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How A Good Relationship Can Keep You From Failure In Life And Business

How A Good Relationship Can Keep You From Failure In Life And Business

You have probably heard the phrase “behind every great man is a great woman.” Of course, nowadays the phrase could also be reversed, but the point is still the same: good relationships can help make you successful in life and in the workplace.

This is important for those in a relationship and for those who are single to contemplate. Those who are single might consider the fact that it is beneficial to have a partner in life. Those who are in a relationship need to understand that what they do can make or break their counterpart’s success in the workplace. I need to remind myself of this as well, so let us learn together, shall we?

1. A partner can remind you what you love about your job.

When you come home from work in a huff and swear, “I am going to quit!” your loved one can help to calm you down and talk reasonably about the situation.

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2. A partner can give an outside perspective.

Oftentimes, we can get so caught up in a situation that it can be hard to have perspective. Someone outside of the situation who is close to you might be able to assist in looking at the problem from a different angle and might even help you find a good solution.

3. We can be motivated to perform well.

We want to make our loved one proud. If that is not a motivating factor, another motivator may be that you are a provider for the family and you don’t want to let them down.

4. A romantic relationship can build our confidence.

Winning someone over, as well as maintaining a healthy relationship, can make us feel good about ourselves. We will radiate confidence wherever we go.

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5. A partner can pick up the slack from time to time.

Sometimes you are just crazy busy at work. It can be a lifesaver to have a partner to pick up the slack at home for that time, whether it be making dinner or doing the laundry for you.

6. Your partner can help you remember what is most important.

We all have goals in life, but sometimes it is not about achieving the goals, but living in the moment. When friends or family are in town but you think you should stay late at the office, your loved one can nudge you to take time for the people in your life.

7. Your loved one can help you brainstorm.

If you are like me, you have tons of ideas bouncing around in your head at any given moment. It can be helpful to talk these things out with someone either for the sake of hearing them out loud or to get trusted feedback. Some of those ideas are just plain silly and it’s good to have someone tell you so!

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8. Being involved in a romantic relationship helps you look your best.

This might take the form of hitting the gym more often or taking the time to fix your hair. Whichever details you pay special attention to in order to look good for your partner will pay off in the workplace as well. Those who look more pulled together are more likely to be offered more opportunities and/or promotions, not to mention the fact that we just feel good when we look our best.

9. A loved one is helpful in relieving stress.

Have you ever had a shoulder rub after a long day of work? Or were able to laugh at a funny movie with someone? These are only a couple of ways a partner can help relieve work-related stress. This can help you unwind and recharge for the next work day.

Also see: 9 Things You Can Do for Daily Stress Relief

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10. Happy home, happy life.

It is no secret that when things are good at home, this feeling tends to carry over to the rest of your life. You will be able to perform better at work if you are not bogged down with problems with your partner.

11. Personal cheerleader.

Your special someone should be your biggest cheerleader. Sure, they may not agree with everything you do, but they should be positive about your work. Your successes should be celebrated and it helps to have someone to cheer with you.

There are many ways a relationship can be helpful in making us successful in life and in the workplace. It is important for us to remember that we need to encourage our loved one so that he or she can be the very best. You really never know what great things this kind of support will lead to.

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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