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7 Positive Things Only Single People Understand

7 Positive Things Only Single People Understand

Being in a relationship is a great thing. You have someone who is always there for you. You never have to worry about where the sex is coming from. You have a partner in crime (so to speak). Now, that isn’t to say that there aren’t great things about being single as well. There are a lot of positive things about being single. It can get lonely sometimes but it is just one stage of life among many others. You can benefit from it and here’s how.

1. You’re free to find your perfect match

Not every relationship is perfect. Not everyone you date is going to be “the one.” The good thing about being single is that you don’t have to worry about missing out on finding the love of your life. You have places to go and people to meet. You’re only single because you haven’t found your perfect match yet so you know that from this point forward, it’s only a matter of time. From that perspective, being single isn’t a sign of not being desirable. It’s a sign that you only have so long until the one finds you.

2. You have fewer responsibilities

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    As the old saying goes, relationships are hard work. You have to find compromises, spend time with your loved one, plan for the future, and all that jazz. When you’re single, you don’t have to do any of these. You can focus on yourself and do what you need to do. You can spend those late nights at work trying to advance your career without getting chewed out. You can stay up late and get that partying out of your system. You are bereft of a better half which means you can do a few things that aren’t always good for you. Which leads us to…

    3. You have time to prepare yourself

    When you’re single, you don’t have as much responsibility which means you can focus more of your efforts on the things you are still responsible for. Do you have a little bit of debt that needs taken care of? Take care of it now. Do you want to get back into shape? Do it now. Have you always wanted to sit and power watch How I Met Your Mother on Netflix and chew through eight seasons in two days? You’d better get on that now. When you’re in a relationship, it requires a lot of time and a lot of money. Right now you don’t have to worry about those things which means you have both time and money (at least more than you will when you’re taken). Use them to prepare yourself for when you don’t have those things.

    4. You can enjoy the freedom

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      Being single can be a really happy time in your life. You’re free to do what you want without the repercussions of your loved one. We’re not saying you should go out and sleep with a new person every night (you should still have high standards for yourself) but if you want to flirt a bit, skip a shower, or lounge around all day in sweatpants then you absolutely can. There is no one to nag you to be a better person. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be a better person but there are some things that you can relax with. Such as not having to leave the room to fart. You’re going to miss that when the new relationship starts up again. It’s the little things.

      5. You have far less drama than people in relationships

      If there is one thing that breeds drama, it’s a relationship. A guy may see another guy flirting with his woman on a Facebook post. A woman may find out another woman is sending nude pics to her man. People in relationships argue. When you’re in a relationship, there are always people who are trying to destroy your relationship. When you’re single, you don’t have to deal with any of that nonsense. You can just be yourself and enjoy yourself without all the weird relationship drama.

      6. You can be more social

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        Observers

        have all concluded that single people are more social than married people. Thanks to all of the before mentioned freedom and fewer responsibilities, you are going out more. You’re talking to more people. You are meeting new people. We’re not saying that your social life is going to dry up and die once you get into a relationship but you certainly won’t be able to just spontaneously get dressed and head to the bar for a drink with the friends anymore.

        7. You can be a better part of the economy

        People in relationships are always saving for things. They need to buy a house, a car, save for the upcoming baby or the upcoming wedding, and other stuff. According to Forbes, single people spend $1.9 trillion a year in the United States. Why? You don’t have anything you need to save for. That means you’ll be buying nicer cloths, nicer things, and spending more on dinners and drinks. It’s just the way things are.

        When you really think about it, being single is pretty awesome. The only negative emotion you have is the occasional pang of loneliness. Just remember, there is someone out there for you. Don’t lower your standards and don’t settle just so you don’t have to be alone. Enjoy this precious time in your life because the next time you get into a relationship may mark the last time you’re ever single.

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        6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

        6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

        We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

        “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

        Are we speaking the same language?

        My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

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        Am I being lazy?

        When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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        Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

        Early in the relationship:

        “Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

        When the relationship is established:

        “Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

        It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

        Have I actually got anything to say?

        When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

        A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

        When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

        Am I painting an accurate picture?

        One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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        How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

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        It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

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        Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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        I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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