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10 Keys to Speed up Your Manifesting Process

10 Keys to Speed up Your Manifesting Process

Every moment we are conscious, we are creating. Whether we accept it or not, we are always co-creating with the Universe. Our beliefs, attitudes, the actions we take, the lens through which we look at life—it is all part of the creation process. The movie The Secret made the word “manifesting” popular. Many people have achieved magnificent results by visualizing and using some of the techniques discussed in the movie. Yet, some express difficulty even visualizing a positive outcome from where they stand. I have been around both kinds of people. Shaped by my personal experiences and extensive research on manifesting, I was able to put together ten ideas that can help speed up your manifesting process. Plant these ideas in your mind and let them grow into giant trees of consciousness.

Here we go!

1. Give yourself permission to want what you want.

As far as I know, the Universe has not provided us with a rule book that dictates when we deserve to hope for a raise, to make more money or to have the relationship we want. I am pretty sure that such a rule book does not exist. We decide what we deserve. No one else does. So, if you want to open up a glass blowing studio in Costa Rica, don’t wait for someone to tell you that you deserve to want it. I don’t believe that we can be given such a huge capacity to feel and be told not to want. Desire is the reason we do anything. And that’s how we are designed to live.

2. Be really willing to receive.

You might think, “Duh! Of course I want to receive it. I am asking for it, aren’t I?” Truthfully, that does not mean that you are willing to receive it into your life, heart and body. Look for and challenge limiting beliefs that could prevent you from being open to receiving what you desire. One way to accomplish this is by taking your dream all the way to the end, watching a movie of its highest potential in your mind (visualizing yourself living/having it) and seeing how far you allow yourself go in your mind until you start feeling undeserving or uncomfortable. Then look into the “why” and work with that.

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3. Be willing to doubt your doubts.

The truth is, the whole Universe is being managed while we are watching TV, shopping, making love and mowing the lawn. There are so many things in the Universe that work perfectly without us doing anything about it. We are not in charge of the weather, the sky, the oceans or earthquakes, yet we are gullible enough to not believe in miracles. The only limit is in our minds. Our conditioned, human minds. Just accepting this idea and reminding yourself of this fact will consistently help you wave away doubts.

4. Pick and choose who you share your dreams with.

There are people out there whose volunteer gig is dream-crushing. For whatever reason, they can’t go beyond their own conditioning of what can or cannot happen in life. If you are the kind of person who needs a lot of encouragement and gets easily affected by others’ negative comments, be very discretionary about who you share your goals, dreams and aspirations with, especially when they are in the gestation period. Protect the soil where you planted the seed for your dreams. Don’t let others’ hang ups about what is possible in life contaminate your vision.

5. Do your best to keep your vibration up.

Here is what’s real about life: we don’t feel happy all the time. Our emotional (vibrational) barometer doesn’t always point to Optimistic. Thankfully, there are many ways to raise your energy.

Giving ourselves and others compliments is a sure way to increase our vibration. If you are feeling low on happiness juice, compliment a mother for her baby’s cute outfit at the grocery store or visualize and appreciate a pet you adore. Develop a practice of stating good things that are true about you to yourself (even out loud), such as, “I love my toes. People love homemade lasagna. I am a good friend,” etc.

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What if it is a rough day and everything seems to be going wrong? Then accept it! Allow yourself to feel as crappy as you already do. Really. The energy of acceptance is much higher than the energy of resistance.

6. Take inspired action.

When it comes to “doing something” to move your dream along, the golden rule is to take inspired (in-spirit-ed) action. Meaning, staying open and alert to messages you receive from the Universe and following that fluttery feeling towards action that feels right. That inspired action sometimes comes as an unexpected nudge to call up a friend from college, who used to be very active in fundraising for nonprofits (if you are looking to start a nonprofit organization, for example). It is nice to have a plan and by any means, utilize plans in any way you can. Just don’t rely solely on your mind to manifest goodness in your life. Your intuitive guidance, when you are open to hearing it, will move you faster than you might imagine.

7. Strive to rise above jealousy.

Feeling jealous of someone’s awesome relationship, promotion or their new beautiful home is natural and human, but the quicker you move past that, the better it is for your manifestation process. When we feel jealous, our energy is invested in the scarcity side of the abundance continuum. It is a lower energy to try to manifest with. If you can, think about how their happiness effects the positive vibration in the Universe. Find some good aspects of them having it. If it seems like they are doing your thing, see that person as someone paving the way for you while making their own mistakes. Learn from them; don’t hate them.

8. Use a mantra to deal with your current less-than-ideal situation.

Remember that the small apartment, the dysfunctional relationship or the physical ailment that might be active in your life right now have helped you give birth to new desires.  Now, while you are in it, use mantras to open up your consciousness to possibilities.  For instance, if you are at a job where you feel under-appreciated and inadequately compensated, instead of saying “I hate this job,” say, “I prefer to work at a job where my skills are verbally and financially rewarded.” This way, you get to acknowledge the discomfort, but build a more hopeful and open language around it.

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9. Trust your soul’s path.

You are free to want what you want, and it does not make you less or more spiritual. Everyone’s goal is to be happy on their journey here. Is someone’s happy you’re happy? Some people want to have five kids and devote their life to their family. They are perfectly happy and fulfilled that way. Some people are destined to make a name for themselves by sharing who they are. We don’t know what anyone’s soul plan is and what they are here to learn.  Consider and even make peace with the idea that marrying a doctor or buying a summer house in the Hamptons may not be in your soul’s plan. Keep this in mind and still want what you want. Wanting something and being attached to it are not the same thing. Practice trusting the bigger plan.

10. Do your inner work.

Our core beliefs are like the gateway to our experience of life. Many beliefs are formed when we are too young to have the experience base to know or judge if those beliefs are facts. We didn’t have a choice in the matter as we were growing up. But now as adults, we have the power to upgrade our belief system, and thus, change our lives for the better. Look for outdated, limiting beliefs in an area of life where you could use an upgrade. Pay attention to your judgments. Especially about things like happy couples, rich people, skinny women, etc. Your awareness of your judgments will lead you to what your subconscious is holding. Challenge and clear up these outdated beliefs that you find.

 

We all deserve to feel good and manifest good things that make our path easier, smoother and more enjoyable. We are here to co-create with the Universe. We cannot control everything, but we can develop new perspectives that help the process to move along faster.

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Happy manifesting!

Featured photo credit: Dreaming by Moyer Brenn via flickr.com

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7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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