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Do You Make These Mistakes When Pursuing Your Goal?

Do You Make These Mistakes When Pursuing Your Goal?

Success is not just about hard work and perseverance. There are some factors that you need to take into account to prevent yourself from stumbling.

Following are the mistakes that I’ve made. Avoid them so you can achieve your goal soon.

1. Being Impatient For Success

“Don’t think what’s the cheapest way to do it or what’s the fastest way to do it. Think what’s the most amazing way to do it.” – Richard Branson

Everyone wants to succeed fast. This is especially true if you have quit your job to focus fully on your goal, like starting a business. You may feel stressed and impatient when you watch your savings flow out and there is no income at all during the first few months.

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At this stage, you need to stay focused on your target. Don’t sacrifice the quality of your work for the sake of saving time. Instead, make great efforts to produce an awesome product even no one notices it yet. Remember, since you’ve resigned, burn your bridges, don’t look back and go all out to make your goal a success!

2. Working Hard With No Reflection

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

They say good things take time; so you constantly use the same methods and strategies without evaluation. Even when there’s no significant progress after a period, you persuade yourself that if you wait faithfully, your dream will come true someday. You think this is perseverance? No; you might wait forever without results.

You need to take a step back and review your actions in order to move forward. Try setting milestones with deadlines. If you fail to reach the milestone, check your tactics, adjust your plan, learn from gurus, strike out in new approaches, test again and venture again. Don’t be afraid to change.

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3. Comparing Yourself To Others

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick

Success stories are everywhere. But we neglected the enormous efforts and countless failures that they’ve encountered. If you only focus on how fast or easy they succeeded, you will end up feeling like an idiot. But no, you are not. Save yourself from the whirlpool of self-pity and hopelessness.

I was working on a project for some time. I felt bitter when I saw others could nail it easily. It was then my friend reminded me that mistakes and failures are progress, too. I haven’t gain success yet, but I gained lessons. I’m marching on, more wisely and confidently this time.

4. Banning All Playtime

“In between goals is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed.” – Sid Caeser

You may take your goal as a life or death matter, as though the world will come to an end if you don’t make it. Therefore, you add more hours to your endeavour and limit all leisure activities, entertainment and even family time. However, you’ll risk losing creativity, sparks and passion in your work.

The key is to be serious with your goal, but not to be too harsh on yourself. Allow yourself to relax, have fun or travel. You get to refuel yourself with more inspiration and power to create amazing stuffs.

5. Neglecting Self Appreciation

“You must not only make time to create a plan, you must make time to appreciate how well you followed the plan.” – Karen Salmansohn

You are grateful to those who are willing to lend you a hand. But you probably forget to thank yourself and encourage yourself to keep up the good work. The compliments you give to yourself help you go further. One of the easiest ways to do this is to write down all the things you’ve tried and learned. All these victories are great motivation for you when you have self doubt. Let them reaffirm your abilities.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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