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44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

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44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

Did you ever lie on bed with depression, thinking “i am full of flaws”, “i hate myself”, or even “I am worthless”?

Self-love is never an easy job. When we did something below expectation, we may sometimes fall into the anxiousness of not being good enough, judging ourselves harshly instead of appreciating ourselves for what we did.

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Here are 44 self love quotes that will inspire you to love yourself and be mentally stronger:

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  1. Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.
    • Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.
      • Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.
        • Be yourself. An original is so much better than a copy.
          • You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
            • Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
              • If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.
                • Stop underestimate yourself.
                  • You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.
                    • You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
                      • You are free, you are powerful, you are good, you are love, you have value, you have a purpose. All is well.
                        • Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.
                          • Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like your love yourself. Love yourself.
                            • Believe in yourself a little more.
                              • You were born to be real, not to be perfect.
                                • One day i woke up and realised I was not made for anyone, I was made for me. I am my own.
                                  • There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let others get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
                                    • You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right here.
                                      • The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.
                                        • No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
                                          • It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
                                            • Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful, without needing someone to tell you.
                                              • Self confidence is the best outfit.
                                                • In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
                                                  • Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.
                                                    • Regardless of how anyone else feels about me, I am going to choose to love myself today.
                                                      • No one is you and that is your power.
                                                        • When I accept myself just as I am, i am freed from the burden of needing you accept me.
                                                          • I am accepting myself unconditionally no matter what.
                                                            • There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
                                                              • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
                                                                • Beauty begins the moment you decided to be yourself.
                                                                  • Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish. It makes you indestructible.
                                                                    • Self love. It doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you.
                                                                      • If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.
                                                                        • Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions.
                                                                          • Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself.
                                                                            • I am not looking to escape my darkness, I’m learning to love myself here.
                                                                              • You’re a work of art. Not everyone will understand you, but the ones who do, will never forget about you.
                                                                                • Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
                                                                                  • To love yourself is to understand you don’t need to be perfect to be good.
                                                                                    • Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
                                                                                      • Loving yourself is the greatest revolution
                                                                                        • A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.

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                                                                                          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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                                                                                          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                                                                                          You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                                                                                          Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                                                                                          Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                                                                                          Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                                                                                          1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                                                                                          According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                                                                                          “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                                                                                          Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                                                                                          Warming up

                                                                                          If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                                                                                          If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                                                                                          Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                                                                                          1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                                                                                          2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                                                                                          3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                                                                                          Stay hydrated

                                                                                          Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                                                                                          To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                                                                                          Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                                                                                          Meditate

                                                                                          Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                                                                                          Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                                                                                          Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                                                                                          Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                                                                                          2. Focus on your goal

                                                                                          One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                                                                                          Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                                                                                          Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                                                                                          Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                                                                                          If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                                                                                          3. Convert negativity to positivity

                                                                                          There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                                                                                          ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                                                                                          It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                                                                                          Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                                                                                          Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                                                                                          Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                                                                                          4. Understand your content

                                                                                          Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                                                                                          However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                                                                                          “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                                                                                          Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                                                                                          Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                                                                                          One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                                                                                          5. Practice makes perfect

                                                                                          Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                                                                                          In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                                                                                          Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                                                                                          6. Be authentic

                                                                                          There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                                                                                          Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                                                                                          Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                                                                                          To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                                                                                          With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                                                                                          Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                                                                                          7. Post speech evaluation

                                                                                          Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                                                                                          Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                                                                                          We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                                                                                          You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                                                                                          Improve your next speech

                                                                                          As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                                                                                          Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                                                                                          • How did I do?
                                                                                          • Are there any areas for improvement?
                                                                                          • Did I sound or look stressed?
                                                                                          • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                                                                                          • Was I saying “um” too often?
                                                                                          • How was the flow of the speech?

                                                                                          Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                                                                                          If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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