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Do You Make These Mistakes When Pursuing Your Goal?

Do You Make These Mistakes When Pursuing Your Goal?

Success is not just about hard work and perseverance. There are some factors that you need to take into account to prevent yourself from stumbling.

Following are the mistakes that I’ve made. Avoid them so you can achieve your goal soon.

1. Being Impatient For Success

“Don’t think what’s the cheapest way to do it or what’s the fastest way to do it. Think what’s the most amazing way to do it.” – Richard Branson

Everyone wants to succeed fast. This is especially true if you have quit your job to focus fully on your goal, like starting a business. You may feel stressed and impatient when you watch your savings flow out and there is no income at all during the first few months.

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At this stage, you need to stay focused on your target. Don’t sacrifice the quality of your work for the sake of saving time. Instead, make great efforts to produce an awesome product even no one notices it yet. Remember, since you’ve resigned, burn your bridges, don’t look back and go all out to make your goal a success!

2. Working Hard With No Reflection

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

They say good things take time; so you constantly use the same methods and strategies without evaluation. Even when there’s no significant progress after a period, you persuade yourself that if you wait faithfully, your dream will come true someday. You think this is perseverance? No; you might wait forever without results.

You need to take a step back and review your actions in order to move forward. Try setting milestones with deadlines. If you fail to reach the milestone, check your tactics, adjust your plan, learn from gurus, strike out in new approaches, test again and venture again. Don’t be afraid to change.

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3. Comparing Yourself To Others

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick

Success stories are everywhere. But we neglected the enormous efforts and countless failures that they’ve encountered. If you only focus on how fast or easy they succeeded, you will end up feeling like an idiot. But no, you are not. Save yourself from the whirlpool of self-pity and hopelessness.

I was working on a project for some time. I felt bitter when I saw others could nail it easily. It was then my friend reminded me that mistakes and failures are progress, too. I haven’t gain success yet, but I gained lessons. I’m marching on, more wisely and confidently this time.

4. Banning All Playtime

“In between goals is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed.” – Sid Caeser

You may take your goal as a life or death matter, as though the world will come to an end if you don’t make it. Therefore, you add more hours to your endeavour and limit all leisure activities, entertainment and even family time. However, you’ll risk losing creativity, sparks and passion in your work.

The key is to be serious with your goal, but not to be too harsh on yourself. Allow yourself to relax, have fun or travel. You get to refuel yourself with more inspiration and power to create amazing stuffs.

5. Neglecting Self Appreciation

“You must not only make time to create a plan, you must make time to appreciate how well you followed the plan.” – Karen Salmansohn

You are grateful to those who are willing to lend you a hand. But you probably forget to thank yourself and encourage yourself to keep up the good work. The compliments you give to yourself help you go further. One of the easiest ways to do this is to write down all the things you’ve tried and learned. All these victories are great motivation for you when you have self doubt. Let them reaffirm your abilities.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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