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15 Ways to Enjoy Being Single

15 Ways to Enjoy Being Single

Being single is awesome. Am I right? While it can be a drag third-wheeling and Tinder-ing your way through life, being single is, overall, a great experience. Not only does it let you have a little fun, but it can be a great way to date the number one person in your life: yourself. Here are 15 ways to make the single life the best life.

1. Be spontaneous.

Without a significant other, you don’t need to run things by another person before you jump in. Suppose you want to get a pet: no one is stopping you! (Except maybe your landlord, depending on your lease…) The point is, you can make snap decisions and enjoy them, because there’s no one there to consult. The only feelings that matter are your own!

2. Travel.

Traveling alone can be an incredibly rewarding experience. Go someplace you’ve never been, either solo or with a bunch of pals. You’ll be amazed at how much fun you can have. Leave relationship traveling for another time. After all, traveling as a couple is what honeymoons are for!

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3. Spend time with those who matter most.

Relationships come and go, but friends and family are often around for much, much longer. Your singleness is an opportunity to spend quality time with those in your life that matter the most to you. You don’t want to look back and regret not having spent enough time with someone when you had the chance.

4. Read.

Reading is one of the best ways to entertain and educate yourself at the same time. We all give the same excuse: I wish I had the time to read more. Well, without a special someone in your life chewing up time, spend it instead with a good book. Better yet, some of the best relationships are the ones that you will forge with fictional characters.

5. Work hard and play hard.

Live it up now that you have the time and energy to do so. Don’t let anything stop you from tackling everything head on, whether that’s in school, at work, or in play. Start now! (That is, by reading the rest of this article–we love that you’re playing hard by visiting Lifehack!)

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6. Reflect.

In between all that working and playing, make sure you reflect on your choices and yourself. Are you happy with what you did today? Is there room for improvement? Don’t criticize too harshly, but remember to take the time to think about yourself and your life. It’s important to let these reflections guide you.

7. Take up a new hobby.

Is there something you’ve been dying to try recently, like yoga or knitting? Stop stalling and do it already! The single life is all about you, so try something new and really sink your teeth into it.

8. Stay out and sleep in.

No one waiting at home means no getting home by a certain time at night (or morning…). So stay out as late as you want and don’t come home until you’re ready. Sleep ’til the afternoon and laze around all day. No one will know!

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9. Learn how to be alone.

While singleness is great, it can be hard sometimes to be alone with your thoughts so often. However, learning how to be alone is important. Not only will it let you be comfortable in most situations, but you can prove to yourself that you’re independent and don’t need to rely on a significant other to be happy.

10. Find your “thing.”

Everybody has something that they really enjoy doing. Whatever that is for you, this is your chance to focus on it as much as you want. It’s yours, and you don’t have to share it with anybody.

11. Say yes.

Take advantage of opportunities that come your way by saying yes! No matter how big or how small, commit to saying yes whenever you can. It will open up more doors than you think!

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12. Figure out who you are.

This is your opportunity to get to know yourself and really connect with your values and thoughts. Use this chance to assess these. Later, you’ll need this information about yourself when new love interests enter your life.

13. Get out there.

Really put yourself out there. It doesn’t matter how or in what way, but use this time to really make yourself open to possibilities and up for anything. There’s no time like the single present.

14. Enjoy the freedom.

You can do whatever you want, so figure out what that is and go do it! Take advantage of this time and make it count.

15. Be single.

The best way to enjoy being single is by…being single. Don’t go looking for love just yet. It will come along, and when it does, you’ll be ready for it.

Featured photo credit: Characters/Chris Chabot via flickr.com

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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