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10 Fun Relationship Quizzes to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

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10 Fun Relationship Quizzes to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Partner

Do you remember the early days of your relationship when you were star stuck at each other? Do you remember how you sat staring at each other dreamily, fantasizing about your future?

Do you recall how you talked about everything: your similarities, differences, goals, and visions? Remember how easy it was to ask each other probing questions? Can you recall how close and connected you felt to your beloved?

And yet, if you are like most couples, the honeymoon phase of your relationship waned and the curiosity was replaced by gripes about work, exchanges about chores and plans for the many responsibilities that you now both shoulder.

There is nothing inherently wrong with your relationship. However, lack of deeply engaging dialogue with your partner is slowly weakening your emotional intimacy: the very backbone of your relationship.

Dr. John Gottman says that successful couples are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds.[1] To keep the connection between you and your partner alive, you must always prioritize the discovery and cultivation of each other’s internal world.

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If you want to increase the intimacy in your relationship, create some weekly time for quizzes. Quizzes help you to explore and understand your partner’s internal world in a fun way, consequently increasing your intimacy.

The following quizzes will help you to initiate deep conversations to help you support and strengthen emotional intimacy with your partner.

1. Quizzes on Books

The books we read say a lot about us: the genres we choose, the scenes that linger in our minds, the characters we admire… finding out your partner’s impressions on the books they have been reading is a great way of learning more about them.

  1. Is there any book that made the biggest impression on you as a teenager?
  2. What book has influenced your life the most?
  3. Which romantic literary couple do you think we are and why?
  4. What famous writer alive or dead would you want to write your story?
  5. What scene from a novel that you have read is still vivid in your mind?
  6. If you could bring one fictional character that you read about to life, who would it be and why?
  7. If someone wrote a biography about you, what do you think the title should be?
  8. If you found yourself stranded on a deserted island, what four books would you take and why?

2. Quizzes on Technology

Technology has wholly permeated relationships. Research shows that you pick your smartphone 85 times a day and you are probably online 25 hours per week.[2]

Gadgets have become extensions of us. Technology, therefore, becomes an appropriate subject as you seek to know your partner even better and improve the connection of your relationship.

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  1. What was your favorite game to play as a child?
  2. Which phone apps are you obsessed with?
  3. How do you feel about emojis? Which one do you love to use and why?
  4. What is your phone’s wallpaper and what does it signify?
  5. If you had to go for a week without a TV, your phone or computer, which one would you choose?
  6. What is the best Wi-Fi name you have seen?
  7. If life were a video game, what would some of the cheat codes be?
  8. What is your favorite viral YouTube video?

3. Quizzes on Fame

The famous serve as both an object of worship and disgust for us, simultaneously representing what we strive to be, and what we dislike about ourselves.[3]

Knowing how your partner feels about celebrity life helps you understand their principles and morals a little bit better.

  1. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  2. Who is the most famous person you have ever met?
  3. If you were a president for a day, what would you change about the country?
  4. Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
  5. You have your own late night talk show. Who do you invite as your first guest?
  6. What was your childhood actor/actress crush?
  7. What celebrity would you rate as a perfect 10?
  8. Who in your opinion are some real heroes?

4. Quizzes on Your Relationship

Reflecting on your relationship helps you strengthen your connection.[4] Sometimes, it is easy to assume that you and your partner are on the same page while you are not.

Questions about your relationship provide you with a well-rounded view of your relationship and where it is going.

  1. What is the one thing I do that makes you feel loved the most?
  2. What does the perfect relationship look like to you? What is our relationship missing to be that perfect?
  3. Do you have trouble opening up and talking to me about anything?
  4. Is there anything I can do for you at this moment to help you feel more comfortable or loved?
  5. Is there any argument we have had recently that you feel incomplete about?
  6. Are there any areas of our relationship that you have felt especially challenging?
  7. What are the times you feel our souls connecting the most?
  8. What new traditions or rituals are you excited about creating in our family?

5. Quizzes on Your Past

There is nothing like the early days of a relationship. However, as responsibilities grow, you find that you slowly settle into duties and intimacy has taken the back burner.

