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10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman

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10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman

There are very few things as stunning and breathtaking as an alpha woman. Her poised sense of self and her kind yet firm ways are a masterful thing to behold. While others may lack courage and direction in life, the alpha woman knows exactly what she wants, who she is, and she is completely unapologetic about it.

Are you wondering if you are an alpha woman? Read on and discover 10 signs that will show you if you are that masterful alpha woman that everybody loves.

1. The spotlight is always on you.

Whether you want it or not, the spotlight is always on you. Your confidence demands the attention of all you come in contact with. At work everyone may look to you for guidance on how to complete a project or for you to take the lead on group assignments.

In social gatherings, you may just be the one sharing the entertaining stories and making everyone laugh uncontrollably. You steal the attention of one and all and you capture them with your energy, your poise, and your all encompassing gift of social power.

2. You live with purpose.

Not one day goes by that you don’t know exactly what you are going to get out of that day. You live with purpose and have clear goals for all areas of your life. The physical, mental and spiritual goals you set for yourself are more than just things you want to accomplish, they are achievements that define you and therefore you pour your heart into them.

You persevere regardless of the circumstances or trials that come with achieving goals. You know that it is only through hard work that you can continue to be the masterful woman you are.

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3. You are not afraid of being alone.

    So you broke up with your boyfriend of 5 years? That is quite alright. You are not defined by romantic relationships. You know what you are capable of accomplishing with or without love in your life.

    In fact, sometimes you are way more productive when you are alone; so really the break up was a blessing in disguise. You now have time to read all the books that have been collecting dust under your bed, or catch up with old friends. In regards to the boy? Well, there will be another.

    4. You understand the importance of balance.

    You understand that you need balance in all aspects of your life: physical, mental and spiritual. You are committed to thorough work in each of these areas to better yourself and live life to the fullest.

    You embrace the importance of believing in something greater than yourself in order to truly be fulfilled. You understand that what you put in your body is exactly what you will get out. Therefore, you take care of your body as if it was an ancient temple or one of the seven world wonders, which, if we are being honest, it truly is.

    Lastly, you don’t stop developing yourself intellectually, ever. It is your knowledge and wisdom of life that intrigues people but more importantly it is what drives you to face life with courage and boldness.

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    5. You embrace change.

      While most people are terrified of change, the magnificent alpha woman in you welcomes it. You believe there is no growth without change and no change without sacrifice.

      For you, the opportunity for self development is worth far more than the fear of sacrificing the comfort of what you already know. This is truly where the beauty of the alpha woman lies, in your ability to face life and embrace the possibilities for change.

      6. You know how to love.

      While most people may argue that as an alpha woman you are self-sufficient and have no capacity for love, they couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead, they fail to see that you thoroughly understand your worth and therefore accurately guard your heart until you find worthy individuals to pour your love on.

      When you do, the love fest is unconditional, faithful and true. To you, Disney fairy tales are a disgrace to the true meaning of love. While everyone else is waiting to get swept off their feet, you aren’t afraid to make the first move and fight for what you believe is rightly yours, your one true love.

      7. You are very much misunderstood.

      Society has this incessant need of fitting you into a mold and quite frankly that does not work with you. You are unapologetic about your opinions. You are unrestrained about your beliefs. You beleive in what you believe in, and there is very little others can do to change your mind once it has been made up.

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      Because of your strong sense of self and your uncontainable confidence, you are very much misunderstood. Society cannot understand how it is possible for a woman to be so bold, so courageous, so thoroughly and magnificently breathtaking. Don’t ever feel like you must change to fit someone else’s opinion of you.

      8. You are a uncontrollable risk taker.

        You believe the wise words of William Shedd who said:

        “A ship is safe in harbour, but that is not what ships are for.”

        For you, there is no life without risk! What others may see as reckless you see as an opportunity for stepping out of your comfort zone and let your courage shine. Taking these risks in life is what drives you and keeps you focused on becoming the woman you long to be. You never conform and always persevere. You are simply a natural risk taker!

        9. You know that you don’t know.

        Your wisdom and constant pursuit for knowledge have taught you that you don’t know everything. This is what saves you and keeps you from becoming arrogant and self-absorbed.

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        Continue to keep this in mind, knowing that there is always room to discover and learn from others. This is crucial to keep the balance in your life; especially because your natural ways are so overpowering.

        With time, you will learn when to step aside and let someone else shine, knowing that stepping aside won’t diminish your light, instead, it will enhance it even more.

        10. You never give up.

        This is probably one of your most amazing qualities. The fact that you know that it is not over until you gain complete victory over what you are setting out to do. This quality is what allows you to be successful and sets you apart from the rest of society.

        You persevere with purpose and determination. That perseverance is what gives you the freedom to be bold and courageous. After all, you know where you’ve been, where you are going, and down to the “T”, exactly what you are capable of.

        If you want to become an Alpha woman and lead a successful life, you can also learn from these tips:

        10 Ways to Cultivate the Alpha Personality for Success

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        How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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        How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

        You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

        Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

        Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

        Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

        1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

        According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

        “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

        Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

        Warming up

        If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

        If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

        Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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        1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
        2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
        3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

        Stay hydrated

        Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

        To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

        Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

        Meditate

        Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

        Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

        Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

        Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

        2. Focus on your goal

        One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

        Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

        Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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        Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

        If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

        3. Convert negativity to positivity

        There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

        ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

        It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

        Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

        Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

        Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

        4. Understand your content

        Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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        However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

        “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

        Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

        Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

        One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

        5. Practice makes perfect

        Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

        In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

        Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

        6. Be authentic

        There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

        Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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        Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

        To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

        With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

        Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

        7. Post speech evaluation

        Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

        Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

        We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

        You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

        Improve your next speech

        As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

        Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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        • How did I do?
        • Are there any areas for improvement?
        • Did I sound or look stressed?
        • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
        • Was I saying “um” too often?
        • How was the flow of the speech?

        Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

        If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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