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10 Fun Relationship Quizzes to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

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10 Fun Relationship Quizzes to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

Do you remember the early days of your relationship when you were star stuck at each other? Do you remember how you sat staring at each other dreamily, fantasizing about your future?

Do you recall how you talked about everything: your similarities, differences, goals, and visions? Remember how easy it was to ask each other probing questions? Can you recall how close and connected you felt to your beloved?

And yet, if you are like most couples, the honeymoon phase of your relationship waned and the curiosity was replaced by gripes about work, exchanges about chores and plans for the many responsibilities that you now both shoulder.

There is nothing inherently wrong with your relationship. However, lack of deeply engaging dialogue with your partner is slowly weakening your emotional intimacy: the very backbone of your relationship.

Dr. John Gottman says that successful couples are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds.[1] To keep the connection between you and your partner alive, you must always prioritize the discovery and cultivation of each other’s internal world.

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If you want to increase the intimacy in your relationship, create some weekly time for quizzes. Quizzes help you to explore and understand your partner’s internal world in a fun way, consequently increasing your intimacy.

The following quizzes will help you to initiate deep conversations to help you support and strengthen emotional intimacy with your partner.

1. Quizzes on Books

The books we read say a lot about us: the genres we choose, the scenes that linger in our minds, the characters we admire… finding out your partner’s impressions on the books they have been reading is a great way of learning more about them.

  1. Is there any book that made the biggest impression on you as a teenager?
  2. What book has influenced your life the most?
  3. Which romantic literary couple do you think we are and why?
  4. What famous writer alive or dead would you want to write your story?
  5. What scene from a novel that you have read is still vivid in your mind?
  6. If you could bring one fictional character that you read about to life, who would it be and why?
  7. If someone wrote a biography about you, what do you think the title should be?
  8. If you found yourself stranded on a deserted island, what four books would you take and why?

2. Quizzes on Technology

Technology has wholly permeated relationships. Research shows that you pick your smartphone 85 times a day and you are probably online 25 hours per week.[2]

Gadgets have become extensions of us. Technology, therefore, becomes an appropriate subject as you seek to know your partner even better and improve the connection of your relationship.

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  1. What was your favorite game to play as a child?
  2. Which phone apps are you obsessed with?
  3. How do you feel about emojis? Which one do you love to use and why?
  4. What is your phone’s wallpaper and what does it signify?
  5. If you had to go for a week without a TV, your phone or computer, which one would you choose?
  6. What is the best Wi-Fi name you have seen?
  7. If life were a video game, what would some of the cheat codes be?
  8. What is your favorite viral YouTube video?

3. Quizzes on Fame

The famous serve as both an object of worship and disgust for us, simultaneously representing what we strive to be, and what we dislike about ourselves.[3]

Knowing how your partner feels about celebrity life helps you understand their principles and morals a little bit better.

  1. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  2. Who is the most famous person you have ever met?
  3. If you were a president for a day, what would you change about the country?
  4. Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
  5. You have your own late night talk show. Who do you invite as your first guest?
  6. What was your childhood actor/actress crush?
  7. What celebrity would you rate as a perfect 10?
  8. Who in your opinion are some real heroes?

4. Quizzes on Your Relationship

Reflecting on your relationship helps you strengthen your connection.[4] Sometimes, it is easy to assume that you and your partner are on the same page while you are not.

Questions about your relationship provide you with a well-rounded view of your relationship and where it is going.

  1. What is the one thing I do that makes you feel loved the most?
  2. What does the perfect relationship look like to you? What is our relationship missing to be that perfect?
  3. Do you have trouble opening up and talking to me about anything?
  4. Is there anything I can do for you at this moment to help you feel more comfortable or loved?
  5. Is there any argument we have had recently that you feel incomplete about?
  6. Are there any areas of our relationship that you have felt especially challenging?
  7. What are the times you feel our souls connecting the most?
  8. What new traditions or rituals are you excited about creating in our family?

5. Quizzes on Your Past

There is nothing like the early days of a relationship. However, as responsibilities grow, you find that you slowly settle into duties and intimacy has taken the back burner.

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Revisiting the early days of your relationship is a great way to reconnect with your partner all over again. You also discover new ways to effortlessly reconnect with your beloved whenever you feel that you need it.

