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4 Motivational Lessons To Learn When Times Get Tough

4 Motivational Lessons To Learn When Times Get Tough

“Happiness is a choice.” That’s what has been said a million times over the years. What is not said is that happiness is overcoming obstacles over and over again from one day to the next.

Choosing to be happy is choosing to blast away everything in your way to get what you want, especially when times get tough. I always compare kickboxing with life. You’ve got to put your guard up, wait for your enemy to strike, try to avoid couple of punches and start attacking him. I always saw my enemies as tough life problems.

Jumping from problem to problem I’ve figured out four motivational lessons to learn when times get though.

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1. Always keep your guard up

We have all the choices in the world. We can either choose to avoid problems, or we can throw some punches at them.

Every problem has a solution. Problems are part of life. Keeping our guard up while we face problems is always a must. Problems are like wolves. If they are alone, they won’t attack you, but if they are in huddle, you better run. If we let them gather, it would be really hard to solve them all.

Keep your guard up, wait for the problems, and attack them as soon as you have punching distance. Don’t let them pile up, or you will have to run.

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2. Good times vs. bad times

Everyone has good times and bad times.

Have you asked yourself why good times do not last and bad ones do? It’s because it’s time to earn your happiness, success and your greatness. We should be glad that we have something to fight for, something to strive for. Always have your mindset that you are one step ahead. That’s my personal mindset when I solve problems. If I have to write a project about healthy foods, every word I write brings me closer to the finish line. When I ran a marathon, every step brought me closer to the 26th mile.

I choose to keep my guard up and get used to the one-step-ahead.

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Keep your guard up, have the one-step-ahead rule in your mindset, and happiness won’t be a choice, but a way of life.

3. Life means struggle

That’s right. Life means struggle. If you want something to prove, something better than average, then you will have to encounter many struggles. If we struggle with every problem and fight our way through the obstacles, we will always find success and happiness. It doesn’t matter if it’s work, love, money, success, fame or peace. It always takes struggle to achieve something.

When I first started doing meditation, it was hard to focus even for a couple of seconds. I mean, I was trying to get inner peace, and even inner peace takes struggle. After a while, I sat on my mat, and I could meditate for 15-20 minutes.

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Keep your guard up, get over bad times and wrestle with every problem until you smash it! Everything what you want is on the other side of the comfort zone, remember that.

4. Hard times equals success

“Success always looks easy to those who weren’t around when it was being earned.”

Success is earned, period. When I was younger I always saw successful people and imagined what success would be like. I didn’t realize that came after a lot of hard work.

You must define what success and happiness mean to you. Being happy and being successful do not have to be the same thing. Many people are considered successful and they are not happy – and vice versa. Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy every day despite your circumstances. Success happens when you achieve something for which you have been striving.

Remember, there is no such thing as an overnight success. Most successes take many years to achieve. But you can be happy while you pursue them.

Featured photo credit: THUNDER!!! / Attila via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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