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13 Reasons Why You Can’t Just Give Up

13 Reasons Why You Can’t Just Give Up

Have you thought of giving up? If it was as easy as you thought, then everyone should be doing it. You can’t give up yet, I bet you will change your mind after learning this tips.

You can’t give up because you think it is not easy

Because it’s difficult, is not enough reason to give up. You won’t know what you can achieve if you have predetermined failure. It’s easier going down the mountain than climbing up, but the view at the top is more beautiful than when you are at the mountain foot. If the destination is beautiful, don’t worry about the journey.

You can’t give up what you love

If ever you give up, then you never really fell in love with what you did. The best form of a fulfilled life is dying for what you love and believe in.

You can’t give up because no one believes what you do

it’s true anyone can give up. It is indeed one of the most easiest thing there is to do. You can’t give up because, no one believes in what you do. The person who should have the utmost believe in what you do, is yourself. If you haven’t done anything that people say you are crazy, you are yet to do something amazing.

Every new idea to the world is always impossible but this is the truth “impossible is something nobody have done until someone does it and  “that person might be you”. Isn’t it amazing today how everyone uses their phone or electronic gadgets to send and receive information?

Do you know “the first man who thought of sending a message without concrete objects like paper and pen was bounded and taken to a psychiatric home ?” His friends thought he was crazy and he needed medical attention but he was perfectly OK. He was just in the realm of “infinite intelligence”.

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You can’t give up because no one believes in you.

The greatest person on earth is you. It doesn’t matter where you come from or where you have been. The person to win the greatest prizes is you. The person to do the greatest works is you.  The person to go the highest places is you.

Being yourself in a world, that is trying endlessly to make everyone into what it chooses, is the greatest strength. Believing in yourself is more than the whole world believing in you. Keep this in mind that, “nature sets a natural test for everyone, who wishes to be great and only few pas this test”.

You must be wondering what this test could be! (Self-doubt and critics from those around you). If you can overcome this, the world is yours. It might be only one person who believes in you, it is ok if that person is you.

You can’t give up because things are going wrong

Whatever happens to you only breaks the old you and build the new you. It’s your choice to stay down when things go wrong and never allow what happens to you, keep you down. See every situation as a chance to become what you have always intended to be, don’t let it get you bitter but better.

Humans fall and what matters is if they rise after falling. Falling on its own isn’t wrong, but refusing to rise up after falling is.Humans fall and rise and what matters is how you rose.

Falling isn’t on its own bad, but how you rise is what matters. Don’t rise and remain the same person, but rise up a different and better person.

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You can’t give up because you fear failure

The fear of failure shouldn’t get you down rather, let the joy of success inspire you. The world at anytime never celebrate failures but achievements. A man who never failed once definitely never tried anything new yet.

The world will never celebrate your failures but your success. Nature sets it, that the world soon forget your million mistakes but remembers only your achievements. what makes great men is this ; “They do what no one else have done”.

You can’t give up because you don’t have power

You may have intended doing something and just realized you need power or authority before things can be done. You have said to yourself that the voices of the weak are never heard. Well, this is just a lie, the liar in you is saying to you. “power doesn’t give you great things but great things gives you power”.

Power doesn’t mean being in control, but it means pointing the way. There are many unsung heroes, history may not remember them but they bled and died that we might be free.

America is built on a solid foundation, (The blood and bones of our unsung heroes). If you must have power, the quest for it doesn’t make you have it but the quest for great works gives you power.

You can’t give up because your desires are not met

You can’t give up on your desires. Desires cause people to drown and you know what desires these are, ‘wrong desire of material and power’. True desire, is desire for great works and never let this wrong desire bring you down.

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You can’t give up because someone gave you a prophecy about a bad destiny

Often, you hear people say it won’t just work for me and someone told me I wasn’t meant for this. Destiny is never something that actually happens to you as you are told ; destiny is what you make out by overcoming all difficulties and moving forward.

If you ever lost the power of moving forward, then you are doomed and that’s your destiny. We shape our destiny, our destiny doesn’t shape us.

You can’t give up because you loss

Winners are losers who never gave up. The more material things you lose, the more less of material things you have and the less material things you have the more desire to win.

Losing is not an excuse for giving up. You must lose something to gain something in return, either in material things or in your effort. If you are not willing to lose something then you will lose everything.

This you must know, there is nothing like “something for nothing”. Every great achievement comes with a price and if you are not ready to pay this price, your chances of winning are slim.

You can’t give up because it is taking too long

Have you ever wondered why the darkest hour of the night is a signal that dawn is approaching? That very time you want to give up, is when you are close to the end. This is a test set by nature to prove those who are determined.

