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13 Amazing Reasons Why Couples Who Travel Together Stay Together

13 Amazing Reasons Why Couples Who Travel Together Stay Together

According to a survey of 1,000 couples about understand how important traveling affected their relationship positively, almost two thirds (63%) of the respondents claimed that traveling has helped them stay together. The truth is not so far-fetched, when you travel together, there are sudden and exciting elements that fire your relationship.

1. A common goal and purpose

They share a common goal and purpose to see the world together. The anticipation and yearning of unraveling destinations, committing themselves to an endless adventure somehow bonds such couples and offers them a reason to always want to be together.

2. Understanding and adjusting to their limitations

Traveling is revealing, not only to the outer world but also to each other. They discover their strengths and weaknesses and find out how to complement each on these roles as they keep on uncovering paths and destinations.

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3.They have better communication

According to a survey it was found out that couples who travel together agree better and have fewer disagreements than couples who don’t travel together. Traveling makes them more understanding and patient for each other.

4.They have a better sexual relationship

According to a survey, couples who travel together have a better sexual relationship than couples who don’t travel together. Traveling together cuts the work and stress into half, enough to spark romance and affection. According to the survey more than three quarters of those who traveled admitted that they have a good sex life.

5. Experiencing something new together

The indelible treasure engraved in your hearts and minds when experiencing something together can be everlasting. What is new sort of creates a memory that will be forever unique to their relationships.

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6. It reveals who they are to each other

Since you are together most of the time, there is a little space for keeping ugly secrets. There are no facades and you have to appreciate your partner the way he or she is. Whether he snores, has his underarm hair un-shaved or has her legs un-shaved, traveling reveals a bunch of ugly truths. And with this there is little or nothing to hide.

7.Their sense of humor is built together

You can’t travel together without turning up some humor here and there. There are times when things just go horribly wrong and you have to laugh over it. It could be the horrible food you just bought on the street corner, having your hotel room mixed up or losing a map… something goes wrong and it is enough to have something to laugh at and sustain your happiness along the way.

8. They live the romance

It goes beyond what you watch on cinema screens or read in any book, as a traveling couple you live the romance out of spontaneity and a state of mind that you could be led anywhere and something could sparkle another moment of beauty. It is never about the money but the experience that traveling together could bring. This is why 86% of respondents in a survey of traveling couples said that their relationship still had romance alive in it, compared to 73% of respondents who never traveled together.

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9. They live in the moment

While other couples who don’t travel together worry about the future, and build their relationship with doubts, couples who traveled together were not worried about what was going to happen next because they were consumed and captured by the intensity of the wonderful moments experienced with each other. Traveling together didn’t give them the opportunity to over-analyze their situation and be critical on several subjects but made them appreciate the present moment.

10. They have become best friends

Since they have only each other to turn to and fewer disruptions by external bodies or persons they were able to give themselves their all to become better friends. They would stick with each other through challenges and differences to provide each other with the companion they need.

11. They are educated together

Traveling offers an opportunity for learning. And how do you feel with people who you learn a subject with? The learning experience bonds them together and offers them the opportunity to revel in knowledge as they open their minds and hearts to the world before them.

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12. They are more forgiving

Traveling together offers room for mistakes to be made and flaws to be revealed. However there are challenges all along the way and couples who travel together understand the need for forgiving each other quickly and moving on.

13. They experience freedom together

Couples who have traveled together in the past relish the freedom and independence traveling provides. With such understanding they can find comfort in respecting each other’s solitude, privacy and sense of presence. This provides another healthy angle to the progress of their relationship.

Traveling together excites and offers you amazing reasons to always be together.

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How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

“Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

1. Recognize the Red Flags

Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

Red flags can include:

  • They always put themselves first.
  • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
  • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
  • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
  • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
  • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
  • You are the villain; they are the victim.
  • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
  • They may engage in abuse.

2. Set Boundaries

There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

3. Invest in Yourself

You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

Final Thoughts

Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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