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10 Things Only People Who Have A Clever Girlfriend Would Understand

10 Things Only People Who Have A Clever Girlfriend Would Understand

Having a self-assured woman by your side has a lot of benefits and makes you motivated to be the best version of yourself everyday. Here are a few other reasons why you are glad to be with a woman who is not afraid to be herself.

1. You know that you will never be bored

Having a clever girlfriend by your side means that life will never be dull when you are together. She always knows about the best movies to watch or a music venue where you are bound to have a blast. She is highly creative and know how to help keep your relationship from slipping into a predictable routine.

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2. You know that you will always have someone to push yourself to be your best

Sometimes you need someone from the outside to encourage you to keep going when you feel like giving up. This is your girl. Her confidence in herself carries over to you and inspires you everyday to stay motivated and keep your head up during hard times. That one time that you lost your job? She was by your side, cheering you on and helping you polish your resume.

3. You know that life together will be full of thoughtful surprises

It’s notoriously hard to shop for your significant other, especially if they seem to have everything they already want. Luckily, your girl knows how to be creative with her gift-giving and always has something epic up her sleeve. Your last birthday? A road trip down to a nearby city to see your favorite band was one of the most thoughtful things that anyone has ever done for you.

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4. You know that you will have different opinions on things and that’s OK

She has strong opinions on a wide spectrum of topics and this is why you love her. You also know that sometimes your ideas are bound to clash, but what’s important is that you both have a mutual level of respect for each others’ viewpoints. She also knows when to stop and agree to disagree about a certain subject, whether it is about politics or a TV show.

5. You love how she pursues her own passions

She knows what her interests are and makes sure to dedicate her time to them, whether they are writing a blog or learning martial arts. You know that it’s important for your relationship to have time away from each other and you have been inspired by her to pursue your own passions, like learning a new language or picking up a few songs on the guitar.

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6. You are not afraid to tell her your dreams

She is supportive of your dreams big and small and you always feel comfortable telling your life’s aspirations to her, even if you never told anyone else before. She knows the importance of confiding your dreams to someone else who you trust, because she does the same with you, telling you about her dreams to be in a band or do research in Antarctica.

7. You love how she demands respect of herself

She is self-assured and expects everyone to respect her and treat her equally as a woman. She stands up for herself, whether she is in the workplace or out with her friends. She expects no less from you and you are always willing to support her with no exceptions.

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8. You know that when you fight with her it will always be a fair fight

She knows how to stand-up for what she believes in, but she also know what not to say during your arguments that bring up sore points. There are some things in a relationship that are meant to stay in the past and you love her because she is able to get up and move past these issues and focus on the present disagreement.

9. You had to prove that you were worthy of her time

When you first started dating she made sure to take things slow and really get to know each other before being in a committed relationship. You love this about her and are willing to do anything to prove that you were meant to be, from leaving little love notes to spending time getting to know her friends. She is completely worth it.

10. You feel comfortable admitting your fears and getting real feedback on them

She is good at giving an honest opinion on things that scare you in a supportive, but constructive manner. She pushes you to face your fears, but also lets you know that she is right by your side supporting you all the way. In turn, she tells you her own fears and shows that she is not afraid to be vulnerable with you.

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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