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When this liar inside you speaks out that you can’t just do this anymore, reply and say ‘I HAVE COME TOO FAR TO GO BACK’. You can always quit so why quit now?

You can’t give up because there is a possibility you will fail

Did anyone ever say you won’t fail? Well let me tell you this now, you will fail a thousand times, until you know to how to do it right. Did anyone ever say you won’t win? Here this again that you will win, once you do it right.

There is possibility of losing or winning and it’s your choice whichever happens. If you believe in the possibilities of winning then you will win. You don’t fall because you failed, you fail because you fall and there is a possibility of rising up again. just one success is worth a million falling.

You can’t give up because things seem unclear

Some situations put us on mental test. Most times when things are clumsy or not clear, you shouldn’t hate them. These are times you should make good use of your mental power and never to give up.

Just never give up!

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Last Updated on March 21, 2019

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

Most gurus talk about habits in a way that doesn’t help you:

You need to push yourself more. You can’t be lazy. You need to wake up at 5 am. You need more motivation. You can never fail…blah blah “insert more gibberish here.”

But let me share with you the unconventional truths I found out:

To build and change habits, you don’t need motivation or wake up at 5 am. Heck, you can fail multiple times, be lazy, have no motivation and still pull it off with ease.

It’s quite simple and easy to do, especially with the following list I’m going to show to you. But remember, Jim Rohn used to say,

“What is simple and easy to do is also simple and easy not to do.”

The important things to remember when changing your habits are both simple and easy, just don’t think that they don’t make any difference because they do.

In fact, they are the only things that make a difference.

Let’s see what those small things are, shall we?

1. Start Small

The biggest mistake I see people doing with habits is by going big. You don’t go big…ever. You start small with your habits.

Want to grow a book reading habit? Don’t start reading a book a day. Start with 10 pages a day.

Want to become a writer? Don’t start writing 10,000 words a day. Start with 300 words.

Want to lose weight? Don’t stop eating ice cream. Eat one less ball of it.

Whatever it is, you need to start small. Starting big always leads to failure. It has to, because it’s not sustainable.

Start small. How small? The amount needs to be in your comfort zone. So if you think that reading 20 pages of a book is a bit too much, start with 10 or 5.

It needs to appear easy and be easy to do.

Do less today to do more in a year.

2. Stay Small

There is a notion of Kaizen which means continuous improvement. They use this notion in habits where they tell you to start with reading 1 page of a book a day and then gradually increase the amount you do over time.

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But the problem with this approach is the end line — where the “improvement” stops.

If I go from reading 1 page of a book a day and gradually reach 75 and 100, when do I stop? When I reach 1 book a day? That is just absurd.

When you start a habit, stay at it in the intensity you have decided. Don’t push yourself for more.

I started reading 20 pages of a book a day. It’s been more than 2 years now and I’ve read 101 books in that period. There is no way I will increase the number in the future.

Why?

Because reading 40 to 50 books a year is enough.

The same thing applies to every other habit out there.

Pick a (small) number and stay at it.

3. Bad Days Are 100 Percent Occurrence

No matter how great you are, you will have bad days where you won’t do your habit. Period.

There is no way of going around this. So it’s better to prepare yourself for when that happens instead of thinking that it won’t ever happen.

What I do when I miss a day of my habit(s) is that I try to bounce back the next day while trying to do habits for both of those days.

Example for that is if I read 20 pages of a book a day and I miss a day, the next day I will have to read 40 pages of a book. If I miss writing 500 words, the next day I need to write 1000.

This is a really important point we will discuss later on rewards and punishments.

This is how I prepare for the bad days when I skip my habit(s) and it’s a model you should take as well.

4. Those Who Track It, Hack It

When you track an activity, you can objectively tell what you did in the past days, weeks, months, and years. If you don’t track, you will for sure forget everything you did.

There are many different ways you can track your activities today, from Habitica to a simple Excel sheet that I use, to even a Whatsapp Tracker.

Peter Drucker said,

“What you track is what you do.”

So track it to do it — it really helps.

But tracking is accompanied by one more easy activity — measuring.

5. Measure Once, Do Twice

Peter Drucker also said,

“What you measure is what you improve.”

So alongside my tracker, I have numbers with which I measure doses of daily activities:

For reading, it’s 20 pages.
For writing, it’s 500 words.
For the gym, it’s 1 (I went) or 0 (didn’t go).
For budgeting, it’s writing down the incomes and expenses.

Tracking and measuring go hand in hand, they take less than 20 seconds a day but they create so much momentum that it’s unbelievable.

6. All Days Make a Difference

Will one day in the gym make you fit? It won’t.

