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44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

Did you ever lie on bed with depression, thinking “i am full of flaws”, “i hate myself”, or even “I am worthless”?

Self-love is never an easy job. When we did something below expectation, we may sometimes fall into the anxiousness of not being good enough, judging ourselves harshly instead of appreciating ourselves for what we did.

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Here are 44 self love quotes that will inspire you to love yourself and be mentally stronger:

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  1. Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.
    • Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.
      • Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.
        • Be yourself. An original is so much better than a copy.
          • You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
            • Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
              • If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.
                • Stop underestimate yourself.
                  • You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.
                    • You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
                      • You are free, you are powerful, you are good, you are love, you have value, you have a purpose. All is well.
                        • Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.
                          • Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like your love yourself. Love yourself.
                            • Believe in yourself a little more.
                              • You were born to be real, not to be perfect.
                                • One day i woke up and realised I was not made for anyone, I was made for me. I am my own.
                                  • There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let others get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
                                    • You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right here.
                                      • The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.
                                        • No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
                                          • It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
                                            • Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful, without needing someone to tell you.
                                              • Self confidence is the best outfit.
                                                • In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
                                                  • Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.
                                                    • Regardless of how anyone else feels about me, I am going to choose to love myself today.
                                                      • No one is you and that is your power.
                                                        • When I accept myself just as I am, i am freed from the burden of needing you accept me.
                                                          • I am accepting myself unconditionally no matter what.
                                                            • There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
                                                              • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
                                                                • Beauty begins the moment you decided to be yourself.
                                                                  • Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish. It makes you indestructible.
                                                                    • Self love. It doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you.
                                                                      • If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.
                                                                        • Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions.
                                                                          • Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself.
                                                                            • I am not looking to escape my darkness, I’m learning to love myself here.
                                                                              • You’re a work of art. Not everyone will understand you, but the ones who do, will never forget about you.
                                                                                • Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
                                                                                  • To love yourself is to understand you don’t need to be perfect to be good.
                                                                                    • Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
                                                                                      • Loving yourself is the greatest revolution
                                                                                        • A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.

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                                                                                          Published on May 4, 2021

                                                                                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                                                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                                                          They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                                                                                          In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                                                                                          How to Spot Fake People?

                                                                                          When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                                                                                          Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                                                                                          1. Full of Themselves

                                                                                          Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                                                                                          Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                                                                                          2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                                                                                          Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                                                                                          It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                                                                                          3. Zero Self-Reflection

                                                                                          To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                                                                                          Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                                                                                          4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                                                                                          Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                                                                                          A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                                                                                          5. Love Attention

                                                                                          As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                                                                                          6. People Pleaser

                                                                                          Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                                                                                          Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                                                                                          7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                                                                                          Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                                                                                          8. Crappy friend

                                                                                          Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                                                                                          It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                                                                                          The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                                                                                          How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                                                                                          It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                                                                                          There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                                                                                          1. Boundaries

                                                                                          Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                                                                                          2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                                                                                          Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                                                                                          3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                                                                                          If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                                                                                          4. Ask for Advice

                                                                                          If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                                                                                          Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                                                                                          5. Dig Deeper

                                                                                          Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                                                                                          Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                                                                                          6. Practice Self-Care!

                                                                                          Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                                                                                          Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                                                                                          Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                                                                                          Final Thoughts

                                                                                          Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                                                                                          We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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