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These Simple Gestures You Do Will Make Your Relationship Happier, Even Though You Don’t Feel So

These Simple Gestures You Do Will Make Your Relationship Happier, Even Though You Don’t Feel So

Being thoughtful is the easiest way to build and keep a stronger, happier relationship. Everyone’s life gets busy, but taking the time to do something nice for your honey will not go unnoticed. When one person in a couple is thoughtful, usually the other half feels inspired to be so as well. And when both partners are finding simple ways to remind each other they care, it makes for a really sweet, loving relationship where the focus is positivity and happiness. In a world where there are so many things to worry about, wouldn’t it be nice to have a relationship that fills you with joy?

Finding ways to be thoughtful will not only make your significant other feel great, they will leave you with a smile too! Doing nice acts is contagious and fuels a pleasant environment. Don’t underestimate the value of the little things in life!

1. Mail a Letter

Romance is not dead! Just because we have the internet and texting, don’t underestimate the sentimentality of mailing your love a letter. Long or short, the effort of sending a piece of mail (even if you live together) is very sweet and thoughtful. You can express how your partner makes you feel, or you can just wish him or her a good day. This small gesture will be a great surprise when he or she opens their mail and it’s not all bills!

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2. Plan a Picnic

Alone time is always special, but taking that little extra moment to plan a meal that isn’t made at home, or even at a restaurant, shows you went above and beyond. Whether you pack caviar or just PB and J, the good deed won’t go unnoticed.

3. Hide a Note

Whether it’s in your babe’s pants pocket, luggage or lunch — the surprise of finding a little love letter is always wonderful. The fact that you took the time to wish your love well, or to have a good day really will brighten his or her mood. This one never gets old!

4. Show Up at Work

Work can be stressful and/or boring. A visit to your partner’s office is a simple way to brighten his or her day. You don’t need flowers or lunch, sometimes just a great hug from the one you love can really heighten a dull day.

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5. Arrange for a Surprise Visit From a Friend

A good surprise can take a lot of time, thought and effort, but when it’s pulled off everyone involved feels elated and excited. Take a moment to call your love’s friends or family and arrange for a get together. Whether near or far, coming home or showing up at a restaurant where a long-lost pal is waiting is a wonderful shock. This idea will be talked about for weeks thereafter!

6. Fill the Fridge With Favorites

Do you know what your honey loves to snack on? Why not go out and buy those goodies and put them in the fridge or cupboard. No notes necessary, when he or she realizes you took the time to think of his or her favorites, the consideration will be greatly treasured.

7. Clean the Car

Having a messy car can be stressful to some, and who wants to put in the effort to get it cleaned? Offering to clean the car or surprising your beloved with this act is sure to bring smiles all around.

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8. Give a Massage

Light a few candles, get out some good lotion or massage oil and get ready to lather your loved one down. You don’t have to be the best masseuse to try and help your hun relax. If a whole body massage is intimidating, perhaps just try a foot rub while watching TV together. The idea that you want to make him or her feel good will certainly set the tone for a great night.

9. Buy a Gift for No Reason

When you are out and about, if you see something that makes you think of your significant other, buy it! Gifts don’t have to be just for birthdays, Christmas or Valentine’s Day. They are so much sweeter and more thoughtful when they are bought as a “just because.” Your loved one is sure to have a big reaction to this, and you will be feeling good as well!

10. Give Up the Remote

It’s very common to have different tastes and interests as far as what you like to relax in front of. But every once in a while, give up the remote! Cuddling and snuggling actually releases endorphins that make you both feel satisfied. Your show can wait, the idea that you just wanted to be next to your dearest will not be overlooked.

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We tend to put forth our best selves in the beginning of a relationship, and then as time passes we forget the little things that made our union so special and exciting. Bring it back with these thoughtful gestures. No act is too small to say, “Hey, I’m thinking about you.” Sometimes, the smallest acts are really what mean the most. Challenge yourself to do something thoughtful every day. Not only will you see a change in your partner, but you will see a change in yourself. As the energy in the relationship elevates, your entire life will brighten. Doesn’t a world where people are happy and nice to each other sound great? Make it happen, it’s not that hard!

Featured photo credit: The Kiss Pedro Ribeiro Simões via flickr.com

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Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

“Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

1. Make a Gratitude List

In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

2. Write in a Journal

Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

3. Meditate

Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

4. Do Child’s Pose

Yoga Outlet says:

“Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

     

    Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

    5. Try Positive Self-Talk

    Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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    When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

    Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

    When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

    When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

    Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

    6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

    Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

    You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

    It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

    Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

    If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

    7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

    “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

    If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

    You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

    When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

    If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

    Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

    Final Thoughts

    If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

    Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

    You can invest in yourself via self-care.

    You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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    Featured photo credit: Anthony Tran via unsplash.com

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