“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.” — Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
Have you ever been faced with a challenge that seems like a brick wall that is too ridiculously high to climb over? In these moments we can often feel angry, scared, frustrated, alone and think to ourselves: “Why me?” “Why now?” “I can’t do that!” “There’s no way I can get past this!”
I totally get it. We all get it, because we’ve all been there. The thing is that there are plenty of people making it over to the other side, some of whose walls are even higher than yours. It might take them a while, they might have to get creative on how they do it, but they still make it over eventually and if they can, so can you.Advertising
Instead of filling your mind with thoughts that keep your feet glued to the ground, try telling yourself these 10 sentences and start climbing that wall one little step at a time. The grass is greener on the other side.
1. “I am stronger and more capable than I think I am.”
You have deep wells of strength that you don’t even know exist. Sometimes our brains try to hide these from us in an attempt to keep us safe and within our comfort zone, but you don’t have to believe everything you think. I promise you that you are physically, mentally and emotionally stronger than you think you are.
2. “I have faced and conquered many challenges in my life and I can do it again.”
Take a moment to think about a time in your life that was really hard. A huge challenge that you didn’t think you could get through but you did. You fought, you pushed through the fear and in the end you achieved the seemingly unachievable. You did it then and you can absolutely do it now.Advertising
3. “I know there is a valuable lesson to be learned from this, even if I don’t understand what it is right now.”
We are not meant to live in our comfort zone. If we did we would never do anything, we would never experience full lives or grow or evolve. Life gives us challenges to test us and push us further than we ever thought possible. Often we look back on past experiences and see why they happened or what we learned from them. There is something to learn from this one too, even if we don’t know what it is right now.
4. “I can find happiness in any situation.”
Your life will never be perfect. There is no moment in the future where everything will line up and you will be blissfully happy. “I’ll be happy when (fill in the blank).” That moment doesn’t exist. Happy people choose to be happy now by finding something to be grateful for in any situation. It can be as simple as your morning coffee that tastes so delicious. Think through and focus on the positives more than you do the negatives.
5. “I have made mistakes before but I am not my mistakes. I believe in my ability to change and be better.”
We all make mistakes, it’s a part of life. It’s also the way we learn and grow. You have no control over the things that have happened in the past, but you do have control over the decisions you make in the future. Choose to believe in your ability to make better decisions. Sure you might make a few more mistakes along the way, and who cares? Learn from them, grow from them and move on.Advertising
6. “I am calm and collected as I make my way through this.”
We think more clearly and have better judgment when our minds are calm. Take a few minutes to yourself. Breathe in and out slowly. Let any thoughts that come in float away (I actually picture mine as little butterflies floating into the sky) and say to yourself, “I am calm and collected as I make my way through this.”
7. “I trust myself in making great decisions.”
Sometimes challenges can leave us feeling torn and completely confused. Trust that deep down you know what the best answer or approach is. Whatever you choose and whatever happens will eventually work out and be OK. So take the pressure off yourself and trust in your intuition.
8. “I have the ability to solve problems creatively.”
You have the ability to think outside the box and get creative when it comes to solving your own problems. Trust in yourself and this creative power. If you’re doing something that’s not working, try a different approach. The worst thing that could happen is that it stays the same as it is now.Advertising
9. “I am not expected to do this alone. I can ask for help if I want it.”
Whatever the challenge is, you are not expected to do it alone. Reach out to people who love and support you or seek the assistance of healers, counselors, whomever and whatever you think will help you get through this. It’s amazing how simple our problems can seem when we start working through them with others.
10. “I choose to see this challenge as an opportunity.”
It can be hard to be positive in times of struggle, but a huge challenge is only one because we let it be. Force yourself to look for the opportunities you are being given because of this challenge. It could be that it has brought you closer to your family and friends, or that you have learned a valuable lesson. See your challenges as opportunities to grow and be better.
You can do this. You are strong enough.
“Every great story on the planet happened when someone decided not to give up but kept going no matter what.” — Spryte Loriano
Featured photo credit: Life is hard/D. Garding via flickr.com
Last Updated on July 15, 2019
41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About
Some things in life are hard to describe, yet we can recognize them when we see them.
