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7 Positive Things Only Single People Understand

7 Positive Things Only Single People Understand

Being in a relationship is a great thing. You have someone who is always there for you. You never have to worry about where the sex is coming from. You have a partner in crime (so to speak). Now, that isn’t to say that there aren’t great things about being single as well. There are a lot of positive things about being single. It can get lonely sometimes but it is just one stage of life among many others. You can benefit from it and here’s how.

1. You’re free to find your perfect match

Not every relationship is perfect. Not everyone you date is going to be “the one.” The good thing about being single is that you don’t have to worry about missing out on finding the love of your life. You have places to go and people to meet. You’re only single because you haven’t found your perfect match yet so you know that from this point forward, it’s only a matter of time. From that perspective, being single isn’t a sign of not being desirable. It’s a sign that you only have so long until the one finds you.

2. You have fewer responsibilities

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    As the old saying goes, relationships are hard work. You have to find compromises, spend time with your loved one, plan for the future, and all that jazz. When you’re single, you don’t have to do any of these. You can focus on yourself and do what you need to do. You can spend those late nights at work trying to advance your career without getting chewed out. You can stay up late and get that partying out of your system. You are bereft of a better half which means you can do a few things that aren’t always good for you. Which leads us to…

    3. You have time to prepare yourself

    When you’re single, you don’t have as much responsibility which means you can focus more of your efforts on the things you are still responsible for. Do you have a little bit of debt that needs taken care of? Take care of it now. Do you want to get back into shape? Do it now. Have you always wanted to sit and power watch How I Met Your Mother on Netflix and chew through eight seasons in two days? You’d better get on that now. When you’re in a relationship, it requires a lot of time and a lot of money. Right now you don’t have to worry about those things which means you have both time and money (at least more than you will when you’re taken). Use them to prepare yourself for when you don’t have those things.

    4. You can enjoy the freedom

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      Being single can be a really happy time in your life. You’re free to do what you want without the repercussions of your loved one. We’re not saying you should go out and sleep with a new person every night (you should still have high standards for yourself) but if you want to flirt a bit, skip a shower, or lounge around all day in sweatpants then you absolutely can. There is no one to nag you to be a better person. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be a better person but there are some things that you can relax with. Such as not having to leave the room to fart. You’re going to miss that when the new relationship starts up again. It’s the little things.

      5. You have far less drama than people in relationships

      If there is one thing that breeds drama, it’s a relationship. A guy may see another guy flirting with his woman on a Facebook post. A woman may find out another woman is sending nude pics to her man. People in relationships argue. When you’re in a relationship, there are always people who are trying to destroy your relationship. When you’re single, you don’t have to deal with any of that nonsense. You can just be yourself and enjoy yourself without all the weird relationship drama.

      6. You can be more social

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        have all concluded that single people are more social than married people. Thanks to all of the before mentioned freedom and fewer responsibilities, you are going out more. You’re talking to more people. You are meeting new people. We’re not saying that your social life is going to dry up and die once you get into a relationship but you certainly won’t be able to just spontaneously get dressed and head to the bar for a drink with the friends anymore.

        7. You can be a better part of the economy

        People in relationships are always saving for things. They need to buy a house, a car, save for the upcoming baby or the upcoming wedding, and other stuff. According to Forbes, single people spend $1.9 trillion a year in the United States. Why? You don’t have anything you need to save for. That means you’ll be buying nicer cloths, nicer things, and spending more on dinners and drinks. It’s just the way things are.

        When you really think about it, being single is pretty awesome. The only negative emotion you have is the occasional pang of loneliness. Just remember, there is someone out there for you. Don’t lower your standards and don’t settle just so you don’t have to be alone. Enjoy this precious time in your life because the next time you get into a relationship may mark the last time you’re ever single.

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        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

        The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

        Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

        Posture

        First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

        • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
        • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
        • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
        • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

        All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

        Facial Expressions

        Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

        • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
        • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
        • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

        If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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        1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

        A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

        The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

        This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

        2. Relax Your Face

        New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

        The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

        To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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        3. Improve Your Eye Contact

        Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

        The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

        To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

        3. Smile More

        There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

        Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

        4. Hand Gestures

        Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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        It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

        5. Enhance Your Handshake

        In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

        “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

        It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

        6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

        As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

        Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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        Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

        Final Takeaways

        Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

        If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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