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Talk Is Cheap, Can You Walk The Talk?

Talk Is Cheap, Can You Walk The Talk?

You might have heard of ‘Talk is cheap’, followed by ‘Actions speak louder than words’ when describing the worth of an individual’s character. It is often always easier to say what you intend to do, and make promises to people, than to actually carry it out and give life to those words.

Many people would have fallen into that trap of making empty promises, or saying things that they didn’t really mean to do. This concept applies to almost every situation in a person’s life, whether it be in romantic relationships, friendships, work or with family.

At work, it might be easy to convince your future employer that you have the qualities and capabilities that he or she is looking for. You may tell your co workers that you work hard and smart.

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    Unfortunately, unless you actually prove your capabilities with action and results that can be seen and measured, all that initial talk is really just empty words.

      Similarly, when in a relationship, it is easy to say things that work in your favor when wanting to impress your partner.

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        However, it is really only genuine if your partner is able to see for themselves, your ‘true colors’ when they see you behave a certain way towards others.

          When it comes to family, nothing is more important than spending quality time. You can tell someone you love them very much, everyday.

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            But unless your actions match those words, that person will probably not believe you because they simply will not be able to feel the love.

              Lastly, friendships are built out of mutual interest, but what makes friendships last, are the seasons of hardships that friends go through together.

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                Be the friend that goes through thick and thin, and not the friend that promised something but ended up bailing.

                  At the end of the day, whatever your actions may be will show what you are trying to prove. If you are simply talking, it can sound convincing in the moment. But what makes your words last and true, is still the hard labor of action.

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                  Anna Chui

                  Anna is a communication expert and a life enthusiast. She's the editor of Lifehack and loves to write about love, life, and passion.

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                  Last Updated on January 21, 2020

                  How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

                  How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

                  If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

                  Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

                  So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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                  1. Listen

                  Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

                  2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

                  Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

                  “Why do you want to do that?”

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                  “What makes you so excited about it?”

                  “How long has that been your dream?”

                  You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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                  3. Encourage

                  This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

                  4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

                  After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

                  5. Dream

                  This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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                  6. Ask How You Can Help

                  Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

                  7. Follow Up

                  Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

                  Final Thoughts

                  By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

                  Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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