans into a reality.

                          26. Become Exceptional at What You Do

                          To become exceptional, you typically have to do things that most won’t. To become successful, hard decisions need to be made and acting on them is crucial.

                          27. Choose to Live Outside of Your Comfort Zone

                          While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid.

                          28. Live by Core Values

                          Successful people firstly identify their core values and what’s important to them, then do their best to live a life that reflects these values.

                          29. Realize Money Isn’t Everything

                          Money and success are not interchangeable and the most successful people understand this. Putting money on a pedestal and equating it to success is a dangerous mindset to have. Success comes in many forms.

                          30. Don’t Get Carried Away

                          Successful people understand the importance of discipline and self-control and as a result they are happy to take the road less travelled.

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                          31. Self-Worth Is Not Tied to Success

                          Successful people are secure. They do not derive their self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.

                          32. Kindness Breeds Kindness (And Success)

                          Generosity and kindness is a common trait among long-term successful people. It’s important to take pleasure in helping others achieve.

                          33. More Humility, Less Arrogance

                          Successful people are humble and happy to admit and apologize for mistakes. This is because they’re confident in their ability. They are happy to learn from others and happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory.

                          34. Change Opens New Doors

                          People who are successful are adaptable and embrace change, while the majority are creatures of comfort and habit. They are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.

                          35. Success Requires a Healthy Body

                          It’s not just how you think, it’s about how you show up for success. Successful people understand the importance of being physically well, not for vain reasons but because being in tiptop condition creates a better personal life for success.

                          36. Laziness Just Doesn’t Exist

                          Successful people are never considered lazy. Yes, they can relax when they need to, but working hard is their game.

                          37. Resilience by the Bucket Load

                          When difficulty strikes, most would throw in the towel, but successful people are just warming up.

                          38. Feedback Is Just Another Chance to Improve

                          How people react to feedback determines their potential for success. Being open to constructive criticism and acting on it to improve is most seen in those who are successful.

                          39. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

                          If people are hanging out with toxic and negative people, then they need to take a look at themselves. Successful people hang out with others who are positive and supportive.

                          40. Can’t Control It? Forget It

                          Successful people don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control of.

                          41. Swim Against the Tide

                          Successful people are not people-pleasers and they don’t need constant approval from others in order to move ahead.

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                          42. Alone Time Is Valuable Time

                          More self-worth means being more comfortable with your own company. Successful people are more happy and see the value in spending time alone.

                          43. Self-Standard Is Higher Than Most

                          Everyone has a choice to set high standards for themselves. Successful people do this, which in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work ethic and of course, better results.

                          44. Failure Isn’t Rationalized

                          While many use age, health, lack of time, ‘bad luck’, or lack of opportunity to explain away their failure, the key to success is finding a way to succeed despite facing these challenges.

                          45. Down Time Is an Important Part of a Routine

                          Having an off switch and taking time to do things that make them happy is a common trait of a successful person. Take a look at here The Importance of Scheduling Downtime.

                          46. Career Isn’t Who You Are, It’s What You Do

                          Successful people know their career isn’t their identity. They are multi-dimensional and don’t define themselves by their job.

                          47. Be Interested in Only the Path of Resistance

                          While most people look for the easiest way or the shortcut, successful people are more interested in the most effective way. They look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.

                          48. Follow Through

                          Many spend their life starting things that they never finish, but successful people get the job done. Even when the excitement and the novelty has worn off they still follow through and finish.

                          49. Invest in All Your Dimensions

                          We’re not just physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. Successful people consciously work at being healthy and productive on all levels.

                          50. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

                          To obtain success, it’s important to practice what you preach. Successful people don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.

                          So there you have it, a summary of what I’ve learned from self-help books. But of course, you need to start taking actions so you will get closer to success too.

                          Bonus: 5 Bad Habits To Quit

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