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10 Reasons Why You Should Have A Drummer Girlfriend

10 Reasons Why You Should Have A Drummer Girlfriend

1. She knows how to lead

There is a common misconception that drummers provide the back-up beat for a band, when in reality it is the other way around. Drummers set the beat for a song and are crucial for keeping the whole band in sync during the duration of the musical number. If you date a girl who is a drummer, she is most likely not afraid to speak her mind in a relationship. This honesty will only help you grow as a couple and allow you to become closer and more in sync.

2. She has a high IQ

Professor Ullen of the Karolinska Institute researched whether there was a connection between a drummer’s acute performance skills and intelligence, saying that “[t]he rhythmic accuracy in brain activity that is observed when a person maintains a steady beat is also important to the problem-solving capacities measured with the intelligence tests”. It turns out her hypothesis was true and that drummers share a significantly higher intelligence. A smart lady who knows how to rock out and is book-smart allows you to have a partner that is complex and worth sticking around for.

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3. She knows how to deal with hardship with a positive outlook

A recent study by Robin Dunbar, a psychologist at the University of Oxford, proved that drummers produce a significantly higher level of endorphins during a performance than their fellow musicians. This experiment also measured their pain tolerance. The results showed that not only were drummers good at enduring pain, drumming also improved their overall mood. Having a drummer girlfriend means that not only will she know how to deal with adversity, she knows how important it is to have a positive attitude when the going gets rough.

4. She knows how to go the distance

BBC News reported that Dr. Marcus Smith from Chichester University did a test that compared a drummer’s endurance on tour to that of a football player during a game. He concluded that “[drummers’] fitness levels need to be outstanding—through monitoring Clem’s [test subject] performance in controlled conditions, we have been able to map the extraordinary stamina required by professional drummers.” Having a girlfriend who can go the distance in multiple situations is important to keep by your side.

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5. She has impeccable finger control

It is known to be a fact that drummers are able to keep very complex beats with strict hand-eye coordination. This will come in handy for both in the bedroom. Having an active love life will allow your relationship to flourish and it will be hard for you to fall into a rut, both inside and outside the bedroom.

6. She is fine with not being the center of attention

What do Karen Carpenter, Sheila Escovedo and Georgia Hubley all have in common? They were famous female drummers who played with the likes of Marvin Gaye and Ringo Star. They were the ones that kept a steady beat, while their more famous band members shown in the spotlight. Dating a lady who drums will allow you to be with a selfless partner that understands the importance of compromise in a relationship, and doesn’t always think about her needs first.

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7. She has a high level of intuition

For a drummer to be successful, it is important for them not only to have a high level of skill, but an intuitive mindset as well. If they sense something is going wrong with a set, it is their responsibly to set the band on the right path again. Dating a woman that has strong intuition on the stage will carry into her personal life as well – where your relationship will benefit from her insights and observations.

8. She knows how to stand up for herself

As a female drummer, she has dealt with her fair share of sexism in the music industry. Being the minority, she has had to prove herself over and over again and from this she has developed a thick skin and self-confidence that is hard to break. Dating a woman who has these qualities is like winning the lottery for you, because it will inspire you to have more confidence and encourage you to defend yourself when you need to.

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9. She has good (stage) presence

Being a drummer in a band, she has learned to adapt in numerous situations and keep it together when all eyes are on her. This is important in a relationship because she can adapt easily to life situations that come towards her, even when she feels pressure from friends, co-worker or family. It is important to have a partner that can take life’s hardballs with grace, because in turn your relationship will be able to weather any storm.

10. She has impeccable music taste

Being a drummer she knows how to keep a beat and also knows how to recognize a good beat when she hears one. Her iPod is filled with songs that are known for their beats and new bands that you have never heard about, but instantly become a fan of. Whether you are listening to these tunes alone or with her, they always remind you of how lucky you are to have a drummer as a girlfriend.

Featured photo credit: Young woman playing drums outdoors (Focus on the drum) via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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