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Last Updated on December 23, 2019

44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

Did you ever lie on bed with depression, thinking “i am full of flaws”, “i hate myself”, or even “I am worthless”?

Self-love is never an easy job. When we did something below expectation, we may sometimes fall into the anxiousness of not being good enough, judging ourselves harshly instead of appreciating ourselves for what we did.

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Here are 44 self love quotes that will inspire you to love yourself and be mentally stronger:

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  1. Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.
    • Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.
      • Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.
        • Be yourself. An original is so much better than a copy.
          • You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
            • Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
              • If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.
                • Stop underestimate yourself.
                  • You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.
                    • You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
                      • You are free, you are powerful, you are good, you are love, you have value, you have a purpose. All is well.
                        • Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.
                          • Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like your love yourself. Love yourself.
                            • Believe in yourself a little more.
                              • You were born to be real, not to be perfect.
                                • One day i woke up and realised I was not made for anyone, I was made for me. I am my own.
                                  • There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let others get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
                                    • You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right here.
                                      • The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.
                                        • No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
                                          • It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
                                            • Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful, without needing someone to tell you.
                                              • Self confidence is the best outfit.
                                                • In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
                                                  • Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.
                                                    • Regardless of how anyone else feels about me, I am going to choose to love myself today.
                                                      • No one is you and that is your power.
                                                        • When I accept myself just as I am, i am freed from the burden of needing you accept me.
                                                          • I am accepting myself unconditionally no matter what.
                                                            • There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
                                                              • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
                                                                • Beauty begins the moment you decided to be yourself.
                                                                  • Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish. It makes you indestructible.
                                                                    • Self love. It doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you.
                                                                      • If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.
                                                                        • Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions.
                                                                          • Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself.
                                                                            • I am not looking to escape my darkness, I’m learning to love myself here.
                                                                              • You’re a work of art. Not everyone will understand you, but the ones who do, will never forget about you.
                                                                                • Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
                                                                                  • To love yourself is to understand you don’t need to be perfect to be good.
                                                                                    • Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
                                                                                      • Loving yourself is the greatest revolution
                                                                                        • A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.

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                                                                                          Last Updated on March 30, 2020

                                                                                          What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

                                                                                          What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

                                                                                          Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

                                                                                          You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

                                                                                          This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

                                                                                          What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

                                                                                          According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

                                                                                          Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

                                                                                          There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

                                                                                          How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

                                                                                          When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

                                                                                          Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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                                                                                          1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

                                                                                          One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

                                                                                          The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

                                                                                          Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

                                                                                          2. Be Honest

                                                                                          A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

                                                                                          If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

                                                                                          On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

                                                                                          Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

                                                                                          3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

                                                                                          Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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                                                                                          If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

                                                                                          4. Succeed at Something

                                                                                          When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

                                                                                          Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

                                                                                          5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

                                                                                          Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

                                                                                          Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

                                                                                          If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

                                                                                          If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

                                                                                          Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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                                                                                          6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

                                                                                          Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

                                                                                          You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

                                                                                          On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

                                                                                          You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

                                                                                          7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

                                                                                          Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

                                                                                          Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

                                                                                          Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

                                                                                          When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

                                                                                          Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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                                                                                          In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

                                                                                          Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

                                                                                          It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

                                                                                          Final Thoughts

                                                                                          When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

                                                                                          The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

                                                                                          Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

                                                                                          Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

                                                                                          Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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                                                                                          Reference

                                                                                          [1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
                                                                                          [2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
                                                                                          [3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
                                                                                          [4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
                                                                                          [5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
                                                                                          [6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
                                                                                          [7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
                                                                                          [8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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