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13 Reasons Why You Can’t Just Give Up

13 Reasons Why You Can’t Just Give Up

Have you thought of giving up? If it was as easy as you thought, then everyone should be doing it. You can’t give up yet, I bet you will change your mind after learning this tips.

You can’t give up because you think it is not easy

Because it’s difficult, is not enough reason to give up. You won’t know what you can achieve if you have predetermined failure. It’s easier going down the mountain than climbing up, but the view at the top is more beautiful than when you are at the mountain foot. If the destination is beautiful, don’t worry about the journey.

You can’t give up what you love

If ever you give up, then you never really fell in love with what you did. The best form of a fulfilled life is dying for what you love and believe in.

You can’t give up because no one believes what you do

it’s true anyone can give up. It is indeed one of the most easiest thing there is to do. You can’t give up because, no one believes in what you do. The person who should have the utmost believe in what you do, is yourself. If you haven’t done anything that people say you are crazy, you are yet to do something amazing.

Every new idea to the world is always impossible but this is the truth “impossible is something nobody have done until someone does it and  “that person might be you”. Isn’t it amazing today how everyone uses their phone or electronic gadgets to send and receive information?

Do you know “the first man who thought of sending a message without concrete objects like paper and pen was bounded and taken to a psychiatric home ?” His friends thought he was crazy and he needed medical attention but he was perfectly OK. He was just in the realm of “infinite intelligence”.

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You can’t give up because no one believes in you.

The greatest person on earth is you. It doesn’t matter where you come from or where you have been. The person to win the greatest prizes is you. The person to do the greatest works is you.  The person to go the highest places is you.

Being yourself in a world, that is trying endlessly to make everyone into what it chooses, is the greatest strength. Believing in yourself is more than the whole world believing in you. Keep this in mind that, “nature sets a natural test for everyone, who wishes to be great and only few pas this test”.

You must be wondering what this test could be! (Self-doubt and critics from those around you). If you can overcome this, the world is yours. It might be only one person who believes in you, it is ok if that person is you.

You can’t give up because things are going wrong

Whatever happens to you only breaks the old you and build the new you. It’s your choice to stay down when things go wrong and never allow what happens to you, keep you down. See every situation as a chance to become what you have always intended to be, don’t let it get you bitter but better.

Humans fall and what matters is if they rise after falling. Falling on its own isn’t wrong, but refusing to rise up after falling is.Humans fall and rise and what matters is how you rose.

Falling isn’t on its own bad, but how you rise is what matters. Don’t rise and remain the same person, but rise up a different and better person.

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You can’t give up because you fear failure

The fear of failure shouldn’t get you down rather, let the joy of success inspire you. The world at anytime never celebrate failures but achievements. A man who never failed once definitely never tried anything new yet.

The world will never celebrate your failures but your success. Nature sets it, that the world soon forget your million mistakes but remembers only your achievements. what makes great men is this ; “They do what no one else have done”.

You can’t give up because you don’t have power

You may have intended doing something and just realized you need power or authority before things can be done. You have said to yourself that the voices of the weak are never heard. Well, this is just a lie, the liar in you is saying to you. “power doesn’t give you great things but great things gives you power”.

Power doesn’t mean being in control, but it means pointing the way. There are many unsung heroes, history may not remember them but they bled and died that we might be free.

America is built on a solid foundation, (The blood and bones of our unsung heroes). If you must have power, the quest for it doesn’t make you have it but the quest for great works gives you power.

You can’t give up because your desires are not met

You can’t give up on your desires. Desires cause people to drown and you know what desires these are, ‘wrong desire of material and power’. True desire, is desire for great works and never let this wrong desire bring you down.

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You can’t give up because someone gave you a prophecy about a bad destiny

Often, you hear people say it won’t just work for me and someone told me I wasn’t meant for this. Destiny is never something that actually happens to you as you are told ; destiny is what you make out by overcoming all difficulties and moving forward.

If you ever lost the power of moving forward, then you are doomed and that’s your destiny. We shape our destiny, our destiny doesn’t shape us.

You can’t give up because you loss

Winners are losers who never gave up. The more material things you lose, the more less of material things you have and the less material things you have the more desire to win.

Losing is not an excuse for giving up. You must lose something to gain something in return, either in material things or in your effort. If you are not willing to lose something then you will lose everything.

This you must know, there is nothing like “something for nothing”. Every great achievement comes with a price and if you are not ready to pay this price, your chances of winning are slim.

You can’t give up because it is taking too long

Have you ever wondered why the darkest hour of the night is a signal that dawn is approaching? That very time you want to give up, is when you are close to the end. This is a test set by nature to prove those who are determined.

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When this liar inside you speaks out that you can’t just do this anymore, reply and say ‘I HAVE COME TOO FAR TO GO BACK’. You can always quit so why quit now?

You can’t give up because there is a possibility you will fail

Did anyone ever say you won’t fail? Well let me tell you this now, you will fail a thousand times, until you know to how to do it right. Did anyone ever say you won’t win? Here this again that you will win, once you do it right.

There is possibility of losing or winning and it’s your choice whichever happens. If you believe in the possibilities of winning then you will win. You don’t fall because you failed, you fail because you fall and there is a possibility of rising up again. just one success is worth a million falling.

