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Published on October 5, 2018

10 Fun Relationship Quizzes to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

10 Fun Relationship Quizzes to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

Do you remember the early days of your relationship when you were star stuck at each other? Do you remember how you sat staring at each other dreamily, fantasizing about your future?

Do you recall how you talked about everything: your similarities, differences, goals, and visions? Remember how easy it was to ask each other probing questions? Can you recall how close and connected you felt to your beloved?

And yet, if you are like most couples, the honeymoon phase of your relationship waned and the curiosity was replaced by gripes about work, exchanges about chores and plans for the many responsibilities that you now both shoulder.

There is nothing inherently wrong with your relationship. However, lack of deeply engaging dialogue with your partner is slowly weakening your emotional intimacy: the very backbone of your relationship.

Dr. John Gottman says that successful couples are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds.[1] To keep the connection between you and your partner alive, you must always prioritize the discovery and cultivation of each other’s internal world.

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If you want to increase the intimacy in your relationship, create some weekly time for quizzes. Quizzes help you to explore and understand your partner’s internal world in a fun way, consequently increasing your intimacy.

The following quizzes will help you to initiate deep conversations to help you support and strengthen emotional intimacy with your partner.

1. Quizzes on Books

The books we read say a lot about us: the genres we choose, the scenes that linger in our minds, the characters we admire… finding out your partner’s impressions on the books they have been reading is a great way of learning more about them.

  1. Is there any book that made the biggest impression on you as a teenager?
  2. What book has influenced your life the most?
  3. Which romantic literary couple do you think we are and why?
  4. What famous writer alive or dead would you want to write your story?
  5. What scene from a novel that you have read is still vivid in your mind?
  6. If you could bring one fictional character that you read about to life, who would it be and why?
  7. If someone wrote a biography about you, what do you think the title should be?
  8. If you found yourself stranded on a deserted island, what four books would you take and why?

2. Quizzes on Technology

Technology has wholly permeated relationships. Research shows that you pick your smartphone 85 times a day and you are probably online 25 hours per week.[2]

Gadgets have become extensions of us. Technology, therefore, becomes an appropriate subject as you seek to know your partner even better and improve the connection of your relationship.

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  1. What was your favorite game to play as a child?
  2. Which phone apps are you obsessed with?
  3. How do you feel about emojis? Which one do you love to use and why?
  4. What is your phone’s wallpaper and what does it signify?
  5. If you had to go for a week without a TV, your phone or computer, which one would you choose?
  6. What is the best Wi-Fi name you have seen?
  7. If life were a video game, what would some of the cheat codes be?
  8. What is your favorite viral YouTube video?

3. Quizzes on Fame

The famous serve as both an object of worship and disgust for us, simultaneously representing what we strive to be, and what we dislike about ourselves.[3]

Knowing how your partner feels about celebrity life helps you understand their principles and morals a little bit better.

  1. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  2. Who is the most famous person you have ever met?
  3. If you were a president for a day, what would you change about the country?
  4. Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
  5. You have your own late night talk show. Who do you invite as your first guest?
  6. What was your childhood actor/actress crush?
  7. What celebrity would you rate as a perfect 10?
  8. Who in your opinion are some real heroes?

4. Quizzes on Your Relationship

Reflecting on your relationship helps you strengthen your connection.[4] Sometimes, it is easy to assume that you and your partner are on the same page while you are not.

Questions about your relationship provide you with a well-rounded view of your relationship and where it is going.

  1. What is the one thing I do that makes you feel loved the most?
  2. What does the perfect relationship look like to you? What is our relationship missing to be that perfect?
  3. Do you have trouble opening up and talking to me about anything?
  4. Is there anything I can do for you at this moment to help you feel more comfortable or loved?
  5. Is there any argument we have had recently that you feel incomplete about?
  6. Are there any areas of our relationship that you have felt especially challenging?
  7. What are the times you feel our souls connecting the most?
  8. What new traditions or rituals are you excited about creating in our family?

5. Quizzes on Your Past

There is nothing like the early days of a relationship. However, as responsibilities grow, you find that you slowly settle into duties and intimacy has taken the back burner.

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Revisiting the early days of your relationship is a great way to reconnect with your partner all over again. You also discover new ways to effortlessly reconnect with your beloved whenever you feel that you need it.