  1. What do you remember thinking to yourself the first time you saw me?
  2. What qualities first attracted you to me?
  3. What is your favorite date we ever had?
  4. When did you know that you were in love with me?
  5. What are your happiest memories of our early days together? What made it so special for you?
  6. When did you first think that we could make it as a couple?
  7. What is your favorite sexual memory of us?
  8. How did you know that you wanted to be with me?

6. Quizzes on Secrets

This quiz helps you and your partner to not only know each other better but to gain a new appreciation of each other.

  1. What is the weirdest dream you have ever had?
  2. What is the weirdest scar you have and how did you get it?
  3. Tell me what you consider the most difficult challenge in your life before meeting me? What are you grateful for about the challenge and what did you learn?
  4. What is a question about life that you wish you had the answer to?
  5. What are you dreading in life right now?
  6. What is the thing that you have struggled with the most your entire life? Who knows about it? Why do you think you struggle with it? What can I do to help you overcome it?
  7. If you had to be on life support, would you want to be kept alive?
  8. What do you consider your biggest failure? What did you learn from that experience?

7. Quizzes on Money

Money is t he most common cause of conflict in many relationships.[5] Taking quizzes about money will help you balance out your relationship financially and increase your emotional connection.

  1. How do feel about supporting family members financially?
  2. What if one or more of our parents needed to be taken care of, would you be okay if they lived with us?
  3. If money was not an issue, what would you really be doing with your life?
  4. Are you stressed about our finances? What is the biggest worry you have about our finances?
  5. How do you think we should prepare for financial emergencies?
  6. What do you think we can do to earn extra income?
  7. How much debt is acceptable or unacceptable to you?
  8. Are you ok with the way we are handling our finances? What do you think we should do differently?

8. Quizzes on Trust

We all know that trust is a fundamental component of every healthy relationship. The following questions will give your relationship a boost and leave you feeling much more secure.

  1. What scares you most about our relationship?
  2. How have I behaved that has made you feel unnoticed?
  3. Have I made you feel lonely?
  4. Have I done anything to make you feel unappreciated?
  5. What can I do to show you that I am there for you?
  6. Have you ever felt rejected by me? When did it happen?
  7. What have I done that has made you feel insecure?
  8. How can we make our relationship affair – proof?

9. Quizzes on Sex

One of the main distinguishing factors between the relationship with your partner and other relationships in your life is that you are having sex. And yet, sex ha s been ranked among the first three things that couples hardly discuss.[6]

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A quiz about sex will help you and your partner establish your level of satisfaction with your sex life and to determine what you need to do to ensure you are both sexually fulfilled.

  1. What do I do that turns you on?
  2. What body part do you like best about me?
  3. What is the boldest sexual thing you have ever done?
  4. What is the weirdest thing you want to indulge in?
  5. What do you love about our sex life?
  6. Which part of your body would you like me to pay more attention to during sex?
  7. What is the one place you would like us to have sex, but we have not yet?
  8. How do you feel after we have sex? What would you like to do after sex?

The sense of trust that will come from your brave vulnerability could be one of the most powerful things to happen to you as a couple.

10. Five Things ……Go!

This is a simple, quick quiz that you can do anywhere, anytime. When your partner calls out a topic, you will both go through five things around the subject. For instance, you can cover:

  1. Five things that you love that your partner has done for you lately.
  2. Five things that you are grateful for in your life.
  3. Five things you want to do with your partner in the next month.
  4. Five things that inspire you about your partner
  5. Five things you love about your partner

The versatility and playfulness of this quiz make it a total winner. Be creative to make the exercise fun.

Final Thoughts

Quizzes are a great way to strengthen the connection in your relationship. Remember, even though you love each other, your relationship does not run on autopilot.

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Your relationship will only thrive if you intentionally put effort into it. And yes, you can get by just fine without doing any of the suggested quizzes, but giving a few of them a try could take your relationship to the next level.

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How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

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How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

Expressing Anger

Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

Being Passive-Aggressive

This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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Poorly-Timed

Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

Ongoing Anger

Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

Healthy Ways to Express Anger

What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

Being Honest

Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

Being Direct

Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

Being Timely

When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

How to Deal With Anger

If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

1. Slow Down

From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

2. Focus on the “I”

Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

3. Work out

When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

4. Seek Help When Needed

There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

5. Practice Relaxation

We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

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That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

6. Laugh

Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

7. Be Grateful

It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

Final Thoughts

Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go or motivated. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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