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Revisiting the early days of your relationship is a great way to reconnect with your partner all over again. You also discover new ways to effortlessly reconnect with your beloved whenever you feel that you need it.

  1. What do you remember thinking to yourself the first time you saw me?
  2. What qualities first attracted you to me?
  3. What is your favorite date we ever had?
  4. When did you know that you were in love with me?
  5. What are your happiest memories of our early days together? What made it so special for you?
  6. When did you first think that we could make it as a couple?
  7. What is your favorite sexual memory of us?
  8. How did you know that you wanted to be with me?

6. Quizzes on Secrets

This quiz helps you and your partner to not only know each other better but to gain a new appreciation of each other.

  1. What is the weirdest dream you have ever had?
  2. What is the weirdest scar you have and how did you get it?
  3. Tell me what you consider the most difficult challenge in your life before meeting me? What are you grateful for about the challenge and what did you learn?
  4. What is a question about life that you wish you had the answer to?
  5. What are you dreading in life right now?
  6. What is the thing that you have struggled with the most your entire life? Who knows about it? Why do you think you struggle with it? What can I do to help you overcome it?
  7. If you had to be on life support, would you want to be kept alive?
  8. What do you consider your biggest failure? What did you learn from that experience?

7. Quizzes on Money

Money is t he most common cause of conflict in many relationships.[5] Taking quizzes about money will help you balance out your relationship financially and increase your emotional connection.

  1. How do feel about supporting family members financially?
  2. What if one or more of our parents needed to be taken care of, would you be okay if they lived with us?
  3. If money was not an issue, what would you really be doing with your life?
  4. Are you stressed about our finances? What is the biggest worry you have about our finances?
  5. How do you think we should prepare for financial emergencies?
  6. What do you think we can do to earn extra income?
  7. How much debt is acceptable or unacceptable to you?
  8. Are you ok with the way we are handling our finances? What do you think we should do differently?

8. Quizzes on Trust

We all know that trust is a fundamental component of every healthy relationship. The following questions will give your relationship a boost and leave you feeling much more secure.

  1. What scares you most about our relationship?
  2. How have I behaved that has made you feel unnoticed?
  3. Have I made you feel lonely?
  4. Have I done anything to make you feel unappreciated?
  5. What can I do to show you that I am there for you?
  6. Have you ever felt rejected by me? When did it happen?
  7. What have I done that has made you feel insecure?
  8. How can we make our relationship affair – proof?

9. Quizzes on Sex

One of the main distinguishing factors between the relationship with your partner and other relationships in your life is that you are having sex. And yet, sex ha s been ranked among the first three things that couples hardly discuss.[6]

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A quiz about sex will help you and your partner establish your level of satisfaction with your sex life and to determine what you need to do to ensure you are both sexually fulfilled.

  1. What do I do that turns you on?
  2. What body part do you like best about me?
  3. What is the boldest sexual thing you have ever done?
  4. What is the weirdest thing you want to indulge in?
  5. What do you love about our sex life?
  6. Which part of your body would you like me to pay more attention to during sex?
  7. What is the one place you would like us to have sex, but we have not yet?
  8. How do you feel after we have sex? What would you like to do after sex?

The sense of trust that will come from your brave vulnerability could be one of the most powerful things to happen to you as a couple.

10. Five Things ……Go!

This is a simple, quick quiz that you can do anywhere, anytime. When your partner calls out a topic, you will both go through five things around the subject. For instance, you can cover:

  1. Five things that you love that your partner has done for you lately.
  2. Five things that you are grateful for in your life.
  3. Five things you want to do with your partner in the next month.
  4. Five things that inspire you about your partner
  5. Five things you love about your partner

The versatility and playfulness of this quiz make it a total winner. Be creative to make the exercise fun.

Final Thoughts

Quizzes are a great way to strengthen the connection in your relationship. Remember, even though you love each other, your relationship does not run on autopilot.

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Your relationship will only thrive if you intentionally put effort into it. And yes, you can get by just fine without doing any of the suggested quizzes, but giving a few of them a try could take your relationship to the next level.

Featured photo credit: NeONBRAND via unsplash.com

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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