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Others May Doubt You, But You Always Have To Believe In Yourself

Others May Doubt You, But You Always Have To Believe In Yourself

You have a clear vision of what your dream job is and what you want to do in your life. You feel exhilarated and you are looking forward to getting up every day and going to work knowing it will be a joyful experience. But you get a slap in the face when your parents, your close family, and everyone who deems themselves as more experienced than you start questioning your choices and doubting your abilities. They will try to persuade you to give up on silly dreams and find a “real life” job that will put food on the table. Nobody can live off their dreams, right?

Don’t let anyone convince you that you can’t be happy with the choices you make.

It’s a very common situation for our parents, and other people from the older generations, to doubt our choices when it comes to important decisions in life. They feel they know more since they’ve been here longer than we have. And they feel it’s their right to question our choices and to lead us to what they think is the right path.

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When loved ones don’t show us support in realizing our dreams, we can get depressed and start questioning what is right. “It’s really foolish of me thinking that I can be well off doing that job,” you might start thinking. Never let anyone instill a seed of doubt into your mind – we are all different, and nobody knows what’s best for you except yourself. You should be very aware of what you can achieve and confident in moving towards that goal. Don’t be afraid of failure, it can be the source of the most valuable lessons we get in life. When that happens, look on the bright side and just ignore comments like “We told you so.”

We are all good at something, you just need to find the passion that drives you

Sometimes family and loved ones think they know what career choices are the best for us and they want to impose their opinions on us. They have the best intentions, but when we disagree with their suggestions, they immediately express a fear that we won’t do well in life.

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The reality is if you take their advice, you’ll end up miserable. Success comes because you feel passionate about what you do. That is the key – you need to find something you feel passionate about and keep going forward even if it seems you are going against the world. Your passion will motivate you, and you will be able to shut down all those voices telling you that you’re wrong. You shouldn’t worry about what people around you will think about your career choice. If it makes you happy, that’s all that matters. And that’s all it takes to become good at something.

Believe in yourself. What people say to you speaks more about them than you

If someone keeps criticizing you, you should stop for a moment and consider what it really means. It doesn’t have anything to do with you – it has to do with their own fears and insecurities. Maybe they wanted something different in life but they were too afraid to see it through and now they see you on your way to pursuing happiness. They want to bring you back to earth desperately either because they think you’ll suffer like them if you fail to realize your dreams or because they are jealous since you have the courage to do something they couldn’t. Either way, just be aware that it doesn’t say anything about you and don’t let it affect your confidence.

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Shutting the voices around you, and the voices inside your head, that tell you “you are not good enough” is the key to happiness and success. You are worth it and you can do it. Embrace all the ups and downs as the part of your journey, believe in yourself, and never let anyone get into your head to drive you away from your path.

Featured photo credit: Tim Marshall via unsplash.com

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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