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7 Reasons Why Real Life Romances Are Nothing Like Disney Movies

7 Reasons Why Real Life Romances Are Nothing Like Disney Movies

As a little girl I dreamed about my Prince Charming. He was strong and handsome and would protect me from everything bad in the world. We would live in a castle in a forest where the birds sang and butterflies followed us wherever we went.

Many girls dream of their Prince Charming. Unfortunately, he only exists in Disney movies and books. If you’re not careful, once grown you can fall victim of the fantasy character and sabotage a great relationship and your own happiness by chasing an imaginary prince.

Here are seven reasons why real life romances are nothing like Disney movies.

1. Your suitor will not save you from an angry pack of wolves before his 21st birthday.

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    Beast rescues Belle from a pack of wolves and then takes her back to his castle where she is held prisoner until they fall in love and live happily ever after.

    If he is wealthy, unemployed, and under 21, like Beast, you can forget about him saving you from a pack of wolves, unless you and the wolves are a part of a video game and he receives extra lives for saving you.

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    2. A successful romance is not built on lies.

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      Aladdin and Jasmine both have issues with telling the truth. If Jasmine isn’t pretending to be a street rat, then Aladdin is pretending to be a rich suitor. Once they find out the other is lying, they fall in love and live happily ever after.

      Successful relationships never begin on lies. A good relationship is based on honesty. When both people are honest about who they are, they create a solid foundation for a real-life relationship that will last.

      3. You should not have to strive for perfection to be loved.

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        Ariel lusts after Prince Eric and he is so superficial he only wants a perfect girl. Ariel makes a deal to give up her voice if she can have legs to be the perfect girl and live happily ever after with Prince Eric.

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        If Prince Eric cannot love Ariel when she is a mermaid, then he is not worth the time or effort. No one should ever have to change something about themselves to be loved. Happy relationships are not built on lust and perfection.

        4. You should never fall in love with someone who steals from you.

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          In Tangled, Flynn is a bad boy and good girls are attracted to bad boys. Their sly smiles and charisma puts butterflies in our stomachs. If we love them enough, they will change for us, right?

          Face it: Flynn is conceited and steals your stuff! He may be tempting but he will strip you of your “self” and the happiness you deserve. Good girls who fall for bad boys end up with broken hearts.

          5. Wanna-be gods will not give up power for you.

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            Hercules gives up his powers to be with Meg, even though she lied to him. Does this sound like any guy you know?

            Most guys I know would prefer the god status. Never-ending power and girls galore, or give it all up for one girl? If a guy is offered the chance to be with you or be a god, they should pick you but they are probably going to choose the god status every time!

            6. People living in the jungle do not look like Tarzan and Jane.

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              These two have been digging holes in the jungle to bury their waste. Do you really think they are going to be clean with perfect hair and clothes? Swinging on vines and hunting for food is dirty, sweaty work!

              Think of Survivor. Those people look like they smell bad. Some real life romances have come from the show and even they say kissing in the jungle with no toothpaste was pretty gross.

              7. If you are woken up by a stranger’s kiss, your first reaction would be to scream.

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                In Sleeping Beauty, a handsome prince wakes Sleeping Beauty from her long slumber. When she opens her eyes, she is delighted to see the prince and falls in love.

                First of all, if you have been sleeping that long, your breath has got to be awful. No prince is going to want to kiss you. Secondly, if you are woken in that manner by someone you don’t know, your first reaction is probably going to be a little more violent than kissing them back.

                Disney movies and the romance they portray are great stories for creating a perfect world. They are a needed escape from an imperfect reality. It’s important to remember their purpose and not fall victim to believing these fairy tale romances can be created in real life.

                Reality will never be like a Disney movies. A perfect man is flawed and a happy relationship is one that grows from honesty and mutual respect. To fulfill your own happiness, watch Disney when you need to retreat to the fantasy world of princes and princesses, but remain grounded for a happy ever after.

                Featured photo credit: Cinderella and Prince Charming/Andy Sabis via flickr.com

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                30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

                1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

                Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

                2. Focus on your breath

                Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

                3. Get organized and purge old items

                A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

                4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

                Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

                5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

                Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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                6. Smile more

                Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

                7. Don’t worry about the future

                As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

                8. Eat real food

                The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

                9. Choose being happy over being right

                Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

                10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

                Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

                11. Make use of filtering features on social media

                You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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                12. Get comfortable with silence

                When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

                13. Listen to understand, not to respond

                So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

                14. Put your troubles in a bubble

                Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

                15. Speak more slowly

                Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

                16. Don’t procrastinate

                Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

                17. Buy a coloring book

                Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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                18. Prioritize yourself

                You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

                19. Forgive others

                Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

                20. Check your expectations

                Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

                21. Engage in active play

                Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

                22. Stop criticizing yourself

                The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

                23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

                Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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                24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

                Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

                25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

                Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

                26. Manage your money

                Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

                27. Stop trying to control everything

                Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

                28. Practice affirmations

                Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

                29. Get up before sunrise

                Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

                30. Be yourself

                Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

                Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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