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How A Good Relationship Can Keep You From Failure In Life And Business

How A Good Relationship Can Keep You From Failure In Life And Business

You have probably heard the phrase “behind every great man is a great woman.” Of course, nowadays the phrase could also be reversed, but the point is still the same: good relationships can help make you successful in life and in the workplace.

This is important for those in a relationship and for those who are single to contemplate. Those who are single might consider the fact that it is beneficial to have a partner in life. Those who are in a relationship need to understand that what they do can make or break their counterpart’s success in the workplace. I need to remind myself of this as well, so let us learn together, shall we?

1. A partner can remind you what you love about your job.

When you come home from work in a huff and swear, “I am going to quit!” your loved one can help to calm you down and talk reasonably about the situation.

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2. A partner can give an outside perspective.

Oftentimes, we can get so caught up in a situation that it can be hard to have perspective. Someone outside of the situation who is close to you might be able to assist in looking at the problem from a different angle and might even help you find a good solution.

3. We can be motivated to perform well.

We want to make our loved one proud. If that is not a motivating factor, another motivator may be that you are a provider for the family and you don’t want to let them down.

4. A romantic relationship can build our confidence.

Winning someone over, as well as maintaining a healthy relationship, can make us feel good about ourselves. We will radiate confidence wherever we go.

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5. A partner can pick up the slack from time to time.

Sometimes you are just crazy busy at work. It can be a lifesaver to have a partner to pick up the slack at home for that time, whether it be making dinner or doing the laundry for you.

6. Your partner can help you remember what is most important.

We all have goals in life, but sometimes it is not about achieving the goals, but living in the moment. When friends or family are in town but you think you should stay late at the office, your loved one can nudge you to take time for the people in your life.

7. Your loved one can help you brainstorm.

If you are like me, you have tons of ideas bouncing around in your head at any given moment. It can be helpful to talk these things out with someone either for the sake of hearing them out loud or to get trusted feedback. Some of those ideas are just plain silly and it’s good to have someone tell you so!

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8. Being involved in a romantic relationship helps you look your best.

This might take the form of hitting the gym more often or taking the time to fix your hair. Whichever details you pay special attention to in order to look good for your partner will pay off in the workplace as well. Those who look more pulled together are more likely to be offered more opportunities and/or promotions, not to mention the fact that we just feel good when we look our best.

9. A loved one is helpful in relieving stress.

Have you ever had a shoulder rub after a long day of work? Or were able to laugh at a funny movie with someone? These are only a couple of ways a partner can help relieve work-related stress. This can help you unwind and recharge for the next work day.

Also see: 9 Things You Can Do for Daily Stress Relief

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10. Happy home, happy life.

It is no secret that when things are good at home, this feeling tends to carry over to the rest of your life. You will be able to perform better at work if you are not bogged down with problems with your partner.

11. Personal cheerleader.

Your special someone should be your biggest cheerleader. Sure, they may not agree with everything you do, but they should be positive about your work. Your successes should be celebrated and it helps to have someone to cheer with you.

There are many ways a relationship can be helpful in making us successful in life and in the workplace. It is important for us to remember that we need to encourage our loved one so that he or she can be the very best. You really never know what great things this kind of support will lead to.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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