You can’t give up because things seem unclear

Some situations put us on mental test. Most times when things are clumsy or not clear, you shouldn’t hate them. These are times you should make good use of your mental power and never to give up.

Just never give up!

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Last Updated on July 17, 2019

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

What happens in our heads when we set goals?

Apparently a lot more than you’d think.

Goal setting isn’t quite so simple as deciding on the things you’d like to accomplish and working towards them.

According to the research of psychologists, neurologists, and other scientists, setting a goal invests ourselves into the target as if we’d already accomplished it. That is, by setting something as a goal, however small or large, however near or far in the future, a part of our brain believes that desired outcome is an essential part of who we are – setting up the conditions that drive us to work towards the goals to fulfill the brain’s self-image.

Apparently, the brain cannot distinguish between things we want and things we have. Neurologically, then, our brains treat the failure to achieve our goal the same way as it treats the loss of a valued possession. And up until the moment, the goal is achieved, we have failed to achieve it, setting up a constant tension that the brain seeks to resolve.

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Ideally, this tension is resolved by driving us towards accomplishment. In many cases, though, the brain simply responds to the loss, causing us to feel fear, anxiety, even anguish, depending on the value of the as-yet-unattained goal.

Love, Loss, Dopamine, and Our Dreams

The brains functions are carried out by a stew of chemicals called neurotransmitters. You’ve probably heard of serotonin, which plays a key role in our emotional life – most of the effective anti-depressant medications on the market are serotonin reuptake inhibitors, meaning they regulate serotonin levels in the brain leading to more stable moods.

Somewhat less well-known is another neurotransmitter, dopamine. Among other things, dopamine acts as a motivator, creating a sensation of pleasure when the brain is stimulated by achievement. Dopamine is also involved in maintaining attention – some forms of ADHD are linked to irregular responses to dopamine.[1]

So dopamine plays a key role in keeping us focused on our goals and motivating us to attain them, rewarding our attention and achievement by elevating our mood. That is, we feel good when we work towards our goals.

Dopamine is related to wanting – to desire. The attainment of the object of our desire releases dopamine into our brains and we feel good. Conversely, the frustration of our desires starves us of dopamine, causing anxiety and fear.

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One of the greatest desires is romantic love – the long-lasting, “till death do us part” kind. It’s no surprise, then, that romantic love is sustained, at least in part, through the constant flow of dopamine released in the presence – real or imagined – of our true love. Loss of romantic love cuts off that supply of dopamine, which is why it feels like you’re dying – your brain responds by triggering all sorts of anxiety-related responses.

Herein lies obsession, as we go to ever-increasing lengths in search of that dopamine reward. Stalking specialists warn against any kind of contact with a stalker, positive or negative, because any response at all triggers that reward mechanism. If you let the phone ring 50 times and finally pick up on the 51st ring to tell your stalker off, your stalker gets his or her reward, and learns that all s/he has to do is wait for the phone to ring 51 times.

Romantic love isn’t the only kind of desire that can create this kind of dopamine addiction, though – as Captain Ahab (from Moby Dick) knew well, any suitably important goal can become an obsession once the mind has established ownership.

The Neurology of Ownership

Ownership turns out to be about a lot more than just legal rights. When we own something, we invest a part of ourselves into it – it becomes an extension of ourselves.

In a famous experiment at Cornell University, researchers gave students school logo coffee mugs, and then offered to trade them chocolate bars for the mugs. Very few were willing to make the trade, no matter how much they professed to like chocolate. Big deal, right? Maybe they just really liked those mugs![2]

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But when they reversed the experiment, handing out chocolate and then offering to trade mugs for the candy, they found that now, few students were all that interested in the mugs. Apparently the key thing about the mugs or the chocolate wasn’t whether students valued whatever they had in their possession, but simply that they had it in their possession.

This phenomenon is called the “endowment effect”. In a nutshell, the endowment effect occurs when we take ownership of an object (or idea, or person); in becoming “ours” it becomes integrated with our sense of identity, making us reluctant to part with it (losing it is seen as a loss, which triggers that dopamine shut-off I discussed above).

Interestingly, researchers have found that the endowment effect doesn’t require actual ownership or even possession to come into play. In fact, it’s enough to have a reasonable expectation of future possession for us to start thinking of something as a part of us – as jilted lovers, gambling losers, and 7-year olds denied a toy at the store have all experienced.

The Upshot for Goal-Setters

So what does all this mean for would-be achievers?

On one hand, it’s a warning against setting unreasonable goals. The bigger the potential for positive growth a goal has, the more anxiety and stress your brain is going to create around it’s non-achievement.

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It also suggests that the common wisdom to limit your goals to a small number of reasonable, attainable objectives is good advice. The more goals you have, the more ends your brain thinks it “owns” and therefore the more grief and fear the absence of those ends is going to cause you.

On a more positive note, the fact that the brain rewards our attentiveness by releasing dopamine means that our brain is working with us to direct us to achievement. Paying attention to your goals feels good, encouraging us to spend more time doing it. This may be why outcome visualization — a favorite technique of self-help gurus involving imagining yourself having completed your objectives — has such a poor track record in clinical studies. It effectively tricks our brain into rewarding us for achieving our goals even though we haven’t done it yet!

But ultimately, our brain wants us to achieve our goals, so that it’s a sense of who we are that can be fulfilled. And that’s pretty good news!

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