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Last Updated on August 24, 2018

10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman

10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman

There are very few things as stunning and breathtaking as an alpha woman. Her poised sense of self and her kind yet firm ways are a masterful thing to behold. While others may lack courage and direction in life, the alpha woman knows exactly what she wants, who she is, and she is completely unapologetic about it.

Are you wondering if you are an alpha woman? Read on and discover 10 signs that will show you if you are that masterful alpha woman that everybody loves.

1. The spotlight is always on you.

Whether you want it or not, the spotlight is always on you. Your confidence demands the attention of all you come in contact with. At work everyone may look to you for guidance on how to complete a project or for you to take the lead on group assignments.

In social gatherings, you may just be the one sharing the entertaining stories and making everyone laugh uncontrollably. You steal the attention of one and all and you capture them with your energy, your poise, and your all encompassing gift of social power.

2. You live with purpose.

Not one day goes by that you don’t know exactly what you are going to get out of that day. You live with purpose and have clear goals for all areas of your life. The physical, mental and spiritual goals you set for yourself are more than just things you want to accomplish, they are achievements that define you and therefore you pour your heart into them.

You persevere regardless of the circumstances or trials that come with achieving goals. You know that it is only through hard work that you can continue to be the masterful woman you are.

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3. You are not afraid of being alone.

    So you broke up with your boyfriend of 5 years? That is quite alright. You are not defined by romantic relationships. You know what you are capable of accomplishing with or without love in your life.

    In fact, sometimes you are way more productive when you are alone; so really the break up was a blessing in disguise. You now have time to read all the books that have been collecting dust under your bed, or catch up with old friends. In regards to the boy? Well, there will be another.

    4. You understand the importance of balance.

    You understand that you need balance in all aspects of your life: physical, mental and spiritual. You are committed to thorough work in each of these areas to better yourself and live life to the fullest.

    You embrace the importance of believing in something greater than yourself in order to truly be fulfilled. You understand that what you put in your body is exactly what you will get out. Therefore, you take care of your body as if it was an ancient temple or one of the seven world wonders, which, if we are being honest, it truly is.

    Lastly, you don’t stop developing yourself intellectually, ever. It is your knowledge and wisdom of life that intrigues people but more importantly it is what drives you to face life with courage and boldness.

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    5. You embrace change.

      While most people are terrified of change, the magnificent alpha woman in you welcomes it. You believe there is no growth without change and no change without sacrifice.

      For you, the opportunity for self development is worth far more than the fear of sacrificing the comfort of what you already know. This is truly where the beauty of the alpha woman lies, in your ability to face life and embrace the possibilities for change.

      6. You know how to love.

      While most people may argue that as an alpha woman you are self-sufficient and have no capacity for love, they couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead, they fail to see that you thoroughly understand your worth and therefore accurately guard your heart until you find worthy individuals to pour your love on.

      When you do, the love fest is unconditional, faithful and true. To you, Disney fairy tales are a disgrace to the true meaning of love. While everyone else is waiting to get swept off their feet, you aren’t afraid to make the first move and fight for what you believe is rightly yours, your one true love.

      7. You are very much misunderstood.

      Society has this incessant need of fitting you into a mold and quite frankly that does not work with you. You are unapologetic about your opinions. You are unrestrained about your beliefs. You beleive in what you believe in, and there is very little others can do to change your mind once it has been made up.

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      Because of your strong sense of self and your uncontainable confidence, you are very much misunderstood. Society cannot understand how it is possible for a woman to be so bold, so courageous, so thoroughly and magnificently breathtaking. Don’t ever feel like you must change to fit someone else’s opinion of you.

      8. You are a uncontrollable risk taker.

        You believe the wise words of William Shedd who said:

        “A ship is safe in harbour, but that is not what ships are for.”

        For you, there is no life without risk! What others may see as reckless you see as an opportunity for stepping out of your comfort zone and let your courage shine. Taking these risks in life is what drives you and keeps you focused on becoming the woman you long to be. You never conform and always persevere. You are simply a natural risk taker!

        9. You know that you don’t know.

        Your wisdom and constant pursuit for knowledge have taught you that you don’t know everything. This is what saves you and keeps you from becoming arrogant and self-absorbed.

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        Continue to keep this in mind, knowing that there is always room to discover and learn from others. This is crucial to keep the balance in your life; especially because your natural ways are so overpowering.

        With time, you will learn when to step aside and let someone else shine, knowing that stepping aside won’t diminish your light, instead, it will enhance it even more.

        10. You never give up.

        This is probably one of your most amazing qualities. The fact that you know that it is not over until you gain complete victory over what you are setting out to do. This quality is what allows you to be successful and sets you apart from the rest of society.

        You persevere with purpose and determination. That perseverance is what gives you the freedom to be bold and courageous. After all, you know where you’ve been, where you are going, and down to the “T”, exactly what you are capable of.

        If you want to become an Alpha woman and lead a successful life, you can also learn from these tips:

        10 Ways to Cultivate the Alpha Personality for Success

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        Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

        Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

        Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

        Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

        Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

        Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

        • What if I took a chance on myself?
        • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
        • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
        • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

        So why would you think you’re not good enough?

        1. Parenting

        The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

        I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

        Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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        As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

        If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

        Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

        If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

        As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

        Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

        Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

        Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

        2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

        Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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        No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

        Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

        The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

        What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

        If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

        When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

        Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

        Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

        It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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        When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

        When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

        Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

        3. Undervalue Yourself

        What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

        What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

        There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

        Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

        “College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

        Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

        Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

        Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

        Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

        By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

        Final Thoughts

        Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

        Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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