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11 Places of Happiness We’ve All Been To

11 Places of Happiness We’ve All Been To

We all want to be happy, and, like most things in life, the journey there is more important than the destination. If you’re looking for a reason to smile, there are some common places of happiness we all share, although each is for a different purpose. If your life is getting dull, these are the options. Use each responsibly, and at your own risk, though, because too much of anything is usually a bad thing.

1. The Past.

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    My alarm clock got tired of being hit…

    The past is filled with happy times if you know where to look. You can get a quick smile refresher from looking back, but if you dwell too often on the past, you’ll miss a lot of what’s going on around you in the present. Keep in mind that thinking about the past won’t bring it back; enjoy what you have left instead of lamenting what you lost.

    2. The Future.

    Joon and I were talking about this the other day; your dreams can become reality, but whether it’s because they’re premonitions or because you’re driving yourself toward your dreams is debatable. It’s OK to dream about a perfect future, but it’s more important to take actionable steps toward building that future – otherwise it becomes a carrot on a stick, and your life becomes a revolving treadmill.

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    3. Fairy Tales.

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      Think Midas has problems…Ever hear about Bastet’s Chronos Touch?

      Every so often we all fantasize about the alternate reality of our lives. Maybe you imagine sleeping with a co-worker or friend you’d never make a move on in real life. Perhaps you pretend you’re a secret agent instead of an accountant. Whatever you’re into, it’s OK to have your head in the clouds, no matter what anyone tells you. Dreamers built this world – never forget that!

      4. Home.

      Home is where the heart is. Some days you want to just bury yourself under blankets and relax at home. We all need time to ourselves, and your home is the place to do it. Just make sure you wander out every so often. It’s easy to connect to the real world while disconnecting with everyone else around us.

      5. Stuff.

      Many people seek relief from material possessions, but they aren’t always a bad thing. A stuffed animal or body pillow, for example, is a perfectly suitable temporary outlet for emotions or when you just need to cuddle. Inanimate objects can cheer you up, but don’t depend on them entirely. It still takes human connection to find true happiness.

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      6. Friends.

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        Women…don’t fall asleep in public…it doesn’t end well IRL…

        Friends – how many of us have them? It’s important that your friends keep you happy. It’s not that you don’t occasionally need a reality check (and it’s OK to be around people who are sad), but you don’t want to fill your life with people who are constantly bringing you down. Just remember that you’re ultimately responsible for yourself, and don’t throw away your own goals and dreams for your friends.

        7. Family.

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          Yes, honey…I’m aware you’re used to being the controversial one in a mixed-race relationship, but times have changed…

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          Blood is thicker than water; your family should always be your main source of happiness. If something’s wrong with your family, it’s a good idea to look into it. These people provide comfort, and, unlike everyone else in your life, your family will always be your family, no matter what. If you can’t talk openly and honestly with your family, you’ve got problems.

          8. Romance.

          Sometimes you need a confidence boost. If you’re already in a relationship, it’s OK to lean on your partner for happiness every now and again, but you need to be happy on your own as well. Single folks are worse off; investing emotions into intimate or romantic encounters when you’re single can cause some major crashes.

          9. Pets.

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            Get a dog, they said…women will think he’s cute, they said…

            The only thing that can possibly make you happier than family is a pet. Pets don’t care about any of the dumb things going in your life, or how much money you make, or about any of the random things people judge you by. Pets are as close as you’ll get to unconditional love. Just treat them right, because if you don’t, I’ll hunt you down (and so will many other people on the internet).

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            10. Consumerism.

            Buying something for yourself or other people is a great way to perk up with a quick smile, but don’t go overboard and directly tie your happiness to what you can buy. Tying your sense of self-worth to your financial situation is never a good idea, because when you’re unstable financially, you end up unstable emotionally at a time when you most need happiness.

            11. Nature.

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              Babe…why did we walk out into the middle of the desert to look at the sky? I can see the sky from my room…

              Sometimes what you need is to get away from the rat race. It’s possible to spend so much time working that you forget what it is that’s really important to you. When things get to hectic, don’t be afraid to pull out and head out into the woods. Backpacking, hiking, and camping are some of my favorite ways to get in touch with nature and remember life’s not so bad after all.

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              Last Updated on July 3, 2020

              30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

              30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

              In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

              1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

              Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

              2. Focus on your breath

              Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

              3. Get organized and purge old items

              A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

              4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

              Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

              5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

              Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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              6. Smile more

              Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

              7. Don’t worry about the future

              As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

              8. Eat real food

              The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

              9. Choose being happy over being right

              Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

              10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

              Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

              11. Make use of filtering features on social media

              You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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              12. Get comfortable with silence

              When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

              13. Listen to understand, not to respond

              So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

              14. Put your troubles in a bubble

              Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

              15. Speak more slowly

              Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

              16. Don’t procrastinate

              Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

              17. Buy a coloring book

              Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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              18. Prioritize yourself

              You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

              19. Forgive others

              Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

              20. Check your expectations

              Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

              21. Engage in active play

              Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

              22. Stop criticizing yourself

              The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

              23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

              Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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              24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

              Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

              25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

              Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

              26. Manage your money

              Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

              27. Stop trying to control everything

              Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

              28. Practice affirmations

              Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

              29. Get up before sunrise

              Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

              30. Be yourself

              Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

              Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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