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Focus On Yourself, Because Most Of The Time No One Really Cares

Focus On Yourself, Because Most Of The Time No One Really Cares

Do You Waste Time Waiting For People To Really Care?

We’ve all been there. You’ve just made a huge step forward in your life or achieved a vital goal, and want to tell everyone you know. You’re bursting with pride and happiness and want to spread the joy. But have you ever stopped to listen to that little voice in your head that wonders whether or not the recipients of your great news really care? Sure, they might be listening to the words coming out of your mouth. They may even ask you questions. But at the end of the day, do they really care about you and your life?

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The Harsh Reality That Will Set You Free

Humans are a curious species in every sense of the world. They do strange things, and they are intrigued by the lives of others. This can lull you into a false sense of security and make you believe that they truly care for you and would be willing to help you out in times of need. In reality, most people do not really care for your well-being on a deep and meaningful level. When they take an interest in your engagement, for example, they may well be interested in the color scheme you’ll choose for your wedding or where the proposal took place. However, most people are not going to be around to lend you emotional support when you start arguing with your spouse or feel overwhelmed by the prospect of spending every Christmas from now until eternity with your in-laws.

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Why You Need To Focus On Making Yourself Happy

Once you realize that most people keep their interactions on a fairly superficial level, you realize that self-reliance and the ability to make yourself happy is one of the most important skills you can develop. Aside from a few close friends and relatives, the majority of people you meet will simply not be around to lend you a listening ear when you get fired or are made redundant, even if they were excited when you landed that job in the first place.

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You need to learn how to value your own talents and achievements because no one will ever care about your life nearly as much as you. When you are faced with a decision in life and are considering your next steps, listen to your intuition and act in accordance with your deepest desires. When you live a life truly on your own terms, you will be able to enjoy sharing good news secure in the knowledge that despite the fact no one much cares, you are achieving your own goals and fulfilling your unique vision of what a good life looks like.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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