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20 Critical Things You Should Never Tolerate

20 Critical Things You Should Never Tolerate

Have you ever felt like you’ve been settling for less—like you deserve better? Well, you don’t have to settle for less than you deserve. You can determine from today to not tolerate things that bring you down or suck the life out of you. After all, our time in this world is limited. You only live once, but if you live it right, once is enough. Stop tolerating these 20 critical things, starting now, to live a full, more meaningful life.

1. Abusive relationships

Never tolerate an abusive relationship. The most telling sign that you are in an abusive relationship is fear of your partner. If you have experienced or seen consistent signs of physical, emotional or sexual abuse from your partner, it is high time you escaped. Healthy relationships equal respect and trust.

2. Infidelity

Never tolerate infidelity. Infidelity is breaking a sacred promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. If you discover your partner isn’t 100% percent committed to an intimate relationship, it’s probably time to move on.

3. Dishonesty

Never tolerate dishonesty. Living an honest life is priceless. It allows you to be at peace with others and yourself. People who are dishonest actively try to steal other people’s reality.

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4. Disrespect

Never tolerate disrespect or disrespectful people. Disrespect is speaking and behaving in a way that shows no regard for people, laws, customs, social norms or even societal politics. Don’t be disrespectful.

5. A bad job

Never tolerate a bad job you are in. If you are unhappy with your job, start putting the pieces together today to plan how you are going to transition to another job you love. Don’t stick to a job you hate indefinitely.

6. Debt

Never tolerate debt. Live well within your means. When buying stuff, go for things that you need and can afford. Have a budget and savings plan in place and stick to it to protect yourself against debt.

7. Inaction

Never tolerate inaction or inertia. Either you are going to take action, seize new opportunities and make some sort of progress, or someone else will. Life is too short to linger in your comfort zone. Apply yourself!

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8. Fear of change

Never tolerate fear of change. Every day marks a new beginning and a new ending. Fear of change is futile. Embrace change and make the best of it. Get out there and live—and grow!

9. Poor communication

Never tolerate lack of or poor communication. Encourage open, honest and loving communication in business and in your personal relationships. Healthy communication is essential to a happy life.

10. Negativity

Never tolerate negativity, whether it comes from negative thoughts or negative people. Negativity hurts more than it helps. Replace negativity with positive vibes to brighten up life and bring increased confidence.

11. Disorganization

Never tolerate disorganization. Disorganization hinders productivity. Get rid of stuff you don’t need and organize everything else. How organized you are reflects your emotional and mental well-being.

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12. Peer pressure

Never tolerate pressure from peers, such as colleagues and friends. Peer pressure only strips you of who you are as a person. Be yourself and you will attract the right friends who will appreciate you for who you are.

13. Stubbornness

Never tolerate obstinate stubbornness. Stubbornness is the need to have your own way with no concern for logic, what’s right, what’s best, or even the likely consequences of actions. Sometimes standing your ground is important, but so are compromise, cooperation and collaboration.

14. Excesses

Never tolerate excesses. It points to a moral weakness. When you are excessive, you are only feeding the monster of personal greed. Don’t let greed get the better of you.

15. Poor hygiene

Never tolerate poor hygiene habits, like refusing to bathe, brush teeth and clean up. These habits are the cause of many preventable health and social problems.

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16. Bad eating habits

Never tolerate bad eating habits, like eating to relieve stress, eating when not hungry and strict dieting. Eat healthily, exercise regularly and go for physical exams from time to time. Your health is your life.

17. Sleep deprivation

Never tolerate sleep deprivation. Your productivity suffers when your body and mind are deprived of adequate time to rest and recover in a comfortable, clean sleeping environment every night.

18. Wastefulness

Never tolerate wastefulness. Loss of time, food, money, energy and other resources due to wastefulness is a bad way of living.

19. Compromised integrity

Never tolerate people or situations that compromise your integrity. You do not wake up one morning a bad person. It happens by a succession of little compromises here and there of your values, self-respect and integrity.

20. A routine life

Never tolerate or settle for a monotonous, routine life. Generally, the less routine you have, the more life you enjoy. Make regular changes to your routine to get your brain moving and to spur on creativity.

You are the sum of your life choices and experiences. Live well!

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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