“Always start a relationship by asking: Do I have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to this person? Is my caring conditional? Am I trying to escape something? Am I planning to change the person? Do I need this person to help me make up for a deficiency in myself? If your answer to any of these questions is “yes,” leave the person alone. He or she is better off without you.”
Love is the most elusive factor we constantly battle with; yet we continue to crave for love. However, most of us constantly face rejections. Here are the possible outcomes why some people have frequent breakups.
1. They never fix their perimeters.
The common mistake is that we constantly loose our ego boundaries when we are in love. It’s ok to lose now and then; sometimes losing is winning too. However if it were a habit, you would succumb to the will of your partner leaving all your integrity at stake resulting in a conflict.
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2. They literally “FALL” in love.
Love is eternal; infatuation is hormonal; it gives you an initial push—most of us fall for it and whine after few days asserting that, “Love fades away.” Love never fades away, infatuation does. Love is hard work and you will get what you give.
Never forget: “Love is not infatuation”
3. They fail to express.
The lump in the throat is pretty normal when you decide to express your love. Make yourself vulnerable by daring to be honest; you will be surprised by the results. Don’t say that your partner has to understand; be expressive—what comes from the heart touches the heart.
Never forget: If you love someone, express
4. They justify pity as “LOVE.”
Being sensitive is strength, but also a weakness. If someone comes and share their sob story, we tend to incline. It is perfectly all right to love them too, but reconsider several times whether it is pity or love. Pity and love are too different emotions. If you love out of pity, you end up in pit.Advertising
Never forget: Pity is not love
5. They desperately try to prove their love.
“How can you prove something which is intangible? Most of us desperately try to prove that we love truly, madly and deeply. We have to care and share out of abundance not out of compulsion to prove something. Love is not science to prove; it’s an abstract feeling.
Never forget: Love has to be felt, not proved
6. They love to attain “STATUS.”
Love is not a calculation to conceive all possible balancing factors and take the decision. Love always denies social order. All the greatest love stories have gravest challenges. If you consider your options, love is limited to a business deal and sadly it is not love.
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7. They have fixed mindsets.
Mind maps have to be regularly restructured to understand the paradoxes of life. Having fixed mindsets would result in constricted thinking that lead to predicaments. If we have fixed mindsets, we never evolve in relationships because what we argue is just an interpretation, not the truth.
Never forget: There are no truths, only interpretations
8. They try to fill their empty hearts.
“Only an abundant heart can share, not an empty heart.”
Love yourself first and let the love overflow so as to share with others. Empty hearts are craving and conditional, abundant hearts are unconditional and complete.
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9. They try to change the partner.
Change is inevitable but cannot be forced. So trust the process, expecting the partner to change is stupidity; love is all about embracing imperfections. Let us not make our partners perfect; let us love them with all their imperfections because they have to do the same for us.
Never forget – Change is personal, cannot be compelled
10. They desperately chase love.
If it is not mutual, it is not love. So stop chasing and manipulating. Love is like a butterfly: as long as we chase, we won’t catch. Once we are busy in our own endeavors, love silently rests upon us. Do what you love to do and the love will follow.
Never forget: Never ever chase love
Last Updated on August 20, 2018
60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life
Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.
Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.
1. Good Health
Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.
2. Money in the Bank
Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.
3. Good Friends
Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.
4. Freedom of Religion
Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.
5. Your Parents
Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.
There’s something magical about weekends.
7.Having a Partner
Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.
Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.
9. Learning from Mistakes
If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.
10. Opportunity to Get an Education
The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.
11. Having a Home
Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.
12. An Ability to Read
If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.
13. Breathing Fresh Air
Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.
14. A Bed to Sleep
A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.
Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.
16. Safety and Security
Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.
Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.
The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.
Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.
20. Clean Water
Many people on earth lack access to clean water.
21. Cell Phones
Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.
The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.
Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.
24. Kindness of Strangers
Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.
The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.
Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.
The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.
Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.
29. Freedom of Speech
Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.
The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.
Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.
32. Waking up Today
Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.
33. Indoor Plumbing
Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.
34. Wisdom that Comes with Age
Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.
Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.
Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.
37. Grocery Stores
Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.
Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.
Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.
40. Your Mind
Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.
Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.
The world would be a boring place without diversity.
43. Moon and Stars
The moon and stars encourage us to dream.
Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.
45. Air Conditioning
Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.
Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.
Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.
48. Ability to Learn
The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.
49. People Willing to Teach
Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.
The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.
51. Modern Medicine
Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.
Music brings out new emotions.
Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.
54. Warm Clothing
On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.
55. Freedom to Vote
Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.
56. An Internet Connection
It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.
Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.
58. Hiking Trails
Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.
Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.
60. Armed Forces
Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.
Realizing all the things you should be thankful for is the first step, practicing gratitude is what you should start doing:
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