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Last Updated on December 23, 2019

44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

44 Self Love Quotes That Will Make You Mentally Stronger

Did you ever lie on bed with depression, thinking “i am full of flaws”, “i hate myself”, or even “I am worthless”?

Self-love is never an easy job. When we did something below expectation, we may sometimes fall into the anxiousness of not being good enough, judging ourselves harshly instead of appreciating ourselves for what we did.

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Here are 44 self love quotes that will inspire you to love yourself and be mentally stronger:

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  1. Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.
    • Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.
      • Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.
        • Be yourself. An original is so much better than a copy.
          • You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
            • Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
              • If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.
                • Stop underestimate yourself.
                  • You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.
                    • You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
                      • You are free, you are powerful, you are good, you are love, you have value, you have a purpose. All is well.
                        • Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.
                          • Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like your love yourself. Love yourself.
                            • Believe in yourself a little more.
                              • You were born to be real, not to be perfect.
                                • One day i woke up and realised I was not made for anyone, I was made for me. I am my own.
                                  • There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let others get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
                                    • You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right here.
                                      • The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.
                                        • No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
                                          • It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
                                            • Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful, without needing someone to tell you.
                                              • Self confidence is the best outfit.
                                                • In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
                                                  • Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.
                                                    • Regardless of how anyone else feels about me, I am going to choose to love myself today.
                                                      • No one is you and that is your power.
                                                        • When I accept myself just as I am, i am freed from the burden of needing you accept me.
                                                          • I am accepting myself unconditionally no matter what.
                                                            • There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
                                                              • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
                                                                • Beauty begins the moment you decided to be yourself.
                                                                  • Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish. It makes you indestructible.
                                                                    • Self love. It doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you.
                                                                      • If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.
                                                                        • Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions.
                                                                          • Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself.
                                                                            • I am not looking to escape my darkness, I’m learning to love myself here.
                                                                              • You’re a work of art. Not everyone will understand you, but the ones who do, will never forget about you.
                                                                                • Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
                                                                                  • To love yourself is to understand you don’t need to be perfect to be good.
                                                                                    • Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
                                                                                      • Loving yourself is the greatest revolution
                                                                                        • A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.

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                                                                                          13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                                                                                          13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                                                                                          For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                                                                                          “We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

                                                                                          “It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

                                                                                          Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

                                                                                          You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

                                                                                          Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

                                                                                          1. Take a step back and evaluate

                                                                                          When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

                                                                                          1. What is the problem?
                                                                                          2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
                                                                                          3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
                                                                                          4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
                                                                                          5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

                                                                                          Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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                                                                                          2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

                                                                                          If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

                                                                                          At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

                                                                                          Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

                                                                                          3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

                                                                                          Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

                                                                                          4. Process your thoughts/emotions

                                                                                          Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

                                                                                          1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
                                                                                          2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
                                                                                          3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
                                                                                          4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

                                                                                          5. Acknowledge your thoughts

                                                                                          Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

                                                                                          By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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                                                                                          Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

                                                                                          6. Give yourself a break

                                                                                          If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

                                                                                          7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

                                                                                          A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

                                                                                          Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

                                                                                          After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

                                                                                          8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

                                                                                          As Helen Keller once said,

                                                                                          “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

                                                                                          Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

                                                                                          9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

                                                                                          In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

                                                                                          1. What’s the situation?
                                                                                          2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
                                                                                          3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
                                                                                          4. Take action on your next steps!

                                                                                          After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

                                                                                          10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

                                                                                          A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

                                                                                          Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

                                                                                          For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

                                                                                          11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

                                                                                          No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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                                                                                          12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

                                                                                          No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

                                                                                          13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

                                                                                          There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

                                                                                          After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

                                                                                          Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

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