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10 Reasons Why You Should Have A Drummer Girlfriend

10 Reasons Why You Should Have A Drummer Girlfriend

Whether you are looking to date around or find someone you can settle down with, having a drummer for a girlfriend can be quite the experience. They are fun, lively and have the skills to literally rock your world. If you want to find a girl whose energy and vitality matches your own, here are ten reasons why you should have a drummer for a girlfriend.

1. She is tough

It is safe to say that any girl who can play the drums is one tough cookie. A female drummer has an automatic aura of badassness about themselves. In a relationship you want a girl who can take care of herself. Chances are she has sculpted some toned arms from banging that drum, so she can pack a punch when needed.

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2. She is extremely confident

Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in any person. Half the battle to becoming a great drummer is having the attitude to go with it. A girl that can pull off that kind of attitude is unlikely to have self-esteem issues and will make great relationship material.

3. She’s not afraid to stand out

You don’t see a lot of female drummers on the music scene, so any woman who can rock the drums is not the type to follow the norm. She dances to the beat of her own drum… pun intended. Having a girl on your arm that isn’t afraid to stand out makes her all the more worth having.

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4. She will rock your world

Rhythm is life… in music and in the bedroom. Passion and rhythm are keys to creating a great band and it can also be a great foundation for sexual chemistry. It’s no secret that guys are sexually driven creatures so having a girl who can rock you world is essential.

5. She knows her mind

Many women are content to look to their male partners when it comes to making decisions, most female drummers however like to make up their own mind. In a band, a drummer has to be able to listen to the music and trust their instincts. It’s no wonder then that even outside of the music a drummer is compelled to follow their gut decisions.

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6. She is smart

Drummers make it look so easy, but it takes a lot of brain power to master the drums. You have to be able to read and write music as well as have the coordination and skill to create the epic beats that are the foundation of great music. In a relationship it is vital that you have more than just beauty; you need brains too.

7. She is a great communicator

To be a great drummer in a band requires a lot of communication. The drummer has to be able to set the tone for the rest of the band to follow. The practice and skills in communication that a lady-drummer has had to master to make her band awesome will make her an awesome girlfriend as well.

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8. She is fun and impulsive

Chances are if you are dating a female drummer, then you are dating a wild-child with a rock-and-roll heart. With this free and spirited chick at your side you will always have new and adventurous dates with never a dull moment.

9. She’s in great shape

It takes a lot of physical energy to pound out a killer beat. This means that your drummer gal will be in great cardiovascular shape. When looking for a long-term relationship this is an important aspect to consider; you want a partner that can not only go the distance with you in life, but can keep up as well.

10. She is artistic

Musicians are artists in their own right. Not only do they create music with their instruments but many of them write and compose their own music as well. Chances are your female musical artist is right brain dominant. Meaning she is unique, creative and quirky. Everyone knows that anything that is one-of-a-kind is worth infinitely more than more of the same; this is especially true for awesome female drummers.

Featured photo credit: Girl behind drum-type installation in a professional recording studio via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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