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4 Motivational Lessons To Learn When Times Get Tough

4 Motivational Lessons To Learn When Times Get Tough

“Happiness is a choice.” That’s what has been said a million times over the years. What is not said is that happiness is overcoming obstacles over and over again from one day to the next.

Choosing to be happy is choosing to blast away everything in your way to get what you want, especially when times get tough. I always compare kickboxing with life. You’ve got to put your guard up, wait for your enemy to strike, try to avoid couple of punches and start attacking him. I always saw my enemies as tough life problems.

Jumping from problem to problem I’ve figured out four motivational lessons to learn when times get though.

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1. Always keep your guard up

We have all the choices in the world. We can either choose to avoid problems, or we can throw some punches at them.

Every problem has a solution. Problems are part of life. Keeping our guard up while we face problems is always a must. Problems are like wolves. If they are alone, they won’t attack you, but if they are in huddle, you better run. If we let them gather, it would be really hard to solve them all.

Keep your guard up, wait for the problems, and attack them as soon as you have punching distance. Don’t let them pile up, or you will have to run.

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2. Good times vs. bad times

Everyone has good times and bad times.

Have you asked yourself why good times do not last and bad ones do? It’s because it’s time to earn your happiness, success and your greatness. We should be glad that we have something to fight for, something to strive for. Always have your mindset that you are one step ahead. That’s my personal mindset when I solve problems. If I have to write a project about healthy foods, every word I write brings me closer to the finish line. When I ran a marathon, every step brought me closer to the 26th mile.

I choose to keep my guard up and get used to the one-step-ahead.

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Keep your guard up, have the one-step-ahead rule in your mindset, and happiness won’t be a choice, but a way of life.

3. Life means struggle

That’s right. Life means struggle. If you want something to prove, something better than average, then you will have to encounter many struggles. If we struggle with every problem and fight our way through the obstacles, we will always find success and happiness. It doesn’t matter if it’s work, love, money, success, fame or peace. It always takes struggle to achieve something.

When I first started doing meditation, it was hard to focus even for a couple of seconds. I mean, I was trying to get inner peace, and even inner peace takes struggle. After a while, I sat on my mat, and I could meditate for 15-20 minutes.

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Keep your guard up, get over bad times and wrestle with every problem until you smash it! Everything what you want is on the other side of the comfort zone, remember that.

4. Hard times equals success

“Success always looks easy to those who weren’t around when it was being earned.”

Success is earned, period. When I was younger I always saw successful people and imagined what success would be like. I didn’t realize that came after a lot of hard work.

You must define what success and happiness mean to you. Being happy and being successful do not have to be the same thing. Many people are considered successful and they are not happy – and vice versa. Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy every day despite your circumstances. Success happens when you achieve something for which you have been striving.

Remember, there is no such thing as an overnight success. Most successes take many years to achieve. But you can be happy while you pursue them.

Featured photo credit: THUNDER!!! / Attila via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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