Love is one of those things.
True love comes in many different forms, but here are some that many of us know well.
True love means supporting those who can’t support themselves
A young man comforts his date in Times Square, New York City. Image by mbtrama
A young man holds his significant other close to him. Image by Brad Fults
A young track competitor helps one of her injured opponents over the finish line. Image from ViralNova.com
A soldier in the Korean War takes time to feed a baby kitten. Image from US Naval Insititute
It’s having the perfect selfie partner
A mother and her daughter take a selfie together. Image by Andrew Fysh
Two young girls pose for the camera. Image by Rolands Lakis
A happy couple takes a picture together. Image by Kayla Heineman
Two best friends take a selfie together. Image by Jason Wahido
Friends take a selfie together. Image by Glenn Scofield Williams
It’s all the warm fuzzies
A young man spends time with his dog on a beach. Image by Magdalena Roeseler
A pet owner hugs his dog while on a day trip in San Francisco. Image by Taro the Shiba Inu
It means having a friend to photobomb you
A boy makes a funny face as he poses for a picture with his brother. Image by Michael Bentley
A man photobombs his wife while their grandson snaps a picture. Image by Frank
Family members photobomb their relatives’ Thanksgiving day family photo. Image by Beth Scupham
A friend photobombs the photographer and their friend, the woman in the foreground of this photo. Image by Lachlan Hardy
True love means being there even when life gets unbearably hard
A family watches the Vermont National Guard depart for Afghanistan. Image by The U.S. Army
During a monsoon in the Philippines, a boy carries his dog to safety. Image by Romeo Ranoco
A man helps a woman out of her vehicle during a flood in Chalandri, Greece. Image by John Kolesidis
A woman has lunch with her husband every day, even after he’s passed away. Image from ViralNova.com
A woman hugs the mother of 6-year-old Noah Ponzer, who was one of the victims of the Sandy Hook shootings. Image by Spencer Platt
An Oklahoma couple pauses while trying to salvage belongings from a family member’s home after a tornado. Image by Adrees Latif
A girl puts her arm around her little brother as they wait outside of Sandy Hook Elementary after gunshots are fired. Image by Reuters.
A woman sits at her husband’s grave the day before their wedding anniversary. Image from NBC news
It means taking the time for long goodbyes
A man says goodbye to his son before deploying. Image by Official U.S. Navy Page
A South Carolina man says goodbye to his son before deploying for Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard
A Sergeant hugs both of his sons before being deployed to Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard
And cherishing reunions
A woman hugs her husband as she sees him for the first time since his deployment to Iraq. Image by The U.S. Army
A young woman hugs her significant other as he returns home for Kuwait. Image by The National Guard
A mother drops to her knees as she hugs her son on her return home from the Persian Gulf. Image by The National Guard
True love is letting yourself feel young when they’re around
Two friends on their smartphones. Image by Robert Neff
A young couple getting their picture taken. Image by db Photograph
A father plays in a sprinkler with his daughter at Millennium Park in Chicago. Image by Ben Forsberg
A young couple on a subway enjoys sharing time together, while the girlfriend’s father sneaks a photo of them. Image by Gareth Williams
A couple holds hands on a fall day. Image by David Amsler
It’s letting yourself be silly… just because they’ll enjoy it
A grandfather makes faces at the camera with his granddaughters. Image by Tim Pierce
A woman’s father wears a Napoleon Dynamite t-shirt to make his daughter laugh. Image by emdot
True love is allowing yourself to show how you really feel
A young couple kisses in the back of a restaurant in Washington, D.C. Image by Derek Key
Violinist Nancy Dinovo plays at a memorial service for the victims of 9/11. Image by Christopher Morris
True love is timeless
Friends spending some time together. Image by Cristian Bortes
A group of friends sits around a campfire eating. Image by New Old Stock
An elderly couple walks down a street together. Image by Matteo Paciotti
Featured photo credit: Matteo Paciotti via flickr.com