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4 Motivational Lessons To Learn When Times Get Tough

4 Motivational Lessons To Learn When Times Get Tough

“Happiness is a choice.” That’s what has been said a million times over the years. What is not said is that happiness is overcoming obstacles over and over again from one day to the next.

Choosing to be happy is choosing to blast away everything in your way to get what you want, especially when times get tough. I always compare kickboxing with life. You’ve got to put your guard up, wait for your enemy to strike, try to avoid couple of punches and start attacking him. I always saw my enemies as tough life problems.

Jumping from problem to problem I’ve figured out four motivational lessons to learn when times get though.

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1. Always keep your guard up

We have all the choices in the world. We can either choose to avoid problems, or we can throw some punches at them.

Every problem has a solution. Problems are part of life. Keeping our guard up while we face problems is always a must. Problems are like wolves. If they are alone, they won’t attack you, but if they are in huddle, you better run. If we let them gather, it would be really hard to solve them all.

Keep your guard up, wait for the problems, and attack them as soon as you have punching distance. Don’t let them pile up, or you will have to run.

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2. Good times vs. bad times

Everyone has good times and bad times.

Have you asked yourself why good times do not last and bad ones do? It’s because it’s time to earn your happiness, success and your greatness. We should be glad that we have something to fight for, something to strive for. Always have your mindset that you are one step ahead. That’s my personal mindset when I solve problems. If I have to write a project about healthy foods, every word I write brings me closer to the finish line. When I ran a marathon, every step brought me closer to the 26th mile.

I choose to keep my guard up and get used to the one-step-ahead.

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Keep your guard up, have the one-step-ahead rule in your mindset, and happiness won’t be a choice, but a way of life.

3. Life means struggle

That’s right. Life means struggle. If you want something to prove, something better than average, then you will have to encounter many struggles. If we struggle with every problem and fight our way through the obstacles, we will always find success and happiness. It doesn’t matter if it’s work, love, money, success, fame or peace. It always takes struggle to achieve something.

When I first started doing meditation, it was hard to focus even for a couple of seconds. I mean, I was trying to get inner peace, and even inner peace takes struggle. After a while, I sat on my mat, and I could meditate for 15-20 minutes.

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Keep your guard up, get over bad times and wrestle with every problem until you smash it! Everything what you want is on the other side of the comfort zone, remember that.

4. Hard times equals success

“Success always looks easy to those who weren’t around when it was being earned.”

Success is earned, period. When I was younger I always saw successful people and imagined what success would be like. I didn’t realize that came after a lot of hard work.

You must define what success and happiness mean to you. Being happy and being successful do not have to be the same thing. Many people are considered successful and they are not happy – and vice versa. Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy every day despite your circumstances. Success happens when you achieve something for which you have been striving.

Remember, there is no such thing as an overnight success. Most successes take many years to achieve. But you can be happy while you pursue them.

Featured photo credit: THUNDER!!! / Attila via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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