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10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman

10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman

There are very few things as stunning and breathtaking as an alpha woman. Her poised sense of self and her kind yet firm ways are a masterful thing to behold. While others may lack courage and direction in life, the alpha woman knows exactly what she wants, who she is, and she is completely unapologetic about it.

Are you wondering if you are an alpha woman? Read on and discover 10 signs that will show you if you are that masterful alpha woman that everybody loves.

1. The spotlight is always on you

Whether you want it or not, the spotlight is always on you. Your confidence demands the attention of all you come in contact with. At work everyone may look to you for guidance on how to complete a project or for you to take the lead on group assignments. In social gatherings, you may just be the one sharing the entertaining stories and making everyone laugh uncontrollably. You steal the attention of one and all and you capture them with your energy, your poise, and your all encompassing gift of social power.

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2. You live with purpose

Not one day goes by that you don’t know exactly what you are going to get out of that day. You live with purpose and have clear goals for all areas of your life. The physical, mental and spiritual goals you set for yourself are more than just things you want to accomplish, they are achievements that define you and therefore you pour your heart into them. You persevere regardless of the circumstances or trials that come with achieving goals. You know that it is only through hard work that you can continue to be the masterful woman you are.

3. You are not afraid of being alone

So you broke up with your boyfriend of 5 years? That is quite alright. You are not defined by romantic relationships. You know what you are capable of accomplishing with or without love in your life. In fact, sometimes you are way more productive when you are alone; so really the break up was a blessing in disguise. You now have time to read all the books that have been collecting dust under your bed, or catch up with old friends. In regards to the boy? Well, there will be another.

4. You understand the importance of balance

You understand that you need balance in all aspects of your life: physical, mental and spiritual. You are committed to thorough work in each of these areas to better yourself and live life to the fullest. You embrace the importance of believing in something greater than yourself in order to truly be fulfilled. You understand that what you put in your body is exactly what you will get out. Therefore, you take care of your body as if it was an ancient temple or one of the seven world wonders, which, if we are being honest, it truly is. Lastly, you don’t stop developing yourself intellectually, ever. It is your knowledge and wisdom of life that intrigues people but more importantly it is what drives you to face life with courage and boldness.

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5. You embrace change

While most people are terrified of change, the magnificent alpha woman in you welcomes it. You believe there is no growth without change and no change without sacrifice. For you the opportunity for self development is worth far more than the fear of sacrificing the comfort of what you already know. This is truly where the beauty of the alpha woman lies, in your ability to face life and embrace the possibilities for change.

6. You know how to love

While most people may argue that as an alpha woman you are self-sufficient and have no capacity for love, they couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead, they fail to see that you thoroughly understand your worth and therefore accurately guard your heart until you find worthy individuals to pour your love on. When you do, the love fest is unconditional, faithful and true. To you, Disney fairy tales are a disgrace to the true meaning of love. While everyone else is waiting to get swept off their feet, you aren’t afraid to make the first move and fight for what you believe is rightly yours, your one true love.

7. You are very much misunderstood

Society has this incessant need of fitting you into a mold and quite frankly that does not work with you. You are unapologetic about your opinions. You are unrestrained about your beliefs. You beleive in what you believe in, and there is very little others can do to change your mind once it has been made up. Because of your strong sense of self and your uncontainable confidence, you are very much misunderstood. Society cannot understand how it is possible for a woman to be so bold, so courageous, so thoroughly and magnificently breathtaking. Don’t ever feel like you must change to fit someone else’s opinion of you.

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8. You are a uncontrollable risk taker

You believe the wise words of William Shedd who said: “A ship is safe in harbour, but that is not what ships are for.”

For you, there is no life without risk! What others may see as reckless you see as an opportunity for stepping out of your comfort zone and let your courage shine. Taking these risks in life is what drives you and keeps you focused on becoming the woman you long to be. You never conform and always persevere. You are simply a natural risk taker!

9. You know that you don’t know

Your wisdom and constant pursuit for knowledge have taught you that you don’t know everything. This is what saves you and keeps you from becoming arrogant and self-absorbed. Continue to keep this in mind, knowing that there is always room to discover and learn from others. This is crucial to keep the balance in your life; especially because your natural ways are so overpowering. With time, you will learn when to step aside and let someone else shine, knowing that stepping aside won’t diminish your light, instead, it will enhance it even more.

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10. You never give up

This is probably one of your most amazing qualities. The fact that you know that it is not over until you gain complete victory over what you are setting out to do. This quality is what allows you to be successful and sets you apart from the rest of society. You persevere with purpose and determination. That perseverance is what gives you the freedom to be bold and courageous. After all, you know where you’ve been, where you are going, and down to the “T”, exactly what you are capable of.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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