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Last Updated on February 27, 2018

Talk Is Cheap, Can You Walk The Talk?

Talk Is Cheap, Can You Walk The Talk?

You might have heard of ‘Talk is cheap’, followed by ‘Actions speak louder than words’ when describing the worth of an individual’s character. It is often always easier to say what you intend to do, and make promises to people, than to actually carry it out and give life to those words.

Many people would have fallen into that trap of making empty promises, or saying things that they didn’t really mean to do. This concept applies to almost every situation in a person’s life, whether it be in romantic relationships, friendships, work or with family.

At work, it might be easy to convince your future employer that you have the qualities and capabilities that he or she is looking for. You may tell your co workers that you work hard and smart.

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    Unfortunately, unless you actually prove your capabilities with action and results that can be seen and measured, all that initial talk is really just empty words.

      Similarly, when in a relationship, it is easy to say things that work in your favor when wanting to impress your partner.

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        However, it is really only genuine if your partner is able to see for themselves, your ‘true colors’ when they see you behave a certain way towards others.

          When it comes to family, nothing is more important than spending quality time. You can tell someone you love them very much, everyday.

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            But unless your actions match those words, that person will probably not believe you because they simply will not be able to feel the love.

              Lastly, friendships are built out of mutual interest, but what makes friendships last, are the seasons of hardships that friends go through together.

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                Be the friend that goes through thick and thin, and not the friend that promised something but ended up bailing.

                  At the end of the day, whatever your actions may be will show what you are trying to prove. If you are simply talking, it can sound convincing in the moment. But what makes your words last and true, is still the hard labor of action.

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                  Last Updated on January 18, 2019

                  7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

                  7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

                  Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

                  But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

                  If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

                  1. Limit the time you spend with them.

                  First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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                  In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

                  Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

                  2. Speak up for yourself.

                  Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

                  3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

                  This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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                  But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

                  4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

                  Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

                  This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

                  Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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                  5. Change the subject.

                  When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

                  Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

                  6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

                  Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

                  I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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                  You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

                  Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

                  7. Leave them behind.

                  Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

                  If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

                  That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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