Will two? They won’t.

Will three? They won’t.

Which means that a single gym session won’t make you fit. But after 100 gym sessions, you will look and feel fit.

What happened? Which one made you fit?

The answer to this (Sorites paradox)[1] is that no single gym session made you fit, they all did.

No single day makes a difference, but when combined, they all do. So trust the process and keep on going (small).

7. They Are Never Fully Automated

Gurus tell you that habits become automatic. And yes, some of them do, like showering a certain way of brushing your teeth.

But some habits don’t become automatic, they become a lifestyle.

What I mean by that is that you won’t automatically “wake up” in the gym and wonder how you got there.

It will just become a part of your lifestyle.

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The difference is that you do the first one automatically, without conscious thought, while the other is a part of how you live your life.

It’s not automatic, but it’s a decision you don’t ponder on or think about — you simply do it.

It will become easy at a certain point, but they will never become fully automated.

8. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

Marshall Goldsmith has a great book with the same title to it. The phrase means that sometimes, you will need to ditch certain habits to make room for other ones which will bring you to the next step.

Don’t be afraid to evolve your habits when you sense that they don’t bring you where you want to go.

When I started reading, it was about reading business and tactic books. But two years into it, I switched to philosophy books which don’t teach me anything “applicable,” but instead teach me how to think.

The most important ability of the 21st century is the ability to learn, unlearn, and relearn. The strongest tree is the willow tree – not because it has the strongest root or biggest trunk, but because it is flexible enough to endure and sustain anything.

Be like a willow, adapting to the new ways of doing things.

9. Set a Goal and Then Forget It

The most successful of us know what they want to achieve, but they don’t focus on it.

Sounds paradoxical? You’re right, it does. But here is the logic behind it.

You need to have a goal of doing something – “I want to become a healthy individual” – and then, you need to reverse engineer how to get there with your habits- “I will go to the gym four times a week.”

But once you have your goal, you need to “forget” about it and only focus on the process. Because you are working on the process of becoming healthy and it’s always in the making. You will only be as healthy as you take care of your body.

So you have a goal which isn’t static but keeps on moving.

If you went to the gym 150 times year and you hit your goal, what would you do then? You would stop going to the gym.

This is why goal-oriented people experience yo-yo effect[2] and why process-oriented people don’t.

The difference between process-oriented and goal-oriented people is that the first focus on daily actions while others only focus on the reward at the finish line.

Set a goal but then forget about it and reap massive awards.

10. Punish Yourself

Last two sections are pure Pavlovian – you need to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. You are the only person who decides what is good and what is bad for you, but when you do, you need to rigorously follow that.

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I’ve told you in point #3 about bad days and how after one occurs, I do double the work on the next day. That is one of my forms of punishments.

It’s the need to tell your brain that certain behaviors are unacceptable and that they lead to bad outcomes. That’s what punishments are for.

You want to tell your brain that there are real consequences to missing your daily habits.[3]

No favorite food to eat or favorite show to watch or going to the cinema for a new Marvel movie- none, zero, zilch.

The brain will remember these bad feelings and will try to avoid the behaviors that led to them as much as possible.

But don’t forget the other side of the same coin.

11. Reward Yourself

When you follow and execute on your plan, reward yourself. It’s how the brain knows that you did something good.

Whenever I finish one of my habits for the day, I open my tracker (who am I kidding, I always keep it open on my desktop) and fill it with a number. As soon as I finish reading 20 pages of a book a day (or a bit more), I open the tracker and write the number down.

The cell becomes green and gives me an instant boost of endorphin – a great success for the day. Then, it becomes all about not breaking the chain and having as many green fields as possible.

After 100 days, I crunch some numbers and see how I did.

If I have less than 10 cheat days, I reward myself with a great meal in a restaurant. You can create your own rewards and they can be daily, weekly, monthly or any arbitrary time table that you create.

Primoz Bozic, a productivity coach, has gold, silver, and bronze medals as his reward system.[4]

If you’re having problems creating a system which works for you, contact me via email and we can discuss specifics.

In the End, It Matters

What you do matters not only to you but to the people around you.

When you increase the quality of your life, you indirectly increase the quality of life of people around you. And sometimes, that is all the “motivation” we need to start.

And that’s the best quote for the end of this article:

“Motivation gets you started, but habits keep you going.”

Keep going.

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Reference

[1] Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Sorites paradox
[2] Muscle Zone: What causes yo-yo effect and how to avoid it?
[3] Growth Habits: 5 Missteps That Cause You To Quit Building A Habit
[4] Primoz Bozic: The Lean Review: How to Plan Your 2019 in 20 Minutes

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