  1. What do you remember thinking to yourself the first time you saw me?
  2. What qualities first attracted you to me?
  3. What is your favorite date we ever had?
  4. When did you know that you were in love with me?
  5. What are your happiest memories of our early days together? What made it so special for you?
  6. When did you first think that we could make it as a couple?
  7. What is your favorite sexual memory of us?
  8. How did you know that you wanted to be with me?

6. Quizzes on Secrets

This quiz helps you and your partner to not only know each other better but to gain a new appreciation of each other.

  1. What is the weirdest dream you have ever had?
  2. What is the weirdest scar you have and how did you get it?
  3. Tell me what you consider the most difficult challenge in your life before meeting me? What are you grateful for about the challenge and what did you learn?
  4. What is a question about life that you wish you had the answer to?
  5. What are you dreading in life right now?
  6. What is the thing that you have struggled with the most your entire life? Who knows about it? Why do you think you struggle with it? What can I do to help you overcome it?
  7. If you had to be on life support, would you want to be kept alive?
  8. What do you consider your biggest failure? What did you learn from that experience?

7. Quizzes on Money

Money is t he most common cause of conflict in many relationships.[5] Taking quizzes about money will help you balance out your relationship financially and increase your emotional connection.

  1. How do feel about supporting family members financially?
  2. What if one or more of our parents needed to be taken care of, would you be okay if they lived with us?
  3. If money was not an issue, what would you really be doing with your life?
  4. Are you stressed about our finances? What is the biggest worry you have about our finances?
  5. How do you think we should prepare for financial emergencies?
  6. What do you think we can do to earn extra income?
  7. How much debt is acceptable or unacceptable to you?
  8. Are you ok with the way we are handling our finances? What do you think we should do differently?

8. Quizzes on Trust

We all know that trust is a fundamental component of every healthy relationship. The following questions will give your relationship a boost and leave you feeling much more secure.

  1. What scares you most about our relationship?
  2. How have I behaved that has made you feel unnoticed?
  3. Have I made you feel lonely?
  4. Have I done anything to make you feel unappreciated?
  5. What can I do to show you that I am there for you?
  6. Have you ever felt rejected by me? When did it happen?
  7. What have I done that has made you feel insecure?
  8. How can we make our relationship affair – proof?

9. Quizzes on Sex

One of the main distinguishing factors between the relationship with your partner and other relationships in your life is that you are having sex. And yet, sex ha s been ranked among the first three things that couples hardly discuss.[6]

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A quiz about sex will help you and your partner establish your level of satisfaction with your sex life and to determine what you need to do to ensure you are both sexually fulfilled.

  1. What do I do that turns you on?
  2. What body part do you like best about me?
  3. What is the boldest sexual thing you have ever done?
  4. What is the weirdest thing you want to indulge in?
  5. What do you love about our sex life?
  6. Which part of your body would you like me to pay more attention to during sex?
  7. What is the one place you would like us to have sex, but we have not yet?
  8. How do you feel after we have sex? What would you like to do after sex?

The sense of trust that will come from your brave vulnerability could be one of the most powerful things to happen to you as a couple.

10. Five Things ……Go!

This is a simple, quick quiz that you can do anywhere, anytime. When your partner calls out a topic, you will both go through five things around the subject. For instance, you can cover:

  1. Five things that you love that your partner has done for you lately.
  2. Five things that you are grateful for in your life.
  3. Five things you want to do with your partner in the next month.
  4. Five things that inspire you about your partner
  5. Five things you love about your partner

The versatility and playfulness of this quiz make it a total winner. Be creative to make the exercise fun.

Final Thoughts

Quizzes are a great way to strengthen the connection in your relationship. Remember, even though you love each other, your relationship does not run on autopilot.

Your relationship will only thrive if you intentionally put effort into it. And yes, you can get by just fine without doing any of the suggested quizzes, but giving a few of them a try could take your relationship to the next level.

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Randy is an educator in the areas of relationships and self-help.

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How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

That’s where we all should be.

So, answer me this:

How are you, really?

And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

It’s taking control.

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2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

Change will happen.

Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

“Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

“If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

What would you do if you felt you were enough?

By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

Final Thoughts

By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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